To put my bloody plate back in its original place?

[DuffyHasABeard]

MIL staying. Soup for lunch. I out some side plates for the bread. I obviously put them on the "wrong" side as she went round the table moving them all to the left. I'm right handed and LIKE my bread plate on the right. So I moved it back, cue a "look".

I wouldn't care if it was a big posh meal but it was a bowl of bloody soup and a bit of sliced bread and it's my bloody house, table and plate!

AIBU?

Bloody iPhone. "put out".

I think you should fight it out, bread in hand.

I just knew this was going to be a mil thread!

SWBU to move them in the first place and you WBU to move them back, although less U than her.

Very rude on her part and a bit rude on yours.

I think you need to get over it. Suck it up girl.

Your house, your rules.

But if you're right-handed and you're eating soup and bread, don't you pick up your bread in your left hand anyway, while holding the spoon in the right?

Anyway, yes it was rude of her to move them, but she probably assumed you'd done it absent-mindedly. Moving them all back seems rather petty.

Maybe she could have her's on the left and you could have yours on the right?

Or just FIGHT TO THE DEATH.

''But if you're right-handed and you're eating soup and bread, don't you pick up your bread in your left hand anyway, while holding the spoon in the right?''

Surely you put your spoon down when you go for the bread?

No, because I want to pop a bit of bread in my mouth, then follow it with a spoonful of soup!

one of my own pet(ty) hates I must say - setting the table wrongly. makes it so awkward for all concerned. Setting the table correctly is good manners and to show consideration for other's space etc

''No, because I want to pop a bit of bread in my mouth, then follow it with a spoonful of soup!''

Madness!

Silver service at every mealtime though, including breakfast. It was a bowl of soup, not a three course meal, and they insist on saying grace even though I am an atheist.

(Sorry, I do not hold my bread and spoon at the same time. Right hand for both, at different times.)

So, do you only have a mouthful of either soup or bread then? I like them together... but maybe I've just been doing it wrong all this time

I dip the bread into the soup!

OP yanbu! My MIL is really nice and helpful, and puts the washing up away whenever she comes round. She puts everything in the wrong places. Example - she put the forks away, in the same slot as the knives, leaving the fork slot completely empty

I also dip the bread in the soup. I dont think I have the hand eye coordination to handle both the spoon and bread at the same time. :o

You're posh, having a side plate for the bread

Well I normally get a big plate, put my soup bowl in the middle and bread on the side along with a spoon and carry it through like that, then eat it dipping my bread in the soup and using the spoon for either lumps or bits of bread that fall off.

Don't get me wrong, I can do "proper" when I need to, just not every mealtime, I have enough to do as it is.

And. AND!!!! She waits until everybody has gone to bed and THEN starts running a bath!

My mil use to go and change the way I'd hung the washing on the line.

I just left her to it

Tables should always be laid correctly. How will your children learn if it is incorrect? There might come a time when it is important if entertaining someone outside your home.

The cutlery should be placed in course order from the outside. Plates for bread and butter should be on the left. Bread should therefore be lifted with the left hand with the soup spoon in the right hand.

I expect the OP is one of those who takes the soup in the way she eats pudding!

I'm with your MIL on this one, sorry OP.
Side plates always go on the left, I wouldn't be able to cope, I'm always having to tell DH off for putting them the wrong way round.

''Side plates always go on the left, I wouldn't be able to cope, I'm always having to tell DH off for putting them the wrong way round.''

Leave the bastard!

You're damm right Crosshair, is it Ok if I wait until he's taken the kids to their Karate class?

YANBU as although side plates go on the left it was rude of her to move them. She could have moved.hers if it was a big deal to her.

crosshair lol