To be REALLY angry with Dp. (sorry another xmas complain)

[teenagedirtbag]

Will try to keep it brief.

Every christmas since I got with Dp we go to MIL and FIL for the day. We have a lazy morning of present opening. We stop off at my parents house for an hour and Dc's open presents. Then we spend 1 till 5 at inlaws.

This year MIL retired and has never been abroad so her and FIL are going around Europe for the next 6 months. Dp was upset that they wouldn't be there xmas day , so I said I'd cook and that we can have our xmas day here. Which will be easier all round with Dc's and twins on the way. He said that this would be great , bought loads of tinsel and stuff for the house.

Tonight Dp has sat down with me and said that he has arranged for us to go to my mums house. Even though he knows I hate xmas with my parents I can't stand my mums nit-picking at everything and yelling at the kids for opening gifts to fast + the house is full anyway as my brother and his mates go there every year.
And at this point I would of said fair enough if he wanted Dc's to spend more time with them. But when I asked why he said it was so he doesn't have the whole day with just the family so he can chill out. He THEN added that he may not go with me cause it's not like I would be drinking so I can drive myself there and back.
So AIBU?
(sorry long)

I'm afraid I have to agree, MrsMuddyPuddles - was my first reaction when I read this.....
Hope we are wrong though :)

Set fire to the shed.

I'd lock him in the shed. Then he can get properly chilled out

Tell him you have bought him a tent and he can pitch in the garden on the moon immediately. If he is good, you will leave a plate of dinner on the back doorstep for him, if you remember. You and the DCs will be having Christmas in your home, and it's a shame that's not good enough for him, but you understand and will let him back into the house over your putrefying corpse when the rubbish needs to be taken out in the New Year... maybe...
Or maybe HE could go to your mums since he likes the idea so much.

Mrs Muddy Puddles the same thing crossed my mind too. THe OPs DH is making a weird suggestion as well as a selfish one. Something just doesnt sit right.

On a more serious note: It sounds like he is having problems with not being The Child on Christmas Day and is making sure he does not have to be an adult or parent this year.
OP does he have a problem with this the rest of the year?

Kill the cunt.

The OP made me wonder who else the DP wants to see that day.

Hes probably thinking "If i say i want xmas day on my own i will prob get away with it cos shes pregnant with twins so she isnt going anywhere (she wont leave me) Arsehole. Agree with Dione in the post above. Think shes got it spot on.

Have you asked him why he bothered marrying you and impregnating you if he doesn't want to spend Christmas with you?

What a fucking knobcheese. Burn the shed to the ground.

What The Fuck?

I hope that shed has room for a tree because he'd be spending Christmas Day in there if he was my DH. And every other day of the year.

OMG! What the actual (expletive), tell him as he has made the arangements he can go to your folks and you will stay at home and relax on account of growing two humans inside you, stick to your guns and make sure he has the least relaxing Christmas possible

Hmm, I have a similarly suspicious mind because I wondered who he wanted to spend Xmas day with.

What a wanker.

Is there anything going on that might make him behave like this? Is it different to his normal behaviour?

What a twat! I would personally be suspicious he was wanting to go off and see someone else while you were out. What kind of father doesn't want to see his dcs over xmas day and would rather chill out at home alone???? [anger]

I too would also feel like other posters have said. No matter what apologies he pulls out of the bag now, you are going to know he'd rather not spend the whole xmas day with you and the dcs.

Not wanting to be THE ADULT sounds like the most viable explanation to me. Still a prat of the highest order mind... Has he figured out how to make amends yet?

my dh doesnt like xmas but wouldnt never want to spend it without us no matter where we were.

I would be very suspicious.

Has he come out of the shed yet?

Oh dear oh dear! how old are you and your dp?

Fucking hell!!!!

Stick to your guns op. on Xmas day give him a turkey sandwich and a bottle of pop and tell HIM to fuck off to your mums for the day.

Excuse swearing but this is very confusing.

I mean calling and making arrangements with YOUR MUM without discussing with you is bad enough. The rest beggars belief ....