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Original poster

To be scared.....

32 replies

Blurry29 · 05/12/2011 22:04

By every little sound I hear ;)

DH is away.DS sound asleep so why do panic everytime this happens

Very overactive imagination doesn't help either...

I'm convinced I've got a boogeyman lol

Just thought I'd share that as I can't sleep (again)

Xxx

OP posts:
Bohica · 05/12/2011 22:07

I'm the same, I hate to be home alone without DH

Where has your dh gone and please don't watch American Horror, it's just started and I'm to scared to move and I have DH snoring next to me!!

his snoring is enough to scare any boogeyman off

MudandRoses · 05/12/2011 22:10

oh dear Blurry, hope you're not too scared - we;re all here if you need us! I used to get like that when I was newly single with a LO...but I've got used to it. DO you know your neighbours? It helps to feel you could call on them if you really needed to...

Original poster
Blurry29 · 05/12/2011 22:12

He's away on a course. I'm just being a drama queen Grin really, I normally a very strong person but I always seem to be very paranoid for the first few days he's away x

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Marymaryalittlecontrary · 05/12/2011 22:13

Aww, I understand. My husband is away working at the moment and after the first few days of enjoying the freedom I had weird stomach pains for the next week, which I think was down to anxiety. I got over it but I still notice every little noise (am in a flat in a house and can hear the doors in the other flats slamming, often quite late at night) whereas when he's here I don't notice them at all. I can't wait til his secondment is over! Hope you're ok op

ViviPrudolf · 05/12/2011 22:13

last time Mr. VP went away for the night he accidentally took the back door keys with him with the back door unlocked Xmas Shock

I had to hoof the massive desk chair downstairs to wedge up at the door, and I still didn't get a wink.

So at least you're locked in, OP (I hope?!)

lisad123 · 05/12/2011 22:15

Let you in a
On a secret Blush
Dh used to work shifts, I hated being here alone and every noise would freak me out. I used to make dh come home in his lunch break about 12am lay beside me till I fell alseep and the seek out!!Blush

ledkr · 05/12/2011 22:15

Im the same.Lived alone (with dc's) for years,never scared,ot re married and used to company and now i hate being alone.I have been known to put the dd's in with me and shut the door with a cupboard against it.

Bohica · 05/12/2011 22:18

I wish I could post a pic of my christmas tree, the trauma of what it looks like would take your mind off it.

I let 3 darling little girls dress it this year. I set out all our lovingly purchased decs in order of decorating It looks like I asked them to play pin the dec on the christmas tree.

F.U.C.K.I.N.G....D.R.E.A.D.F.U.L.

And I can't redress it because it would break their hearts so I have 20+ days of looking at that wonky star and left side only cluttered side of the tree.....

Wittsend13 · 05/12/2011 22:21

I feel your pain. I too think someone is trying to burgle me every night. Every sound freaks me out. Once I woke up because I saw a light come on. It was next doors flood light that shines straight into my room.

moanymandy · 05/12/2011 22:24

I too hate being home alone! DP went to Japan for work earlier this year for 3 weeks and when I wasn't staying with my mum I slept with the bedside lamp on! BlushGrin

ViviPrudolf · 05/12/2011 22:28

Bohica have strength sister. You're doing it for the children.

lollystix · 05/12/2011 22:32

Bohica-could you move the decorations over by stealth? If you moved 2-3 a night but Xmas day it would be more even and they would be less likely to notice.

Sudaname · 05/12/2011 22:39

Grin at Bohicas tree. I feel your pain - my DGD has made me a squiggle on a chunk of grubby polystyrene she found in the garage 'masterpiece' - signed to me with love and placed it centre stage on a shelf in my lounge Grin Grin - so l cant really throw it can I !

...can I ?

Bohica · 05/12/2011 22:45

You can't Sud

You really can't.

Hope you are feeling better op, I still have 20+ days + xmas do's all alone to ponder my shit tree.

ripitupandstartagain · 05/12/2011 22:48

Yes YABU. It is ridiculous. Unless you live in an area frequented by drug cartels or something.

Bohica · 05/12/2011 22:52

It's not ridiculous if you are used to having company during the evening to feel scared when alone.

CatPussRoastingByAnOpenFire · 05/12/2011 22:59

What was that noise? Xmas Shock

Sudaname · 05/12/2011 23:06

Whats that banging noise? sounds like someone breaking up polystyrene

Xmas Shock
CatPussRoastingByAnOpenFire · 05/12/2011 23:09

Maybe you need to go and investigate....in your underwear!

ripitupandstartagain · 05/12/2011 23:09

It is a bit lame. You did ask..

BonzoDooDah · 05/12/2011 23:10

When I got scared I slept with the clock radio on low. The sound drowns out the creaks and groans of the house so you don't hear every crackle. Try that as it really helped.

Mum used to get me and my sister in bed with her when dad was away.

JinglePosyPerkin · 05/12/2011 23:16

I'm the same - when DH is away at night I even jump when I hear the central heating kick in Confused. I also sleep with the hall & landing light on Blush.

Methe · 06/12/2011 00:56

It is a bit sad. What do you imagine is going to happen?

yellowraincoat · 06/12/2011 01:36

Another one here. My partner is away (back tomorrow yay) and I have to sleep with the lamp on in the bedroom. It used to stress me out that I got so stressed, now I just try to accept it.

Much better with the sounds n stuff now though.

I don't know what I imagine happening methe. I've always had an over-active imagination. We were burgled a few months ago while I was in the house, in the middle of the day. I saw the guy come into our room and screamed at him. So I suppose that's what I've always imagined, someone burgling me or something. But weirdly since we've been burgled, I'm calmer.

yellowraincoat · 06/12/2011 01:39

And I don't know why people are being so rude. Maybe you think it's pathetic I'm scared of being alone. Maybe I think it's pathetic you're scared of spiders/mice/heights/enclosed spaces or any of the other myriad things I'm not scared of. However, I would never tell anyone their fears are pathetic.