AIBU to think that men are more generous than women

[Clossaintjacques]

I run a small business and have just been looking at my detailed accounts for the last 3 years. It's the type of business where tipping isn't normal, expected or necessary. However, I do receive the occasional tip which is greatly appreciated and when I looked at which clients have tipped all of them have been male. The business is more or less 50/50 male female.

Are men just more generous than women.

Well I know dp is more generous than me if that means anything!?

My reason would be I dont earn atm(with child/house wife) and dont feel comfortable tipping with dh's money.

My mum tips everyone loads and my dad does if forced. My husband and I never really tip if we can help it. Surely it depends on the person.

Also it depends on the persons background my nan is really tight that made my mum way too generous. Whereas my dad grew up skint so he doesnt like to be parted with his cash too often! Whereas my husband and I dont tip as we are both on low wages

Does anyone else work in a service industry? What are your experiences.

It's not like I have a small sample, I have documented all takings and tips over three years which accounts for a considerable amount of transactions, in the thousands rather than hundreds. But ALL tips have been from men. I have to admit I am surprised because all my customers whether male or female are great and I would never have realised had I not documented all income streams.

Do you mean the clients are 50/50 or the staff?
I think people tend to tip and to be more sympathetic to those that they relate. For example if you have worked as a waitress yourself.

I'm saying this because i 've worked as a nanny (typical female job) and i was getting more tips and better treatment from women. My friends used to say the same. Because men thought that we are doing the easiest job in the world.

Nowdays i always tip babysitters because they remind me myself when i was young. I relate to them.

I guess you can put your clients in other categories too regarding tips i.e. age, nationality, self-made etc.

How do you know 100% sure that all the tips are from the men, OP?

Does your business record exactly who used the service and who paid for it?

DH and i both use the same account, but all transactions show in his name only as i'm not named on the account.

Surely at most you can say that "men who pay for [x] service are more likely to tip than women". It's a bit of a leap from that to "men are more generous than women".

I have worked as a waitress in numerous places, as well as other service industry jobs. Women are much more likelt to bring you presents and cards ime, but with money left its about even.

Well I always tip 20% and the most generous man I know I've only ever seen tip 10%.

Are you very attractive by any chance?

Or flirty - or both?

YABU, and YA making a silly generalisation.

other way round with me and dh - i do all the tipping and donating to charity. i'm sure he only does it now because i nag him to, then complain it's too little!

I really don't think it makes any difference.

I record names and emails of everyone and payments and tips.

You are right Misspent I can only say in my business they tip more.

I have been a waitress in the passed though but never documented female/male comparisons because it would have been impossible especially as tables would often be a mix of genders.

However, you could certainly tell how much someone would tip depending upon their age, nationality and even from where abouts in the UK someone was from. I daren't say which UK customers we used to dread getting on their tables for fear of getting slated on here.

I tip fairly generously & always have done, but only in relation to service received - are you offering 'extras'?

PS Crosshair - that is not DH'S money - that is your money - I presume you are looking after your mutual children & home? You shouldn't make that distinction.

So yes, YABU - I know some real tight-arsed men and women.

Men tend to earn more than women, so they can afford to be more generous.

lubey definitely not attractive.

The biggest tip I have ever got was from a gay man, I remember because it was nearly as much as the bill again.

Trills I maybe be U but I am basing my hypothesis on factually evidence with a not unreasonable sample of thousands of customers. It really is a gender neutral business too so there shouldn't be any skew. Can't divulge more for fear of being outted

on the basis that you don't record the name of the bank account the payments come from, YABU

You've denied being attractive but you haven't denied being flirty. :o

Well Im 36 weeks and our first, my official title is now house supervisor as I dont actually do that much other then supervise the house. :o He does call it our money but I would feel bad being frivolous with it.

Santastooearly

I really don't understand your point. People tip cash.

It's about the action and decision of tipping by the tipper rather where the money came from, it could have been earned, stolen, inherited? The point is that so far only men have made the personal decision to tip.

Miette

Although I did specify my largest tip was from a gay man so don't think flirty would have worked.

my dh tips a lot, especially if we are on holiday were the staff are poorly paid.
I think he probably tipped the guy who swept up coconuts outside our room more than his monthly salary when we were in the maldives.

I always tip in restaurants/cafes ( used to be a waitress)

but im never sure of the protocol at the hair dressers/ spa and feel a bit awkward.

ah, so the tips you recieve are all cash?

then the men are clearly all fraudsters who don't want to leave a paper trail