Selling a present my daughter was given and putting it in her bank account

[dollywashers]

My daughter (7) was given a very expensive children's bracelet for her birthday by a school friend. Going for about £100 on e bay. I hadn't even heard of this type of bracelet but my Mum and BF were shocked that some random child from her class would give a present so expensive so I checked the price of them.

She is a total tomboy and is not in the least bit bothered about the bracelet plus it's a child's so not like she might like it later on. If I give it to her it will either just lie around her room or she'll lose it.

AIBU to sell it on e bay and put the money in her bank account? She wouldn't notice it was gone and I wouldn't tell her.

I think it's a copy too. But you HAVE to check!

Obviously the op needs to check! Not with the person who gave the gift though- could be construed as really rude. Get it checked properly. If it is a fake, then there is no issue is there- it was a cheap girlie present. If it isn't, it's still your dds- it was a gift given to her. If you are confident a genuine article was given in error, then you could check with the sender, but it may still come across as rude. The child clearly didn't raid her
Mums jewellery box as the op has sent a text thanking for the bracelet- so presumably if the mum knew nothing about it, she would have spoken up

I can't believe so many people on here are suggesting to ask the mother whether it's real or not.
If it's real and she bought it then the mum has made the decision to buy it and you should accept the gift
If it's not real then you should accept the gift
If it's real but re gifted you will only embarrass the mum by effectively asking if she re gifted.

Your DD has been given a present just keep it.

It would BU for you to dispose of it. It belongs to your daughter not to you. If you think it would be wasted and possibly damaged if she keeps it from now, I would keep it somewhere safe until she is 18. Just remember that it's hers not yours.

If you decide to sell it you will need to make sure it's real first. Take it to a jewellers and find out. You wouldn't want to get into trouble for selling fake goods on eBay.

I would keep it. She may want it when she is older, let her make the choice.

My DD is only 5 and already quite capable of selecting something from her own jewelry box, wrapping it and giving it to a friend, all nicely labelled. And I'm sure there is stuff in her box in original packaging.

I am quite that people would not automatically call the mum and say, DD's been given this and it is so valuable I wonder if it was meant to be given away?

The embarassment of that conversation is nothing compared to the years of festering this mum will feel toward you if it was indeed a mistake. You have years and years of crossing paths with this mum ahead of you so far better to clear it up now.

I would get your dd to write a very nice thank you note and look after the bracelet until she is old enough to decide what to do with it.

Agree she needs to check, of course. But check and keep if it was genuinely meant (or not, depending on how she feels about expensive gift) not check and flog.

Reminds me of a film I saw. A little girl gives a piece of valuable jewelry to her little friend. 3:38-3:58. The mom later realizes this and goes to the child's home to get it back, at 11:56 -12:34

I don't think I would check with the parents because I would not have thought to check the price; I would just assume it was something fairly cheap from Argos.

Difficult one. Maybe you could just have a conversation with the Mum and thank her for the lovely bracelet and say what a very generous gift it was.
See how it goes from there.

From what you say, I'm guessing it's Tiffany. Even the fakes will have markings as a lot of them are silver, just not genuine Tiffany.

If it's real it's worth 100 quid! Could you really cheerfully allow your 7 yqr old child to accept a present worth that from a schoolfriend?

BIZARRE!!

And at the "oh well if it's a mistake it's her loss" brigade!

Agree with StillSquiffy and others, you should check whether the bracelet was meant to be given away. It's quite possible the other child took it upon herself to give away her own bracelet (perhaps, like your DD, deciding it wasn't to her taste). The mother may be furious but too embarrassed after your DDs thank you note to ask for it back (and wondering how she's going to explain the absence to Great Aunt Joan at Xmas).

Perhaps a conversation along the lines of 'that lovely bracelet your DD gave my DD for her birthday - my sister/mum/MIL mentioned the other day that she thought it might be quite expensive. I just wanted to check that you did mean DD to have it? I'd feel awful if there's been some sort of mix up'.

What make is it?

I haven't had chance to read the whole post but DO NOT PUT IT ON EBAY - It is probably a £20 fake - They are very very convincing and you or I would not be able to tell but if you sell it on there to someone who can tell you'll be in big trouble!

I'd keep it safe in her jewellry box and let her decide when shes a little older - You'll probably find that she'll wear it once she starts going to girly parties!

I've seen them around and even got one last year for my brothers girlfriend who gushed and gushed at suh an expensive gift, she was going on and on about not spending so much on her etc that in the end I had to be honest and say I'd got it as a replica - She was relieved more than upset as it was still a beautiful bracelet - I wouldn't buy anything else like that again though!

Excellent way to ask emanother

Anyone else want to know what bracelet it is!

How was the present wrapped? If it had been taken and wrapped by a 7yo then it would have been obvious, no? Unless it was DH that wrapped it...