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Is anyone still awake?

44 replies

atosilis · 04/12/2011 01:26

I have come in from a lovely night out and made a random comment to my husband about the stupid money paid for packaging for Xmas presents. The story is too long but he couldn't just say " Yes, stupid money". I am personally responsible for the world banking crisis dontcha know. We have had a huge row, I was just passing comment but yahdeyadeya - he is furious.

The thing is that I have cut myself quite badly, not hospital worth, but I am furious that I have hurt myself again.

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maypole1 · 04/12/2011 01:27

Me I am watching a horror b movie with my oh

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atosilis · 04/12/2011 01:29

Meh, we are horror A

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atosilis · 04/12/2011 01:31

Why don't steristrips work?

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Wittsend13 · 04/12/2011 01:31

Are you ok?

frutilla · 04/12/2011 01:33

Sorry to read this atosilis. I had a period of cutting myself a long time ago, it was quite addicting. Is it something your husband knows about? Is there a friend or relative you can confide in about this? Sending hugs your way. I hope you get some counseling for the cutting. x

BionicEmu · 04/12/2011 01:33

If steristrips don't seem to be working then maybe it is hospital-worthy? Really hope you're ok.

Goodynuff · 04/12/2011 01:33

what bit of you is cut? can you patch it yourself?

howdoo · 04/12/2011 01:34

Do you mean you have self harmed?

BIWI · 04/12/2011 01:36

Are you OK, OP? If steristrips aren't working, then you do need to go to hospital.

Does your DH know that you are doing this?

giraffesCantDookForApples · 04/12/2011 01:36

was drink involved tonight?

Is it still bleeding? Where have you cut?

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atosilis · 04/12/2011 01:38

I'm ok thanks. He does know I do it - very rarely - but it upsets him.
I've cut myself horizontally from hip to hip, the bleeding has stopped, pink steristrip butterflies everywhere. And breathe.... All I wanted was "Yes, stupid money spent on packaging" not what a twat I am paying for it.

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howdoo · 04/12/2011 01:42

Is your DH still awake - ie does he know about this time? I know nothing about it, TBH, but it makes me feel very sad for you.

thejoanwilder · 04/12/2011 01:43

I'm up. MNing while DH is playing Call of Duty. Rock and Roll.
Are you feeling any better now? I think we've all had those ridiculous rows that appear to blow up out of absolutely nothing.

squeakytoy · 04/12/2011 01:44

How deep and long is the cut? hip to hip is a long way.. are you sure you dont need to go to the hospital :(

yellowraincoat · 04/12/2011 01:47

How bad is it? I think you need to let your husband have a look so you can decide if you need to go to hospital.

BIWI · 04/12/2011 01:48

I don't know anything about self-harming, but it sounds to me like you really need to talk to your DH. Possibly not tonight, if feelings are running high, but at a later date - can you get any form of counselling? You shouldn't be feeling the need to cut like this, and it sounds really serious if you're doing that kind of cutting.

How are you feeling now? Is the compulsion gone? Can you make yourself feel better by talking to us?

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atosilis · 04/12/2011 01:49

No, he's fast asleep. I am so sorry that I turn this on myself. Idiot, idiot, idiot. I have managed to control the bleeding by lying down, on my back, and sticking plasters everywhere.

Thanks for your help, just wanted to shout out ' Frigging Arrrrrrrgh this hurts'

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squeakytoy · 04/12/2011 01:50

how deep is it love? have you cleaned it and put any antiseptic on it, I know that will sting but you really dont want to get an infection in the wound..

LoopyLoopsWoopDeWoops · 04/12/2011 01:53

Is it something you could talk about tomorrow? Has it stopped bleeding completely? I'm a bit (and others are too - Squeaky clearly) worried here. Can we help?

alisonsmum · 04/12/2011 01:53

really hope your ok...thinking of you xx

thejoanwilder · 04/12/2011 01:53

Agree on the antispetics. And if it is deep, think about going to get it stitched up- I have a few scars that although they are about 10 years old are really raised and obvious- didn't get them stitched when I really should have done.

BionicEmu · 04/12/2011 01:54

I'm not a medical professional, but I have had issues with self-harming for most of my life. I suggest that if it's that long & you're having to lie down to control bleeding then it'd be good if you could get some help. Maybe wake your DH up, or call a friend, or even call nhs direct? I appreciate it can be v hard to ask for help, just want you to be safe.

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atosilis · 04/12/2011 01:55

I'm ok thanks, I just can't express my rage

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howdoo · 04/12/2011 01:55

You're not an idiot and you don't need to be sorry - at all. We are all here for you. Has it def stopped bleeding?

LEttletownofBOFlehem · 04/12/2011 01:56

How deep is the cut? You might need stitches, and they can only be done within a few hours. Tomorrow will be too late.