to not be a sickly sweet mummy?

[Newmummytobe79]

I adore my baby. We 'talk' and play all the time and I just want the best for DC ... but AIBU to hate people talking to my child in baby talk and fussing in a sugary sweet way?

I'm not overly maternal and prefer adult parties with wine rather than kids parties with jelly and ice-cream!

I love MY baby so much but find other kids a little annoying (I know ... I know - others will one day feel like this about my DC when they grow up!) so ... shoot me now or do others feel this way! Be honest

That's fine, but if you want that to be accepted, that nn will have to go.....

And yes other kids, just like other people in general are a pitta unless they are really engaging.

If you want to be taken for a non saccherine mother though, I must insist you never say "Mummy's tired" instead of "I'm tired" to your DC and avoid third person talk twattery at all costs.

Oh and don't get one of those gross "yummy Mummy" nappy bags either, they are shite and sickly sweet.

I have always been a no nonsense mother.

Agree, your nn will have to go.

Ha! That was made when I was a sickly sweet 5 week newly pregnant mummy to be!

Point taken ... mummy-wummy will not tell daddy-waddy she is tired in front of munchkin ever ever again!

You've answered your own question.

And also, might be worth considering whether other mothers find your baby annoying feel the same way but just don't show it.

It has actually been proven that babies react more to sugary baby talk, than ordinary speech directed at them.I'll try to find my source for this!

Most people don't actually like children's parties with jelly & icecream. They just pretend they are enjoying themselves to fit in.

And most people aren't all that interested in other people's children, they just know that they have to take a turn at listening to what other people's ugly talentless children have done before getting to let the other parents know what their beautiful and talented child has been achieving.

It's all a srot of game really, but you can decide how much you want to join in!

but no YANBU.Other people's kids are the pits and only your own are interesting.

LemonDifficult - I know others do! I've seen the looks when an almighty kick off happens - cue visitors running to the door!

Do what you like.

But baby talk is fine. I am perfectly no nonsense but did use baby chat with my dc becuse I knew, after having speech problems with ds2, that it can help.

Baby talk and sickly sweet are not the same.

But whatever you do, don't do performance parenting. There is a bloke at dds school who is so fucking obnoxious

hello doodles, let's go and get your bag...my gorgeous munchkinnikins...and then we can read our new French story books before mummy gets your organic falafel bars...and we can sing some songs while you pay your violin to grade 8 level..

Don't do that

I imagine many of the sickly sweet mummies you mention also prefer adult parties with wine and their own dc to others given the choice. I know I do. But to the casual observer and veteran of many a jelly and ice cream style party I may appear otherwise. I do it for my dc, not me.

When you have a baby and it grows into a child, it's quite hard to not to become into contact with other people's children if yours is to have any friends. Inevitably kids parties will be on the agenda too.

pagwatch - I know that parent!

'Performance parenting', hadn't heard that before, will be using it again though.

Pagwatch - seriously!?! Poor Doodles!

Ok ... I shall start trying to like jelly for my gorgeous munchkinnikins sake!

I love listening to little kids, not their parents. I can't get enough of the utter fantasy and twaddle that they come out with. Let them rip with a rambly story about how they got their shoes or something.....brilliant. Motherese is an important developmental stage in language. They are picking up sounds and stresses and the facial movements that go with it. we wouldn't do it otherwise. And it is not cos we are mindless morons neither. doesn't suit everyone, but I do think you are missing out on some priceless interaction with not only your own kid but others.

Well don't be. Be normal. Talk to him as you think feels right.

But don't describe other people as 'sickly sweet' when it's just not your thing. I think you sound a little self-conscious - because really it doesn't matter what you do with your baby to anyone other than you.

BTW you may find kids' parties go a lot better with wine Pass the parcel is a lot easier to deal with that way,

It's all going to go just fine with you OP. I would even probably talk to you at a toddler group, if I ever went to one as long as you didn't have a "Wickle Pwinceth on Board" sticker too .

Of course you prefer parties with wine, all adults do. Children's parties are aimed at children.

YABU for not knowing that both baby talk and use of 3rd person help speech development, but talk how you want to your baby and I'll talk how I want to mine.

Is this a case of never the twain shall meet?

I think striking the balance is the best way.

I have a friend who is a director in a massive company, she's shit hot and always looks/acts really sharp - but when she gets home she is on the floor with her children and talking all mummy-wummykins.

I thinks it's nice.

We don't have to be one way all the time.

Most people use Mummy etc instead of I because a small baby/child doesn't understand pronouns. So saying "Mummy is going to change Anna's nappy" may be understood, but "I'm going to change your nappy probably won't.

Oh dear,I bought my lovely daughter-in-law a yummy mummy changing bag,thinking she would love it.Now I see why I hardly ever saw it again!

I didn't mean to rile anyone on here - it was meant to be a lighthearted post.

As in my original post I did say I talk to my baby - and know that smiling, over emphasising words etc helps development - I just don't get the goo-goo ga ga stuff

Now ... kids parties with wine sounds great!

Be however you want to be with your child but please please please can you can you calm down with the !!!. They make me read posts in an American high school sorority voice and that makes me want to cry and stuff fluffy socks in my ears.

I'm not a bitch - I'm giving up smoking. I am very sensitive atm.

TIA.

Am I the only person who loves kids parties? Not the kids, especially, in fact they might be easier if the children weren't around. But I get to eat all sorts of junk food that I never normally eat - cheese and pineapple on a stick, little sausages, those ring biscuits that have icing on them, stuff covered in chocolate - and nobody cares. Someone brought out some Frazzles at the last party I went to and I nearly combusted with joy (doesn't take much!). I do at least pretend my dd will eat it by dumping it on her plate first and then obviously no-one wants it once she's dribbled on it/prodded it so I really have to eat it instead.
No? Just me then. Ah well, all the more crap food left for me.

It isn't just over emphasising words that can help. It's the whole scrambling words thing and the sing song tone - yes, the goo goo ga ga stuff.
All good if you chose to do it.

But I am not the slightest bit miffed

I tried my best go be no nonsense mum, but i can't seem to help myself - my little bunny is such.a cutiepie!