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[SirSugar]

This rumbles on and on, so far have done the following;

asked nicely
got cross
written letters
telephoned
offered to get them a cat (they don't want one)
kept cat indoors, except for 15 mins in morning

but they are STILL feeding mine who is greedy and if I'm not on the ball during his 15 min morning run will be let into their house and not let out until I telephone to ask them to let him out.

Apparently, they used to keep a cat and for sentimental reasons they keep his bowls and 'put a little food down' which my cat nibbles on YET they have done everything they reasonably can NOT to feed my cat

[now absolutely fucking furious emoticon]

I can't believe I missed this thread the first time round!
Something very similar happened to me, minus the locking-in, plus them calling the RSPCA on me. Very similar WRT husband talking (shouting) AT me until I slammed the door in his face. It's very very sad because they (well, the wife anyway) were friends, and I just cannot understand what would have led them to behave like that.

It turned out to be a good thing, though, that they called the RSPCA - the officer came round, was totally on my side, and confirmed my belief that they were being utter twunts. Haven't heard a peep out of them since.

So, have you followed up your call to the RSPCA, SirSugar? Will an officer come out and give them a talking to? They could also give you some more detailed advice on how to proceed legally, perhaps?

They came back at 6.30 and let out cat. He was sitting in car so I went over and said can I talk to you which he ignored. eventually he started to waffle on about how he had absolutely nothing to say to me as I had insulted his race (they're Asian, same as my late husband, I don't do comments regarding peoples origins ), his hair ( confess I did say his bad wig was probably his poor dead cat; in fit of rage with his utter unreasonableness ).

I said that all I wanted to discuss was the cat being locked in his house all afternoon, he told me I was talking nonsense and got out of car and walked to his house. I told him I had now left it in hands of police and he remarked that my harassment would be taken to police.

I hope he does.

I wrote long another long winded letter re cat, for my benefit not his as it details the ridiculous situation ended it with DO NOT LET MY CAT INTO YOUR HOUSE and DO NOT FEED MY CAT - then posted it.

I now have copies of five reasonable DO NOT letters from me and three crazy rambling WE LOVE THE CAT letters from his wife with details of her extensive education in all of them - and a friendly, here is something I made earlier note that came with the weird food delivery.

I rest my case

Will follow up SNT in a day or two and

Complete nutters.

Years ago when we first moved here the wife sent us a christmas card. We have a very unusual asian surname and I think she must have asked the postie what it was then sent us a card addressed to; Mr & Mrs Nesquik.

I do feel sorry for her, He is a real nasty piece of work, he should do the decent thing and get her a cat to keep her company

You obviously care a lot about your cat. I love my cats too. It's a pity really because you could have had the cat infected with rabies, posted it through their door, barricaded them in, then let nature take its course. That's not nice of course, but I can see that it would be tempting.

You need to get the police to take notice. They're harassing you something rotten and DC promised harassment would be taken seriously. Your poor kitty.

Only just seen this.
Know its not funny for you, but this thread has made me giggle :)
I'm loving the junk mail idea, or maybe sign them up for a few 'no obligation' sales visits ;)
Maybe YouTube is the answer - seemed to work when that woman put that cat in a wheelie bin! All of us on MN could spread it around for you. Wonder if we could make it onto the news?

Oh dear, I stole adopted my cat from neighbours. They did say I could keep her, though! All their pets die. Unlucky

I am seriously not understanding why you don't just let them feed her - but it's escalated so much now, you couldn't just do an about-turn! He'd think he'd won

I'm worried about the wife. Hope you manage to get an appropriate authority to look into it.

How about inviting wifey over for Cat Breakfast? In the garden, perhaps, to avoid any risk of her barricading herself into the cupboard under your stairs

Why don't you just keep your cat in your own house? Or is that too obvious?

She does, Midnite, but it started showing stress symptoms (pulling out fur.) Needs its morning run.

Garlicbutter, she doesn't want the neighbour feeding her cat because it's HER cat. Simple and reasonable.

I haven't posted on this thread before but have been following it. Since when is it ok to feed someone else's cat and let it into your house? We had neighbours a while back who tried to do it with one of our cats, she then went missing for several days and I was rather annoyed and my kids were very upset and worried. I took my then 3 yr old round to ask if they'd seen our cat as the children were upset. They still said no (despite me earlier having seen the cat through their window) but she did miraculously come back :-).

I just don't get how anyone could think it's ok to try and lure somebody's family pet away??

OP, I really feel for you as I've been watching with interest and hoping you get it sorted.

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I really don't think that you are ever going to be able to change their behaviour and I doubt that there is anything local police etc can do to help.

So as the cat needs some outdoor time, I think your only solution would be to build an outdoor pen for the cat so he can get some fresh air, grass etc. There is a house near me which has a large cat run in their garden (they were so sweet and helpful when one of my cats went missing) because they can't bear the thought of a cat being run over or disappearing. The cats do get used to it and you wouldn't have the stress anymore.

I don't want them feeding it because its getting fat, because cats teeth rot if they get too much wet food, because I have fed it in the evening before and its then vommed up my food and additional food (multi coloured vom) all over the house as it cannot handle too much at once but doesn't know when to stop eating ( I cannot leave bread cakes or biscuits out as it will eat those - tis a greedy cat ) and because its our cat.

Would rather not confine it to a cat run.

Maybe will wait until he's off at work then deliver a kitten to her. I know she would love it. I would bet money that he has put her in her current mental state. When you try to talk to him he changes the subject, is condescending and refuses to admit any wrongdoing and keeps saying 'no no no you must listen to me' in a slimy hushed tone; it drives me nuts. He has also said ' do you realise who I am' then gone on about his position in society. I admit I have called him a fucking idiot to his face. DP, who is very reasonable got so wound up by him that he almost lost it.

Although the wife shouts obscenities occasionally and sticks fingers up she is not nasty IYSWIM. Shes just lonely and he is the one that said they are 'too old for cats' the mean bastard I'm certain she would love one

I'm sorry, but he cat is now becoming Ill. Nows the time to be building a cat run. They aren't going to stop. You need to end this before the cat ends up in the vet!

Please don't give them a kitten! She (or both of them) may well genuinely love cats, but from all you've said I wouldn't trust them to look after one properly. To be blunt, I think you giving them a cat would be hugely irresponsible.

They are clearly nutters. Well done for staying largely reasonable (and I LOVE that you told him his toupee was his dead cat ) and for keeping records of all your exchanges with them. Keep on at the police and the RSPCA. Good luck!

"I did say his bad wig was probably his poor dead cat"

I'm so glad you didn't eat the food they gave you

Update; very nice policeman called last night regarding my complaint a week ago last sunday. He took down all details and decided that although he could call on the neighbours himself he feels it will be much more effective if he involves his sergent as well.

They will pay a visit to neighbours and tell them they must not feed cat or let it in and keep it in, it is an offence ( helps that cat is pedigree and microchipped ) .Should they then continue, it can be taken further. The police will update me when they have made the visit.

Yesterday the woman was throwing food out for cat and calling him.

This feels like progress

That's really good, hope they put the fear of God into the arrogant twat. And that something is done about him locking his wife in.

You need to be checking with the Community Team every other day to keep yourself in the forefront of their To Do lists. I would be getting seriously fucked off by now and would have considered investigating legal action. People are not allowed to behave this way and you need to put a stop to it for the sake of your cat. Have you got legal cover on your house insurance? Do you know a friendly solicitor? Because they are harrassing you and you have got to take some concrete action.

Zombie Thread Resurection lol.

Is there an Update to this ?

Ah Gingerblondecat I thought there was an actual update! I got so excited when I saw this back.

I can't believe I missed all this. Wonder if OP ever got her neighbour a kitten?

What is happening?? We need an update!!

Argh! I got all excited too, thinking something had happened (for the good!).

Anything for us, SirSugar?