to give 5yr old DD a mobile phone?

[OnlyWantsOne]

When she goes to her Dad's, she always comes home sad - that she wanted to talk to me but EXP wont let her, or some thing happens, like last weekend, she was smacked in the face by her 1/2 sister, I asked what EXP did, "was she told off etc, I bet daddy gave you a cuddle etc" she said no as he was asleep upstairs as he was SO TIRED! and she wanted to call me as she was all alone and upset...

so, I have an old house brick Nokia phone, AIBU to get a PAYG sim and give it to her with my number in (and only my number) so she can call me if she really needs to?

Was thinking of barring any other number so no other kids can use it when shes there etc....?

lurkinginthebackground I don't think full or half sisters matters really I think that point is just horrible they are sisters

oh!

I bought my DS a firefly mobile for Christmas a few years ago. It's a child's mobile phone with 5 buttons on the front. You can save your number, his number (ick) and I think up to 15 other number into the phone for her - could you stretch to it as an "Xmas" present (tell him it's an Xmas present) and spin it as a gift she'll love (they can text) and can keep in touch with him as well, and BLAH BLAH BLAH?

I'm trying to get you a site and price for you to have a look.

here

Out of stock, but at least you can see what I'm burbling on about.

Shirley thank you.

That would be fab.

DP and my mum both think should give her it for Christmas - explain to ex why

I'm going to give her one. And I will explain to ex that she is to be aloud to call me If she wants to. That it's not up to him. At least this way he won't be incurring any cost

X post! Right I'm on a mission to try and find one in stock for you now. It's not too spendy at least not in terms of her piece of mind. I'll pm you if I find one.

I've looked on eBay. There are some similar type things on the market but I'm not keen on that one that has the listen in feature

If they were upstairs they were hardly left alone & my ds used to hit his older sisters at that age so I think there is some mountain out of molehill making!!

If your ex went to court for overnight contact he would be granted it.

And hard as it is, when she's with him it's his rules. So I have a feeling this phone may well not be used very much.

BTW I am a lone parent whose x refuses to talk to her too!!!

Maypole I disagree entirely. Of course it matters who you leave a child with. Well it does to me there is no way on earth that I would have left my 2 year old (or 5 year old for that matter) with onyone other that a FULL relative, she is not her sister. They do not have the same mother so she cannot be her sister it is that simple.
Look what happened when the ops dd told her dad about the 2 year old, he took the 2 year olds side.
I feel for you op I really do. I wouldn't leave my dd with either of them. However I have no idea where you stand legally. Perhaps you need to seek legal advice as to whether your ex is deemed fit enough to care for you dd.

Did you miss the part about there having been domestic violence in the relationship?

And the part about the child herself wanting to talk to her mother? (not a completely bizarre or unreasonable request after all)

Christ Only - what on earth possessed you to put this in AIBU? The keyboard warriors can't fucking resist.

first reading of the title i was already to say no stop being silly but reading your post then yes i think she would feel safer and happier with a mobile you can get cheapy easy ones for her to use im sure shed pick it up quickly , I hope shes alright have you asked her dad about it as she might have gotten her story mixed up perhaps she was fighting with her half sister ,

OP didn't say he took her side. She said he told her off.

Sorry misread it as "She was told off".

Id definately get her that phone so she only has to press the lady to call you.