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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To want to punch my dr let alone the receptionists?

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Strawberrytallcake · 23/11/2011 08:45

I took my daughter in yesterday as over the weekend she had a high temp which I managed to get down and care for her at home but has since developed a horrific cough, red tonsils and a rash. Dr said she doesn't have a temp now so it's the tail end of it although it is def an infection. This morning she woke up crying with the pain of her cough, I am so annoyed as I only ever take her to the drs if I know it's something she will need extra help for.

Have just called the surgery back and I'm waiting for a call back. We were supposed to be seeing my brother today who does a show once every year all children with special needs show and it is amazing, it's the first time I'm taking her and if she'd had anti-b's yesterday she would be a bit better to go.

Just got call back to now see a different dr at 9.50.

So AIBU to want to punch her? Not actually physically punch her but definitely in my mind quite a few times.

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Mum1369 · 23/11/2011 09:46

Well you would hope so viva, but I have had experiences where the doctor has got it so completely wrong it's scary. And another doctor has gone on to give compelely different advice. In this case it seems sensible. But I think it's wrong to just accept things at face value, simply because they come from a doctor. You should always question things when you aren't comfortable with the advice, at least giving the doctor a chance to explain their reasoning. Then, if you are still not happy you can get a second opinion.

thatsenough · 23/11/2011 09:47

Your GP isn't there to be liked, he's there to give appropriate treatment - Which he did.

Dozer · 23/11/2011 09:55

Yabvu. Viral infection doesn't need antibiotics and they wouldn't help anyway.

As cory and chandon say, antibiotic resistent bacteria is a v scary issue and already affects people and DC with serious illnesses.

herbietea · 23/11/2011 09:55

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RumourOfAHurricane · 23/11/2011 10:00

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ShowOfHands · 23/11/2011 10:03

Oh an aibu by stealth.

Any other pertinent information you've missed out? Perhaps this dr has run you over before? Or purposely vomited on your Jimmy Choos.

slavetofilofax · 23/11/2011 10:05

YABU. There is a massive problem at the moment with antibiotice being over prescribed for things that will get better on their own. As the problem is likely to get better on it's own, you are being very selfish to have wanted a prescription just so that you could go and see some show.

RumourOfAHurricane · 23/11/2011 10:07

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JinxAndFluff · 23/11/2011 10:19

Just go and see a different GP at the practice in the future. Ring the surgery and ask the receptionist how to best apply for the repeat prescription in the future - tel/internet/handing in to sugery/nearby pharmacy - there are numerous options these days. Then spend some time with your poorly DD and be thankful that she is getting better. Which is more than can be said of your attitude.

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Strawberrytallcake · 23/11/2011 10:24

So just got back from dr who confirmed dd does not need anti-bs so maybe I was being unreasonable. Or maybe it's because mum1369 is right and they can get it horribly wrong, I don't have trust in drs as my dad died a day after seeing his gp who told him he had indigestion and in fact he was having a heart attack. It might have been also because of my gynae problems that they also failed to detect which ruined a lot of my time with my dd and my wedding. Maybe I'll never be happy with a gp?

Shineon - I see those people and think they must be v frustrated in their every day lives, quite funny reading sometimes though.

What on earth does AIBU by stealth mean?

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Strawberrytallcake · 23/11/2011 10:27

Oh and it's not some show - it's my brother who has downs and his theatre group wh have special needs and it means the world to him that we go. My dd and him love each other so v much she would be just as sad as him if she couldn't go.

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Strawberrytallcake · 23/11/2011 10:28

....and I prefer louboutins to jimmy choos

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SoupDragon · 23/11/2011 10:28

AIBU by stealth is when other info is withheld/added later.

I think you are right that it is the case that you have lost trust in doctors on the whole. Which is natural when you have been on the receiving end of mistakes.

Hope your DD recovers well - I often find ibuprofen better than paracetamol at perking a sick child up.

ShowOfHands · 23/11/2011 10:29

Well if you looked up AIBU by stealth in the dictionary there'd be a link to this thread. It's where you ask a question and give about 7% of the information. So you ask if it's normal behaviour to want to punch a dr because they diagnosed a viral infection when your child appeared to have a viral infection. Many posts later it turns out there's a whole heap of other stuff you didn't tell us in the first place.

AIBU by stealth...

OP: AIBU to want to set fire to my midwife? She saw protein in my wee and flagged it as a PE marker

900 posters: YABU, protein + is a PE marker

OP: But last week she also murdered my dog.

winnybella · 23/11/2011 10:30

I think if her throat/tonsils are not covered in white pus then it is a viral infection- just so you know for the next time

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 23/11/2011 10:31

It means the original poster giving extra details later on in the thread when they didn't get the support they wanted initially, Strawberrytallcake.

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Strawberrytallcake · 23/11/2011 10:34

Ohhhh ok well maybe that's true, I didn't realise it was a forbidden law of mumsnet.

Or maybe I was trying to get people on my side? Or maybe I'm just scatty and was explaining my reasons!

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 23/11/2011 10:41

It's OK - you won't be taken out and shot for a first offence. Probably.

ditzymitzy2 · 23/11/2011 10:44

how annoying your daughter has become ill at such an inconvenient time for you

and how annoying your doctor didnt change his/her diagnosis so that it would fit in with your plans

insertcleverusernamehere · 23/11/2011 10:45

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Pishtushette · 23/11/2011 11:10

I'm sorry you're having to miss your brother's show. It would mean a lot to me too if I were in your situation. It seems like you're taking your frustration at the situation out on your doctor.

Hopefully DD will feel better soon. Is there no chance that you can make it to the show?

Shutupanddrive · 23/11/2011 12:55

Yabu, try being polite. You might get somewhere then

stuffthenonsense · 23/11/2011 13:49

hmmm, you really shouldnt be thinking of taking your daughter to a show anyway if she is coughing and has a sore throat...its unreasonable to do so as you will be spreading her germs to others...and as you say, its SN, so there are already underlying issues there.
besides that though, hope she feels better soon

sunshineandshowers13 · 23/11/2011 13:55

as a doctors receptionist - there are quite a few patients that i would like to punch.

AIBU?
just asking

NeedHelpPlease · 23/11/2011 13:59

I had a painful cough, the dr advised nurofen, which helped. Could try the children's version?

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