to think that if you say, "Here's a bag of clothes, take what you want and give the rest to the Hospice shop"

[DrSeuss]

...the clothes should not then be for sale on the internet?

I agree with spiderpig. I took loads of clothes to the car boot. £1 a piece for adult clothes and 50p a piece for clean ironed childrens clothes. You hard shift any, and then have to fold em all up again after they've been rifled through and maybe even rained on.

I'm over the moon if anyone gives us clothes as they are so blinking expensive. Rarely happens though - if anyone lives near me (Dorset) and wants to donate any 3-4 girl stuff I'll happily take it off your hands ;)

Yanbu. Yanbu at all. If you have made it clear what you want to happen to the leftovers then yanbu. A lot of people donate to particular charities because it is a cause dear to their hearts.

Actually, I don't think you are being unreasonable.

You specifically requested that what she did not personally want for her child should be given to charity.

I would be calling her on it. "I asked you to give the things to charity, not sell them. Please give them to charity like I asked."

oh - unless it is covered in the "take what you want" - she did take what she wanted. she took what she wanted to sell.

Whatever. I make decent money from second hand clothes, esp kids ones.

But.. off topic. The point is that there is decent money to be made from second hand clothes and in this case the charity should have benefited

If people pass down clothes to me they generally say something likle 'if you don't like them just pass them down the line' and they don't fit/aren't suitable then I give them to someone I know who will use them or they go to the charity shop. Failing that they get freecycled.

I certainly wouldn't put them on ebay/facebook without their express permission. My Sister does this - she has a DS 6mo younger than mine. SHe happily accepted all hand-me-downs, and I was very happy to pass them on. Then I realised she was just bloody selling most of it. Cheeky cow.