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Is it unreasonable to do this?

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StealthPenguin · 21/11/2011 20:33

I've just thought about it, and actually it's quite weird.

Basically, there's nothing my DP and I won't discuss. Some of you may remember the thread concerning sex with another you, and whether it was self-pleasure or incest.

But we talk to each other on a daily basis about our toilet activities. Size, consistency, amount of strain, etc.

Are we odd?! Or do other couples do this?

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ImperialBlether · 21/11/2011 20:34

That's disgusting.

Not even an exclamation mark from me

WhereMyMilk · 21/11/2011 20:35

Erm, no, you pair of wierdo's! :o

NinkyNonker · 21/11/2011 20:35

Errr, I can't think of anything I would hate to discuss, or hear about more TBH.

hiddenhome · 21/11/2011 20:36

We have family songs that we sing concerning poo, but we don't discuss the intimate details of our toilet visits. That would kill the romance tbh Hmm

ViviPru · 21/11/2011 20:36

What's "sex with another you"? Confused

IneedAbetterNickname · 21/11/2011 20:36

My sil and her dh do this too! I just don't see the need!

Kayano · 21/11/2011 20:37

My DH and his bro take pictures
Of their shuts and send them to each other and play 'my shit is bigger than your shit'

Proudnscary · 21/11/2011 20:37

I actually genuinely think that is weird. Really, really weird. Sorry.

StrandedUnderTheMisltoe · 21/11/2011 20:38

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carabos · 21/11/2011 20:39

Gross. Just gross.

cricketballs · 21/11/2011 20:39

my dh often tells me all about his toilet activities even though I really don't want to hear about it Grin. I on the other hand, will only discuss if there is something not right i.e. very loose or constipated

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StealthPenguin · 21/11/2011 20:40

Well it's just kind of an open topic, to be honest!

He'll come back from the loo and exclaim that it hurt because it was so big, or that it was like runny chocolate...

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ChippingInNeedsSleep · 21/11/2011 20:40

Stealth - I've said this before and no doubt I'll say it again.... you are weird, certifiably so. Really you need help. The pair of you.

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StealthPenguin · 21/11/2011 20:40

And for those that are interested - it's first-degree incest!

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mumblechum1 · 21/11/2011 20:40

Definitely not a topic of conversation we are ever likely to have over the dinner table or anywhere else.

Unless there was some major medical problem.

HecateGoddessOfTheNight · 21/11/2011 20:40

In 13 years of being with my husband, we have never ever ever had a single discussion about the shape or consistency of our stools, nor whether they felt like they were coming out sideways. There has been the occasional vague reference to 'toilet trouble' if one or other of us has been ill.

We discuss all manner of things, like who'd get the kids if we split up, or whether we'd tell our families if we won the lottery (nearly came to blows with those two! Grin ) but whether we've had to bash a floater round the u-bend has never yet been something either of us particularly wants to hear Grin

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StealthPenguin · 21/11/2011 20:41

Well surely it's good he feels this comfortable with me?

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ReindeerBollocks · 21/11/2011 20:42

I don't discuss toiletry functions with DH unless something is not right.

However with DS's bodily functions we discuss size, colour, consistency, smell and whether or not it is oily (DS is 8). Unfortunately we have to discuss this with the hospital, but it doesn't make it any more pleasant.

HeidiKat · 21/11/2011 20:42

Nope that is over sharing a bit, the only time I have shared to that extent was during a D&V bug to let DH know to bring home plenty of toilet rolls from the shop, shitting through the eye of a needle may have been mentioned.

ChippingInNeedsSleep · 21/11/2011 20:42

It's one thing to be able to be open with your partner when necessary (if ill or whatever), it's quite another to routinely discuss your poo.

PersonalClown · 21/11/2011 20:43

We discuss DP's BUT there is a history of bowel cancer in the family and he has to have frequent testing so I bug him to check that there is no blood etc.

I know TMI but it's better than the alternative.

ChippingInNeedsSleep · 21/11/2011 20:44

PC - that's entirely different. It's discussing out of care/necessity, not some weird need to overshare.

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StealthPenguin · 21/11/2011 20:46

We don't NEED to talk about it, he just kind of... mentions it. And it goes from there! it's a normal bodily function after all.

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catgirl1976 · 21/11/2011 20:46

Ewwww no we do not discuss it.

I suppose maybe if one of us thought maybe something was medically wrong it might become necessary, but other than that, no we do not.

Grim

eurochick · 21/11/2011 20:47

We mention if we have an upset stomach but that's the limit.

However, my husband did have a terrible dose of the squits when we were on honeymoon staying in a jungle lodge with just a flimsy screen door between the bedroom and bathroom. I learned rather more about my new husband's bowels in those two weeks than I ever wanted to know!