to ask those posters who are entirely self-made and wealthy how they would like to be treated ?

[OrmIrian]

Because clearly most of us are doing it wrong.

We are always carping on MN apparently. And going on about the poor and how hard their lives are. I think this should be addressed forthwith!

Should there be a sort of new form of address? 'Hail, oh beacon of success, may your hard work be always rewarded, may no-one ever accuse you of being lucky, may your children always be able to walk in the hallowed corridors of private schooling without ridicule, and may the forces of socialism and the whingeing, feckless poor never darken your sight!'

Would that do it?

Thread about a thread.

morris - according the that website that someone linked to on here a few weeks back our household income is bigger than 76% of the UK. Which came as a surprise to me to say the least! But so far no-one has slagged me off

Just you wait orm

glowers

We all deserve a good life - but inevitably some will have more material wealth than others.

I'm not an ambitious person and I can't really claim to have worked hard at anything, but my DP has worked his arse off to get to where he is (marginally above average income, good job security). If he passes a professional exam, or gets a small bonus, or whatever, then I can't see why I can't be proud of him and his hard work, without being slated for it.

Saying one person works hard does not in any way suggest that other people don't work hard. It makes no sense.

Orm, if you don't mention your income or how you got there, nobody will slag you off.

If you do mention it, or that you think you in any way deserve to receive the income you do because of what you do to earn it, you will be slagged off.

What about those of us wot inherited all our wealth, have no special skills or redeeming social skills but are still rich as pigshit?

You people just do not respect us as you once did, why I haven't had a forelock tugged in a decade, and these days the maids whine when you grope their arses up the back stairs!

Bloody ungrates.

semi seriously.

English people dont generally talk openly about being wealthy. But they do show signs. With big house and big car. Kids at private schools and regular holidays at luxury hotels.

Income groups of a feather do tend to mix together. Because they feel more comfortable with each other.

AMERICANS? They will say to a stranger "Whats your job; and how much are you on?" Most Brits are not that nosey;except when they,re drunk.

You are right ficken. It's bad manners. If someone came on here and said "I am just so beautiful and I have a perfect figure", we'd all, quite rightly say "Fuck off !". Politeness demands a little self-deprecation and hiding of light under bushels. Tis the English way. And nothing wrong with it.

I was brought up to beleive that you don't talk about religion, politics or money amongst people you don't know well.

I blame the 80s and Mrs T. Nothing new there then ...

I just got teased on another thread for accidentally mentioniong we had a playroom and a dining room.

Do you have a pantry?

Oh we have a variety of rooms.

I think, just fuck off and treat everyone the same and stop judging those who are different from you... in whatever way, be it income, religion, housing, car, holidays, schooling, benefits, disability, BF, FF, fruitshoots or even bloody Greggs sausage rolls.

We are all different and that is what makes us all great. But I suppose MN would close down if we all got along.

I try not to judge anyone, whatever the circumstances, because sometimes "there but for the grace of God" it could be me in one of the situations that are severely judged round here..

UkSky - spot on! There but for the grace of God..

A divorce and a redundancy and I'd be that much - stereotyped single mother in the dole queue through no fault of my own. We're hardly worlds apart.

Nobody is invincible, especially at the moment. Some people are just blind.

Norman tebbitt...we dont have a pantry now. But when I was young we had one.

when I was young someone said to a posh geezer in a village. "we cant all have daughters with horned-rimmed spectacles"

I think they are out of fashion now.

Good post MoreBeta, well the longer one you did

True Beta. I am always having conversations with school mums who say this like "Oh well, we are only renting at the moment since we sold are house and havn't found a new one yet"
It's like they are anxious to let you know why they are renting. Definitely it's a stigma.

Haven't read the thread (sorry) but just wanted to put in a good word for those with inherited wealth too

I have a pantry. I keep all my tins and cake baking stuff neatly lines up in it, and I love looking at it.

Well, some people are just altogether lovely, even when they're rich - like Pag, for eg. Everybody's sympathetic if they take a circumstancial tumble - like me, natch. Some, on the other hand, take personal credit for their own good luck and blame others who have bad luck. Everybody hopes they will take a tumble and learn from it.

These latter, I suggest, should be calle Hubricious. I may have made that word up.

I'd love a pantry.

Yes I am lower middle class and bourgeois

Well, it's only a rented pantry Norman...

I'm new here but felt the need to mention vanilla slice which is a newly discovered favourite of mine :)

One has a pantry, and a vestibule ... Such a shame one is a total prole in all other respects

Can't get my head round Battenburg, it's just perverse with all the pink'n'orange squareyness and the marzipan an' all ( puzzled and faintly bilious emoticon )