What is social smoking?

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I mean my relationship is on the line with this debate....How often is just social smoking? Only on nights out? Birthdays? Is only at weekends counted as social smoking? If you don't smoke all week but just Friday nights with wine, is that? I confused so thoughts appreciated..

It's possible to be a social smoker after a long period of "proper" smoking. I smoked relatively heavily (10 to 20 roll-ups a day) between the age of 20 and 27, but narrowed it down to 5 to 10 once a month on a night out. I have learned to ignore the cravings the following day, as I don't want to get back into it "full-time".

I agree with workshy! My DH managed to give up for donkeys years when we had children and the worst he would do would be an occasional cigar if we were at a posh gala dinner type thing and they were being offered around. Then he started going out more and more with a particular crowd from work, and they all smoked so he'd have the 'occasional' one with them, then it got to the point where he'd always smoke all evening on a night out (and he was having quite a few nights out.) As someone up-thread said, once you are at this stage and you are always nicking everyone else's fags you start buying your own again, out of guilt. (quite rightly) And that, people, is the slippery slope to being a proper smoker all over again.

Once they are in your pocket you find you want 'just one' because it's the weekend, or just a few 'because I am on holiday' etc, etc. Before you know where you are you are smoking every day but still being in denial about being a 'proper smoker' just because you don't get through 20 a day.

Since changing jobs my DH has managed to virtually give up again as he is with fewer people who smoke on a regular basis, but he still finds it impossible to say no if he has had a good drink and someone gets the cigerettes out. I detest it and it has caused an awful lot of friction between us. Especially as I feel he has a completely hypocritical stance to smoking where our kids are concerned.

Ok think I'm realising that not smoking all week and hanging out for Fridays probably isn't social smoking. I am just smoking! Also I don't really want to seperate from my DH. So absolutely stopping smoking at home. (outside). I agree if on a night out with mates and have a few fags, that is social smoking. Right.....I will do it.
By the way told my DH this and I got a smile....x

If he's only been stopped for a week he will be in the grip of the cravings big stylee. I think this is one of those occassions where you have to smile and agree with him as he will likely be acting very irrationally. Like the time DH nearly left me for bringing tiny DS into bed with me as DH left for work after a night of broken sleep when we were trying to stop co-sleeping - if he can't sleep (smoke) then sure as hell I can't sleep (smoke) either, IYSWIM.