To feel fed up with the EFFORT of daily life with a toddler.

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I do love her lots but I feel like I have no more energy left today.
EVERYTHING is a battle!

YANBU but I cannot WAIT for verbal stage! DS is cute etc but I struggle so much with the non communication. And the nappies - I'm rubbish at nappies. I avoid situations where I might have to change one with anybody else watching.

I had bad PND, and was cured by a) taking ADS and b) going back to work.

Now my life is a negative image of what it used to be - I look forward to Mondays, and slightly dread the weekends (eek! no childcare!).

I love his company but christ, you feel you've done a full shift then realise it's, like, 8am. There's just so much day in the day, you know?

I am rather scared reading this- I have twins (6 months) and I'm knackered now.... it's going to get worse, isn't it?!

AcrosstheUniverse sending hugs.

I am just finding it hard to find the energy for all the other stuff we are supposed to do as mums (Housework). I seem to run out of energy in the afternoon then regain a bit around tea time. DD has trashed the living room with her toys but she seems happy at the mo!

MorrisZapp I know what you mean about nappy changes ! I can't wait to be past the potty training stage !!

You still have to wipe their shitty arses and poo seems to smell so much worse in a potty... sigh

Oh, toddlerdom is joyful!

oh no my son has just turned 2 2 weeks ago and life is pretty exhausting at the moment we have been made homeless and are staying with a relative. he hasn't got his dad round now so its just me 24/7.
I'm the evil mummy who wont let him eat all the cake or I'm the evil mummy who stops him running off into the road or not letting him draw on the walls with felt tip pen.
by the time its bedtime I'm utterly shattered emotionally more than physically and i tend to snap when hes refusing to go to bed and its 9.00pm.
i love my son dearly and right now hes the only reason i am carrying on living, but he is such hard work and too young to explain why I'm upset so he feeds of the bad vibe and acts up even more.
i never knew how single mums coped but Ive found out very quickly.

YANBU!

I have a 2.5 year old DD and a 3 week old DS. DS is an angel - newborns seem so easy compared to the constant whining and contrariness of a toddler!

Funny, I remember it being so hard when DD was newborn. It can't have been!

DD1 has just had a tantrum over nothing, consisting of crying as if her heart would break, because evil Mummy told her something had to wait until after dinner. She ramped it up every so often when it seemed like running out of steam. Miraculously it just stopped when dinner was ready. She's all sweetness and light now.

You mean, she eats, Zonked?! DS has had 3 weetabix, a handful of blueberries and a handful of grapes all day...

Please give me a child that eats! I have a 3 yr old and an 18 month old (and no 3 due in May - seemed like a good idea at the time!) and neither will eat a thing, I may as well cut out the trauma of meal times and just put the food in the bin after I've gone shopping! All day dd1 old grabbing stuff out of dd2s hands and dd2 screaming hysterically. Whenever the rare chance to sit down arises dd2 takes this as a cue to climb me like I am there purely for her amusement!

I can assure you that the teenaged DD1 is vastly superior to the toddler version.
From the moment she learnt to roll over as a baby, she would try to reach things she shouldn't.
When she was crawling she'd put every thing in her mouth. When she was learning to walk she'd pull herself up on the wobbly table with the cup of tea.
She'd climb anything, onto tables, bookcases, stools, ladders, climbing frames designed for teenagers.
(She progressed to trees and scaring the other mothers to death).
But worst of all she fiddled with everything, except toys. She would ignore a whole room full of toys and make for the ornaments on someone's book case.
She was utterly exhausting.

DD2 was a delight, she played with toys and liked to keep her mother within sight.
Mind you she'll be a horrible wilful teen.

I hear ya !
YANBU . . . pi$$ing with rain outside, windy . . . have to go to supermarket when Mr 13 months wakes with grizzly toddler who wants to play outside and is climbing the walls in tow - dreading it.

I have to give DS2 that.

He will eat anything this is good and also not so good...

He is also an excellent sleeper, so at least I get a break.

He is still a toad.

It get's easier, the terrible twos are terrible.

backward, actually she doesn't eat a lot, but she stopped crying for dinner. I think because I was telling her to wait until after dinner.

DD1 eats sometimes, she never seems to eat a lot, but seems happy and healthy. I work on the principle that she won't starve herself, so I put food in front of her, let her get on with it or not. I try not to stress about it at all and try not to push her into eating.

DD2 is being weaned baby-led style, as in, I put food in front of her, then sweep it up off the floor a bit later with no clue as to how much actually goes in. Some of it does, especially fruit. It's amazing how much less there is on the floor when I give her fruit.

Morris, sorry to tell you that the verbal stage isn't all it's cracked up to be - having words to say what they want unfortunately doesn't mean they actually know what they want!

Zonked I did BLW with DS2, it was amazing was the amount of food he managed to secrete around his person even when the floor seemed pretty clear!

I'm so utterly relieved by everyone's comments. I thought I was the only one who is finding toddlerdoom so hard. My DD is 22 months and is wonderful, BUT, she's having terrbile tantrums and I mean terrible. There's the screaming and shouting and wailing and whimpering..but also the hair pulling (she pulls her own beautiful hair out) and lashing out to anything around her. The thing is that I've tried ignoring her, going out of the room, talking to her, trying to comfort her, shouting at her, anything to see if she snaps out of it all and it doesn't work. She's had tantrums middle of the night and at dinner time the last couple of nights that have lasted, no kidding, for 1.5-2hours.

surely this is not right? I daren't leave her for too long on her own due to the hair pulling thing. We've tried to stop this and it worked for months (she first started doing it at 1 in her sleep, so she only goes to bed now in pyjamas with mits stitched into them) but she's started doing it in frustration now.

She's also a daddy's girl and only wants him. So in the middle of a tantrum she'll keep asking for DH and we don;'t give in but her tantrum carries on. She can start a tantrum off if he puts her down. Very tiring for me as I end up doing the night duties as one look at DH and she literally clings on so tight mid-wailing that he can't get away.

Sorry this is so long...but PLEASE does anyone have any adivce on tantrums?

Ignoring is good. Walk away. Leave them to it. Attention feeds a tantrum.
Just hang in there - the penny will drop eventually for her and it will get better.