Tell me if I am being unreasonable.

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DD is almost 7 months old & DP wants to take her to his parents on Sunday who live 90 miles away. I don't have a problem with this except he will be leaving her with his mum for 5-6 hours whilst him & his dad go to a footy match.
She has only seen them 10 times & has never been left for any length of time whilst awake with anyone else except us.

She is my second DC so I'm not pfb but I think it's unfair on her.
I can't/won't go because I am having my first night out on sat in 18 months do I expect to be feeling rather rough on Sun.

So wibu if I said I don't want him to take her and I do know this means I will have to look after her with a stinking hangover?!

would think its a good way for dd to get familiar with granny = think you abu

I think it depends on whether your dd has hit separation anxiety yet. Some 7 month old babies are absolutely fine to be left with strangers. Others would go absolutely bananas.

YABU - I bet gran would love a day with her GD....she will be perfectly safe. Let DD go and you can nurse your hangover more easily.

Could you not send your fifteen year old along to help out/provide a more familiar face?

YABU. If you trust the granny and know she will take care of your baby then why not.
Its good for children to spend time with and develop relationships with other family members.
I cant stand the whole idea of never ever leaving your children because harm may come to them - how do these people cope when their children go to school. It seems to me that some women really cant deal with the idea that although no one can bond with a child the same way a mother can, many people can look after your baby and ensure they are happy and well.

Leaving your baby for the 1st time for any period of time is distressing (ime for you more than them, it doesnt seem to bother them) but its normal and healthy to do it.

I wouldn't. Mine would have been pretty miserable at that age, after a couple of hours of fun and play when they would have decided that they had had enough and wanted me and would have BAWLED until that need was met.

Not a fun introduction to Time Spent With Granny for either of them really, and you don't want to put your DD off her.

I would go, nurse your hangover at MIL's, give your DD a chance to get to know her better with you on call too, so it's less potentially stressful for both. If you really can't go, I would actually say to your DH that I thought it wasn't a good idea - simply because 6-7 hours is a long time, both for DD to be in sole care of a relative stranger and for MIL to entertain a baby she doesn't know very well.

Depends on the clinginess of the baby, one of mine would have loved 6 hours of devoted granny attention, the other would have been going into utter meltdown and having abandonment issues. You know your child best, go with what will suit them.

Yabu, better letting them get used to each other now than later on when seperation anxiety may be more of an issue.

Well, he doesn't want to take the baby to his parents, does he? He wants to go to the footie with his dad but because you're out he's on childcare duty so this way he gets to have his cake and eat it!

Football matches only last for 90 minutes so why the 5 - 6 hours?

If his mum is happy to have your DD for 5 hours, then don't kick up a fuss. Remember she's had a baby, who is alive and well now, so I'm sure they'll be fine.
DP will have to leave early if necessary, but providing she has enough food and toys, and a pushchair to take her for a walk if needs be, enjoy your hangover in peace.

Am I the only one who's wondering how 90 miles each way with a 7-month-old is going to pan out? How were they going to get there - teleport?

WhereYouLeftIt thankyou for actually reading my post properly. Not once did i say i doubt my MIL can look after DD but rather is it fair to DD to leave her with someone that she has never been left with before for 5-6 hours.
She has never been left with anyone but DP mainly because i was breastfeeding but she now takes a bottle so it isn't a problem anymore.

I have told DP i am happy to look after her whilst recovering from a hangover but he WANTS to take her to see his mum & he NEVER misses his footy matches!

DD does have separation anxiety already but we are managing ok.

As i said in my original post I would not say he can't do it because she is his daughter too.

I can't send my 15 year old to keep her company either as he has Asperger's and wouldn't appreciate it!

YABU...she's the grandma...is there something you are not telling us?

YANBU, yes Granny loves DD but DD doesn't know Granny well enough to love her does she? I wouldn't do it personally but I only have one so could possibly be accussed of being PFB...

Too long to be left alone with a stranger (to her) in my opinion.

YABU. You are putting getting so drunk that you will end up having a hangover the next day before your family. How can you think of doing that whilst at the same time expressing concern about our daughter being with her grandmother for five or six hours. Her grandmother is entitled to see her grandaughter, your dh is entiteld to see the football match, you are entitled to go out with friends and have a nice time. Why does that for a mature woman who also happens to be a mother also have to involve getting drunk and a hangover?