DP 'playfighting" with me

[IWannaBeTheMinority]

Started a new thread because the last one went funny.

Just been to the cinema with DP. Before the film started he "playfully" punching my leg. He did this 3 times and the 3rd time actually really hurt. I hit him in the arm in response and told him it had hurt. He acted shocked and said he couldn't understand how he'd hurt me as he was only doing it lightly. He said he must have accidently hit a nerve or something. I let it go because in the past we have had playfights but I have stopped them because a) it's just stupid and b) it always ends up going too far.

So we're sitting there, he goes to hold my hand and then nips it really hard and giggles. I pulled my hand away and asked what the fuck he was playing at and that it really hurt (this hurt more than the first thing). He looked confused and just said "what???" as if he didn't know what he'd done. At this point I almost walked out. I'm wishing now that I had.

As I said we have done the playfight thing in the past but I don't react anymore and have told him I'm not doing that anymore. AIBU to have been really annoyed by these things in the cinema?? I don't see other couples sat there punching and nipping each other. He's now acting as if nothing has happened.

He sounds more like a twat who is very immature. As I said if he is loving and caring in all other areas of their relationship than op should talk to him about his behaviour, if its part of a wider scale of issues than op should consider whether she should be with him. Some people just don't know when to stop and when it stops being funny, and he has to realise that op does not like it and not to do it again.

Exactly custardo the voice of reason . Womens aid abuse . Just sounds like a total twat who has taken things to far, and its up to op to tell him that she does not like it and its not acceptable.

Where is OP now then?

Sounds like that behaviour of a 8 year old boy not an adult, and that he has not really grown up

really would the op start a thread if she didn't think something was wrong

she knows this is a bit more than playing but is confused by him telling her that him harming her is only playing how is it playing when he does it to harm her

If he carries on doing it, despite you talking to him and it is affecting your relationship than I would consider whether you want to be with someone like him.

That is why she should lay down the law, if he still does that behaviour she should leave him as his behaviour is impacting on their relationship.

lay down the law what law surely there needs to be no spoken or unspoken laws about hurting your partner you do not do it becasue you do not want to

too late he has already decided for her that him harming her is fun it went too far before. she may want to give him him a last chance but really why be with someone who thinks it is fun when it is not fun for you

What's up with just deciding he's an arse and moving on from the relationship.

I doubt anybody here is going to give you permission to try again. Quite the opposite.

Remove him from your sight and area (Throw him out)

Playfighting is all fun and games and it should never be painful it should be just fun. If it hurts it's not a game any more.

He sounds a bit of an immature arse who does not realise when its not funny anymore and when to stop. Its the op call whether she wants to continue this relationship or move on.