AIBU to just not get little girls pamper parties

[Clossaintjacques]

I have seen some young pre teens parties that include face packs with cucumbers for eye relaxation and pretend champagne. I am not saying that I think they are inappropriate I just don't get why 7 and 8 year old girls would think sipping pretend champagne and lying with face packs on could be fun! Unless of course it's marketed to make them think it's cool. But not actually fun.

So do boys have an equivalent party that is 'just copying mum' and harmless fun? Or is it just girls who have parties focussing on image?

theyre not exactly having foundation and concealor on are they!

I don't know mumbling because none of my DD's school friends have ever had a pampering party. I am really just asking whether it is really fun to sit with a face mask on at 7 or whether they are being marketed as fun.

She came back two hours later with some kind of gel nails glued on, skin a shade darker on her legs and more makeup on than a drag queen on central pier and apparently had turned down a back massage to de stress!

Posted earlier, sounds like a lot more than a dab of glitter to me!

I know each party will differ in how it is done and what is offered, and I am not dead against the ones which are simply a dab of glitter but it is very much apparent that some of the parties offered go way beyond that. The leaflets we have had put through the door for such parties certainly offer more than just a bit of glitter!

Closs they don't put face masks on 7 year olds! Or any children that I have seen...as I say..they have a foot spa, glitter and lipgloss...no skin treatments...and boys would probably rather copy Dad wouldn't they? I have seen boys in DDs school have cupcake parties...if that's what you mean?

Sirzy well that's not like any pamper party for children I have ever seen sounds a bit to me...no business would put acrylics on kids....they'd probabl get sued for causing distress when the time to take them off came!

Surely though, it is up to the parents discretion. If you're not comfy with it then don't participate....but I don't think it's nice to call them "trashy" like someone did further up thread.

It's a little girl having fun...I know I would no like m 7 year old having fake tan or skin treatments on...not things that mess with their perfection...but some glitter and a footspa.....not wrong.

glitter and a foot spa (what is a foot spa?) sounds ok to me

fake champagne and cucumber on eyes with face packs for 7yo deffo sounds wrong!

I mean, children don't need to spend 30 mins lying down in a calm and warm environment, with no-one nagging at them for a poo / food / change the children's channel / read me a book / I'm going to try to follow you into the toilet while you do a poo because I love you mummy and I just want to be near you all the time and kick off when you say no.

I really really need it

Are there any free offers on that leaflet you got closs?

anothermum

I know it's not the same type of pamper party that the OP is talking about but my DD (6) went to one at her friends house. They had their hair beaded, glittery nails & a bit of sparkly make up, dressed up as princesses & glitter tattoos, all done by the birthday girls family. Oh, and then they played like mad things & she came home looking like she'd rolled in glittery mud (family live on a farm) and had a fabulous time!
That type of thing is great for that age group, how many mums on here have had their make up raided (RIP Benefit bronzing powder... )? The whole face pack & pretend champers thing sounds a bit tacky tbh though..

Sorry, YANBU

DD(3) loves our pamper sessions. We don't go all out but I wash, trim and style her fringed bob, paint her nails and toe nails, give her a slick of vaseline on her lips and we dance in our pj's to the music channel.

teacoupons how lovely, the idea of you both dancing in pyjamas brought a tear to my eye! Lovely mum and daughter fun time :)

Yanbu!

Yuck! why oh why! not something i would ever encourage.

Read it as 'pampers parties' - pamper parties should slightly less weird to be honest

DD 11 had one this year at a local hotel spa, her and three friends swam for ages and had a jaccuzzi first while my friend and I lazed around the pool reading magazines and had a swim.
Then the girls were taken off for a mani/pedi, and facial to suit young skin, while my friend and I had a massage and facial to suit haggared skin, then we all had a blow dry and went for lunch.
Best thing was I only had to pay for the girls, my friend and I were free as 'supervisors'.

cwtch - not near me, are you? We have a soft play place that does "pink" pamper parties....

This is a very timely thread. I have just come back from my favourite bakery at our local shopping centre where they are soon-to-be-opening a spa for girls called "Pretty in Pink" which is billed as "a spa-studio for girls of all ages".

Really, mothers of popbiscuittown? You can't find anything more meaningful to do with your daughters? What next?

I have two daughters (and will have three in a couple of weeks time when I give birth to dd3) and this honestly doesn't bother me in the slightest. Last Christmas day I even let dd2 have a glass of alcohol free cava in a champagne flute. So sue me.
As I've got older, I've realised that there are far far bigger issues to get my knickers in a twist over. I'm a feminist too and am keenly aware that some humourless feminists believe that real proper card carrying feminists don't wear makeup or spend time on their physical appearance. But you know what, bollocks to that. I love to dye my hair, paint my nails and moisturize. You can call it social conditioning, whatever yadayada but I love the ritual and find it very relaxing. And show me someone who doesn't look better for a bit of a personal grooming and primping and I'll eat my smelly socks.

popbiscuit I doubt it's the Mothers of you town who have opened this new kiddy-spa is it now?

lottie me too.....I am a feminist and came late to it in a way...but I also love makeup and expressing myself through how I look. It's fine in my opinion and as long as my DDs like it they can take part in their mates parties....

my DDs are also inividuals and free thinkers. I have always and continue to educate them about the powers of advertising and my older DD (7) can now take a toy ad apart in seconds...she knows the tricks they use to make things look better...as she gets older I will teach her all about how the fashion industry brainwashes people too.

My point further up is that there don't seem to be any boys parties that focus on appearance. I am not sure it's right that girls get introduced to grooming (as so many have said) and boys don't.

Is this really what girls want or is it marketing and society that tells them they should look 'pretty' or aspire to look pretty.

DD is having something similar for her 7th birthday party.

Her and her friends (boys aswell ) will be going to a spa where they will all be having their nails painted and glitter strips put in their hair. they will then come back to our house where she wants an old fashioned tea party with cupcakes and the opportunity to drink lemonade out of my vintage china teacups.

It's her birthday. It's want she wants to do. Meh.

We had a pie fight at DD's 7th birthday party (paper plates and squirty cream) - it might have been good for their skin

There's nowt wrong with wearing makeup and enjoying 'pampering' if that's your thing but we don't parent in a vacuum - there is so much pressure on little girls to look pretty these days that I wouldn't want to add to it.