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To have a massive crush on a work colleague

41 replies

BumpsNRoses · 02/12/2011 12:44

Have nc'd for this.

I am very happily married. I would NEVER cheat on my DH.

But there is a guy at work who is just swoonsome-making.

AIBU to have secret fantasies about him?

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fotheringhay · 02/12/2011 12:54

YANBU, but go careful on the booze at the Christmas party!

Pancakeflipper · 02/12/2011 12:56

OOh there's nothing like a secret crush to make work a bit more exciting!

I haven't had a crush for years...

But Fotheringhay is right, careful on the cocktails..

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BumpsNRoses · 02/12/2011 13:01

He is ABSOLUTELY yumsome Xmas Blush.

Hehehe, will definitely watch out at the Christmas party. Unfort he definitely knows how yummy he is, so consequently is a terrible flirt, and I'm sure he knows I have a crush on him.... Xmas Blush Even worse - when picking names out of a hat for Secret Santa, guess who I got....

Honestly it's ridiculous. I am a grown woman with a husband and children but I do get a case of the schoolgirl giggles when I see him.

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fotheringhay · 02/12/2011 13:04

Who does he look like?

waterlego6064 · 02/12/2011 13:04

YANBU to have a crush. BUT...just keep it in perspective. I have had a tendency for my crushes to get a bit too big for comfort and then it gets tricky.

Kayano · 02/12/2011 13:05

Clarkson Wink

Luminescence · 02/12/2011 13:05

Is he married?

AKMD · 02/12/2011 13:05

You don't work for Colgate do you...

TroublesomeEx · 02/12/2011 13:10

Oh I always have a crush on someone!

I just let them run their course and never share them with anyone. I'm sure it's pretty obvious though - blushing, giggling, googling... Blush

YANBU at all, so long as you don't act on them.

I'd NEVER act on one of mine either.

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BumpsNRoses · 02/12/2011 13:28

Hmmm, who does he look like?

He's tall, dark brown hair with just a slight bit of a curl, brown eyes, big wide cheeky grin, lovely bum

No I don't work for Colgate.... Xmas Confused

I would NEVER act on it - it's a bit like having a crush on a sleb.

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LadyClariceCannockMonty · 02/12/2011 13:41

OP, that's it exactly ? it's like a sleb crush, harmless and brightens up the day although I totally would act on my sleb crushes, I have an allowed list

TroublesomeEx · 02/12/2011 13:41

I think my worst crush was on my son's friends dad. Largely because he looked a bit like Rory McGrath!

TroublesomeEx · 02/12/2011 13:42

an allowed list? allowed by whom?

TroublesomeEx · 02/12/2011 13:43

OP he sounds lovely!!! Grin enjoy the crush!

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BumpsNRoses · 02/12/2011 13:45

He is! If I think of who he looks like I'll attempt to link a picture.

MUST remember not to get too pissed at Christmas party. I am DANGEROUS on more than 2 glasses of wine.... Xmas Confused

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runningwilde · 02/12/2011 13:46

I know this may sound a bit serious as your comments are most likely tongue in cheek... But, imagine how you would feel if your hubby came on to wrote about his big crush on the gorgeous blonde with kissable lips and fantastic body etc and how he thinks she might know he fancies her... It wouldn't make you feel too good would it?

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BumpsNRoses · 02/12/2011 13:50

I knew someone would come on and say something sensible like that. You're right of course, I would feel terrible. Hence why I am posting on an anonymous forum, having changed from my regular name.

Anyway, I think he looks a bit like <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?q=joshua+jackson&hl=en&gbv=2&biw=1024&bih=562&tbm=isch&tbnid=b2ahgSicBB3jZM:&imgrefurl=www.dressmenews.com/2011/03/style-icon-joshua-jackson.html&docid=q1ERThnk6n1IhM&imgurl=4.bp.blogspot.com/-D3CDeadjOY8/TYjoacBiSLI/AAAAAAAAFhk/evUD-52lJ54/s1600/josh_jackson2.jpg&w=300&h=400&ei=MNfYTs2mGInpObTJ7ZkC&zoom=1" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">this

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WhereMyMilk · 02/12/2011 13:55

Oh my

TroublesomeEx · 02/12/2011 14:32

Yep, I think a crush is allowed on him! Grin

Bumps, I don't think there's anything wrong with having a crush and sharing it on here anonymously!

My DH knows I have little crushes on people. He sometimes gets it wrong, but in the main he guesses who they're on. He says it's a good thing because it shows just how well we know each other. He also knows I'd never act on one, even if given the chance. He also knows I'd never reveal a crush to the crushee even/especially if it was reciprocated.

FredFredGeorge · 02/12/2011 14:52

Crushes are harmless, if you're my DP (and tbh I actually meet the description of the guy other than being yummy, but I'm still looking around the office) then discussing a crush wouldn't worry me in the slightest. You're not going to act on it...

Enjoy...

Scholes34 · 02/12/2011 16:24

As my very Catholic auntie used to say "just because you're on a diet it doesn't mean you can't look at the menu".

Swoon away and enjoy some innocent flirting. Makes the working day go quicker. The more you get to know him, the more you'll realise he doesn't live up to your fantasies.

LadyClariceCannockMonty · 02/12/2011 17:21

Your allowed list is who you'd be allowed to get off with if the opportunity actually arose. Your DP can't break up with you or even sulk (that much) because why WOULD you turn down the opportunity for a go with whoever is your top sleb shag? Of course, it has to work both ways (she said through gritted teeth) so my DP has Gwyneth fecking Paltrow on his, and Kate Winslet, who I don't mind so much.

runningwilde · 02/12/2011 19:59

Havens you all seen that Demi Moore film?! You know, where Robert Redford buys her for the night and it ruins her marriage?!

runningwilde · 02/12/2011 20:02

Looking is fine but flirting... Just remember how you would feel if your hubby's hot secretary smirked whenever she saw you because she knew he fancied her because he showed it... Not nice is it?! Look - dont make it obvious

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