Sounds awful Fiendishlie. I really felt that my experience could be summed up as "being set up to fail" and it sounds as though that was yours too.
I had a whole catalogue of things - some biggies, mostly just lots of little things. It was pretty much everything on every day. I loved the children but hated the whole experience.
For example:
I was told I categorically did not need to do things (it was during my NQT year and the following year) and being new, I knew no different. Even checking up the day before to make sure I'd understood properly, then getting texts from my phase leader whilst on the way to work which said "I hope you've done/brought X it's needed for the meeting after school".
I was given no support and when I asked how to do something received the stock "just do it however you want, I'm sure it will be fine" 
Then telling them how I was going to do it (just to be sure) being shooed away with a "yes that's fine! I told you to do it however you want" Then at the next book trawl/observation/monitoring was raked over the hot coals for having done it the way I had. When I said "but I checked and was told..." got "yes, but why on earth would I have thought you'd do it like that?!" Which was even worse when it happened in staff meetings in front of everyone smirking and sideways glancing. It got to the point where I was doubting and checking and double checking everything. I was spending my lunchtimes avoiding the staffroom and hiding in the toilets crying. I couldn't sleep. It was horrendous.
I've since worked elsewhere and seen how the NQT was supported and it was brilliant, she really blossomed through her first year.
I, on the other hand, was left a nervous wreck, only able to cope with short term cover contracts, with my confidence completely destroyed and a mound of self doubt.
I've never experienced anything like it anywhere else. :(