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To think I had every right to ask her to put her phone away?

52 replies

lurcherlover · 27/11/2011 20:35

My best friend and I went to see Breaking Dawn last night (please don't judge me on the film choice...). From the outset, the woman sitting immediately in front of me had her phone out every five minutes - I'm not exaggerating - and was texting away. She had it on silent, but it was obviously lit up and it was really, really distracting. About an hour into the film I could take it no more and leaned forward and said "excuse me, can you please put your phone away?" She did, and that was the end of it - or so I thought. As we were walking out at the end she came up to me and said "the reason I had my phone out is I was texting my babysitter as I was worried about my little boy, and you had no right to make me feel bad about that and intimidate me."I retorted that she had no right to ruin a film other people had paid money to see by having her phone out all the way through, and that if she was so worried about her DS she should have either stayed home or gone to an activity where it's acceptable to use your phone. She told me I had been really rude and stormed off. Had I been unreasonable?

OP posts:
HeidiKat · 27/11/2011 20:37

YANBU, there was no need to be texting constantly, she could have had the phone on vibrate in her pocket and been contactable by the babysitter if something was wrong.

jenniec79 · 27/11/2011 20:37

YANBU. If she was that worried why had she gone to the pictures.

slavetofilofax · 27/11/2011 20:39

YANBU, you were completely right with what you said.

Esta3GG · 27/11/2011 20:39

Nope. YANBU. I think you had every right. Would have done the same myself.

SarahStratton · 27/11/2011 20:40

YANBU, my Aunt Fanny she was texting the babysitter.

Andrewofgg · 27/11/2011 20:40

YANBU - there is no excuse for distracting others like that. Slip out into the lobby if you must.

We'll forgive you your choice of film. Just.

dogindisguise · 27/11/2011 20:42

YANBU. As you said, if she was so worried about her son why had she gone to the cinema? She could check in without texting every five minutes.

chinam · 27/11/2011 20:42

YANBU, if I'm that worried about my kids I stay at home with them.

TheDetective · 27/11/2011 20:42

YABU. It's a free world. I'd of told you to mind your own business. She had it on silence for goodness sake.

SarahStratton · 27/11/2011 20:43

Hush Andrew Grin

was the film good ?

TheDetective · 27/11/2011 20:43

Alternatively - why not ask her to turn the brightness right down if it really bothered you that much.

marriedinwhite · 27/11/2011 20:44

YANBU but even I bit my tongue when someone was doing it during mass!

oflip · 27/11/2011 20:45

Ooh what did you think of breaking Dawn though??

1Catherine1 · 27/11/2011 20:45

YANBU to have asked her to put it away. Although I do understand where she was coming from - perhaps it was the first time she had left him. She was in no doubt in the wrong but I have been that woman the first time I left my DD and went to the comedy store for my sisters 21st birthday. I was so worried constantly even though she was with my gran and grandad who have more experience with babies than anyone I know!

AmberLeaf · 27/11/2011 20:46

Personally it wouldnt have bothered me.

I cant see how a tiny screen on a mobile phone could get my attention more than the huge screen the film was playing on, especially as it was on silent.

Some people have issues with others mobile phone use. I dont [within reason] so this wouldnt have bothered me.

HecateGoddessOfTheNight · 27/11/2011 20:46

A brightly lit phone screen in a dark cinema is distracting. If it's right in front of you, you can't help but have your eyes drawn to it, so I don't think you were being unreasonable to ask her to pack it in.

And texting the babysitter every five minutes? Yeah. Course she was. she didn't think that up in the hope that you'd feel guilty at all. Grin

Indaba · 27/11/2011 20:47

YANBU

orienteerer · 27/11/2011 20:47

YANBU, if she was that worried about her DS she should have stayed at home.

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bruffin · 27/11/2011 21:03

YA most definitely NBU

I find mobiles very distracting, even ones the other side of the cinema, not sure if it is because I wear glasses at the cinema and the light reflects in them.

If she was that worried she shouldn't have gone to the cinema.
I wish they would put a notice up at the beginning and the other annoyance is the feet on the back of the chairs!

thebigkahuna · 27/11/2011 21:06

I don't think YABU, given the circs.

Has just reminded me of a time I was on a quiet carriage on a train, texting.

Some cats bum mouthed power crazed harlot stormed up to me and screeched "can you stop that NOW please, this is the quiet carriage and it's very annoying".

To which the random bloke sitting next to me said "it's not her phone that's beeping, it's the person sitting behind us".

Grin
thebigkahuna · 27/11/2011 21:06

(I was texting on silent, in case that made no sense!)

thebigkahuna · 27/11/2011 21:07

Oh - just remembered the time I went to the cinema and the person behind me took their shoes off and dangled their feet over the chair right next to my head.

Minger!

DoingTheBestICan · 27/11/2011 21:12

YANBU,in our local cinema they dont allow you to have your phone out anyway in case you are recording the film.

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