to have a coil fitted, even though DH doesn't want me to?

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We've had two delightful DCs in less than 18 months. I was very ill during and after both pregnancies and really feel as though I couldn't cope, health-wise, with a third - and my GP keeps telling me that I 'need' to stop at two. Work tried both times to sack me for being pregnant, and I know that despite all equalities legislation out there, another maternity leave next year would mark the end of my career prospects.

DH wants another two children. Preferably next week. And whereas he's not locking me in the house to prevent me from going, he is making very clear how upset he is that I plan to attend today's coil fitting. He won't use any other form of contraception either, and I can't take the Pill because of medical issues.

AIBU to have the coil put in, despite him?

I think I might say "a coil or a knee in the bollocks" to be quite honest.

If he is an academic that presumes a degree of intelligence, so he should be able to understand that the coil is reversible and that you, and your body, need a break. You have two v. young children to cope with; adding another baby into the mix is not going to make life any easier.

My goodness. Sorry to have disappeared from this thread for so long - I got to the playground and realised that I'd left my phone behind.

Thanks for telling me that I'm not BU to go ahead with this appointment. I'm not going to have it done behind DH's back - I don't want to resort to deceit or manipulation like that. I think that, once he has calmed down, DH will come to understand why I have gone ahead despite his objections. He admits that he finds it hard to face up to how ill I've been or could become.