To tell my mom I am pg a month before we tell the IL's

[Alligatorpie]

i am Canadian, hubby is British and we are currently living in Egypt. I am 10 weeks pregnant.
We are going to England for Xmas and dh wants to surprise his family by me getting off the plane with a bump - I am fine with that. I will be 17 weeks then.
But I want to tell my family, who I will not be seeing until Feb, at 12 weeks via Skype.
Dh says we can't tell my family in 2 weeks and his family in 5, I disagree. I don't want to wait until 17 weeks to tell my mom.
They won't talk to each other before Xmas anyway and I will tell them not to tell on the off chance they end emailing or chatting on Skype.
I said fine, we will tell his parents via Skype at 12 weeks, but he wants to surprise them at Xmas.

AIBU or is dh? Obviously I think he is! Cheers!

I definitely wasn't showing at 17 weeks-wasn't in maternity clothes until 26 weeks and pretty sure nobody would have dreamed of saying 'congrats-you're pregnant' until a 7-8 month bump was visible for fear of upsetting anyone!

I think it's very unfair of your DH to not want you to tell your mum until 17 weeks; you might have all sorts of questions to ask her. I, for one, had to ask my mum at about 10 weeks if I'd had chickenpox as a child as it was going around where I work and the midwife said I had to go and have an immunity check if I hadn't had it. I couldn't remember having it, but she knew I had.

I think your DH will be disappointed by the lack of reaction (even if you have a bump, it won't be obvious enough to get the wow factor he's after). 12 weeks is the usual time to tell people-if he wants to do if differently for his family, that's fine-but that's not reasonable to expect you to follow. Parents don't have to be treated the same-I don't tell my inlaw anything ;)

Well dh decide to wait to tell his parents because you get to see them... So his problem not yours.

and more importanly... dh isn't pregnant. SO sucks for him you tell your mom when you want to.

Also you may not have a bump at 17 weeks-just a thought

Also why does it matter when they find out? Do you think after the fact they'll be upset they had a few weeks less time knowin they were going to have a grandchild

the gc is the fun.. not the knowing you will have one eventually. dh needs to stop bein so precious

I'm another tell your own parents when you want to tell them.

My husband always tells his parents practically as soon as we get a positive test, and I tell mine as late as I am comfortable getting away with. It's never been a problem.