to think that a £10 donation for non-uniform day is OTT?

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DH dropped DC1 off at school this morning. third non-uniform day this term. i sent DC1 along with a pound. apparently other people were chucking in tenners. AIBU to think this is somewhat over the top?

(namechanged for this - first post in AIBU...)

Well if it's not compulsory, then surely it's great that a charity will benefit from people rich enough to dish out tenners.

Where does the money go??

Jesus! My DC take in a pound each, a tenner is far more than I could afford. Which charity were they collecting for? Or does it go toward the school?

I think £10 is over the top. It's great if you can afford it but it puts pressure on those who can't.

nice if you can do it but if you cant dont.

If it's voluntary and those people can afford it, why not? Or are they only giving it to shout about how generous they are?

fine if it's not compulsory.
I doubt very much the majority were chucking in tenners.
Our school lucky to get anything worth over a quid.

I suppose if they have multiple DC attending the school then it might be quite reasonable, or just have a lot of disposable income and enjoy giving to charity.

Personally, I'm a tight arse and would be sending them with a pound as well!

Are you sure they weren't taking out £9 in change

DS just started reception this term and already we've had 2 non-uniform days. It was strange trying to explain to him why he can't wear his much-loved school uniform again today. Feel I'm storing up trouble for the future by suggesting not wearing it is a special treat...!

£1 is perfectly adequate as far as I am concerned.

UANBU. If people want to give the charity a larger donation fine, but they should do so privately.
Waving tenners in front of the other mums and children is boastful and unpleasant.

goes towards the school this time. to stock the stalls for the christmas fair so we can buy the stuff back in a couple of weeks' time.

No donation can be 'OTT' really can it?

I mean if someone can afford to give X amount to a cause, that's not OTT to them.

It would be to me mind you but that's cos I'm a skinflint

YAB a BU, if the others can afford it and it benefits the children it doesn't really matter in the scheme of things does it?

And also, they might not be there to buy the tat goods back so it's all swings and roundabouts for some.

Mine had nud last week and dd paid her pound some didnt she said , I think its swings and roudabouts really if parents want to chuck tenners around then thats ok its up to them YNBU to think its a bit daft though ,

be there to buy the tat goods back so it's all swings and roundabouts for some

worra i didnt nick your swings and roundabouts comment honest looks like i did lol

£10 is a bargain compared to donating new stuff to the fair, working at the fair and paying inflated prices for DC to win back the stuff I donated.

I know someone who does this indeed she once put in £20. I was standing net to her asked her whether she'd made a mistake and meant to put in a fiver she said she liked to put in plenty of cash as in her view the school was very very good and she wanted to support it especially as if it hadn't been there she'd be paying for private. If people can afford it, no one else is pushed to do it and all the children benefit then why not?

We had a no-uniform day last week. One of the other mother's mentioned a tenner donation. And I just thought: Oh right. That must be it then.

Turned up, handed over the cash. And the teacher asked if I wanted change. Because it only cost a pound.

I was embarrassed, I know not why. Probably because it then looked like I was flashing the cash. So I said just to keep it.

I don't remember seeing a "suggested donation" anywhere in the copious amount of school literature. But a pound is alright. Wish I'd known.

And in answer to the OP's question. Yes. I think a tenner is too much for most people. Especially if you have more than one kid. However it is for charity, so if you can, then do. But maybe don't wave it about.

Not at all OTT.

If you can afford £10 and you wish to make a donation of £10 to a charity, that's fine, surely?

if you want to donate a tenner do so. But don't put it in the bucket that's there for the kid's pound coins. Some families find it hard to muster up a pound per child- don't rub their noses in it.

If only £10 was all the school had wangled out of me this week...school photos, for 3dc, £33. Non-uniform for CIN, £1 each. Bake sale for CIN, £1 each. Cinema trip for 2 ds's at primary, £11. Book fair, one book each, £18. Buy your dc's artwork for an over-inflated price (or whatever it's actually called) £14. So in the last week their schools have had £82 from me. Which, when you are on benefits - is almost half my weekly income. We are eting mostly beans on toast this week...