to not want DS to wake up in a hotel room on Christmas morning?

[witherhills]

We go to my parents-250miles away
DS is 4
My DH finds Xmas a bit too much, so doesn't want to actually stay with my parents, and not much room anyway.
We have just been let down with serviced apts we usually use.
Alternative is a hotel in city centre.

Am I being precious? or shall we just get up and say Father Christmas came to hotel for you?

I love going to my parents, but I really would like Ds to wake up in his own bed.

Would you be able to get a hotel booking this late in the year?

I thought they'd have been fully booked weeks ago?

2rebecca, I want to be with my extended family at Christmas, it's the best day ever, I would be distraught if I wasn't there, as they would be.
But I was worried I was depriving my son of waking up in his own bed on Christmas morning.

We had one Christmas at home, DS, DH and MIL. Oh joy!

I think most people here seem to think it's not a big deal.
And I'm actually getting enthusiastic about it now!!

mmm don't have much empathy do you...

i'm sure lots of people would love to stay in a hotel to beclose to their family, and you've made comments about it being boring just being at home with your dh and dc and again thats a lot of peoples christmas on here who have no extended family or maybe can't afford to see them.

No sympathy from me op, it's one night in a hotel. Christmas is what you make it. You only get out of it what you put in. Make it a great positivie exciting experience for him he'll love it.

justcall, I couldn't agree more.

Justcall, thats excactly why you should have sympathy (being boring with dh and dc at home). There's more.
I understand your hmmm though, if you haven't read the other threads then yes this one on its own sounds ridiculous.

Justcall, I'm not asking for sympathy, honestly.
If you are in a loving relationship, then Christmas at home with children would be fantastic
The one Christmas I had at home was as a result if the biggest blow up my family has ever had, caused entirely by my dh. He's bloody lucky we are all speaking to him.
Sometimes you have to read between the lines. my husband isn't very
Nice, hence why it might be our last Christmas all together, and staying in hotel rooms might be the norm, and not a nice holiday hotel.
I didn't really want to get into this, because it's not really about him right now, it's about DS.

ok fair enough, but you didn't make the situation clear in your op.

I haven't read your other threads , if you want people to respond assuming they know your life history you need to write it.

Hope it all works out for you & your dc either way - everyone deserves to be happy...

Thanks
It's a fine line. It helps if you have the history but it also changes things. I can't really say my husband is a wanker, I'm going to leave him but what do you think about a hotel room?!
It's sad really

I think if people have read the whole thread then the "between the lines" bit is pretty clear. I admit I don't always but I don't think I'd attack an OP without doing so, or would try not to as it is so easy to misunderstand the situation.

OP I do have to warn you, that Christmas is a particularly awful time if a relationship is "rocky". I would be very very tempted to try to get things sorted before Christmas, as someone is bound to say something which causes World War 3.

I hope DS has a great Christmas whatever happens.

Completely agree with maryz. Am also a bit at the talk of back story.

I agree with Maryz.

The OP had a perfectly reasonable opening post and for people to reply YABU because some people can't afford to stay in hotels, or YABU because I am going on a family city holiday in a hotel for Christmas with shows aplenty is rather irrelevant.

Asda do fab pop up trees covered in decorations - buy one of those, take it in the boot of the car, wait till DS is asleep and put it up in hotel room with presents.

Being 4, honestly he will love it. And it sounds like its very important to you to be near your family - and if you're happy at Christmas he'll be happy

When I was a child we used to leave our home on the east coast of Scotland to drive to Essex. My Dad was the choirmaster at church so we always left after Midnight Mass. We would travel in our camper van until the early hours ( me asleep in the back) and then stop in a layby. Santa always found me. I loved it!

Thank you again
I think understandably Christmas touches a bit of a nerve re family and or finances
Mummytime, all is calm right now and there are no tensions with family, we did get that one sorted.

Just sang some Christmas songs to DS, he's gonna love it, whatever we do.

I'm actually a bit embarrassed that some people know the back story, it's not huge, just dh being increasingly unreasonable

We did Xmas in Canada a few years ago at my brothers, loads of presents for Dd an Santa left a stocking but he also left a special note and a clue as to the present he'd left in the UK
Could you do something like that for main present at your parents house?