that a muffin is not a cake?

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I was after something fattening, and DH was off to the shops, so I requested a "rich decadent slice of cake". He jokingly said "so carrot cake then?" and was corrected with suggestions like "black forest gateaux" and "chocolate mouse cake". He promptly returned with a double chocolate muffin and does not understand why I am miffed? AIBU

I was wondering what on earth I'd said that was amusing...

@ SoupDragon

Of course, in What Katy Did At School, they referred to a bar of soap as a cake of soap.

Now that, I imagine, would be neither tasty nor in any chapter of a cookery book.

DM has always insisted that they should be called chocolate BUNS as muffin is an Americanism. The term has now been adopted by DP and the rest of the family. There for they are CAKES. If you wanted a specific dessert product then you should have directed your DH accordingly. YABU

dozy, she did direct him - she mentioned "rich decadent slice of cake", "black forest gateaux" and "chocolate mouse cake". She couldn't have been very much more specific without going to the shop with him, pointing at the shelf and saying "that one". Hence the miffedness.

I would have been disappointed too, though I wouldn't rate supermarket cake as any better than industrial sponge-of-the-aquatic-variety muffins.

He should really have baked something.

This thread has made be at the memory of 'oven bottom muffins' and the eternal problem of trying to explain to anyone outside of manchester that when you want a muffin you dont mean either the american cake variety or the english ones like mcDonalds use.

Also and gwendoline and the 'whats that chopped liver?' reminds me of my mum - one of her phrases that!

Leave the bastard.

My American cook book has muffins in the breakfast section, where there are no cakes to be found. Interestingly although I thought that one of the differences between cake and muffins was that cakes used butter and muffins use oil all my American and Canadian cookery books use melted butter in their muffin recipes (except when they use sour cream or buttermilk). It seems the difference is that muffins use a liquid fat, whereas most cakes use solid (generally creamed with the sugar) and they are mixed slightly differently so that muffins have a more crumbly texture and cakes are more delicate (in theory anyway!)

YADNBU. I would think seriously about the future of your relationship OP.

If a man does not understand that when a woman says 'I need cake', she needs a PROPER cake, it can be indicative of a very selfish nature. Is he abusive in any other way?

Is he a tax accountant? He may have been focusing on how muffins are treated for VAT purposes.

A muffin is not the same as a cake. Otherwise you would not be allowed to have it for breakfast. Simple.

Listzilla you'r right. Sorry OP I got carried away with the issue of chocolate buns v's chocolate muffins. I should pay more attention.
If DP denied me chocolate mouse cake I would indeed leave the bastard.

YANBU - the carrot cake 'joke' would be enough for me to leave the twat