DS got into trouble for "making a smell"

[Christiola]

The long and short of it: DS farted at school and was shouted at.

The details - DS has special tutoring in maths. He and his math teacher do NOT get on, he can be disruptive, makes annoying noises all the time (which he also does at home and even when he's on his own so it's currently under question whether he realises he's doing it or not!) and won't work if he's not "in the mood".

I don't condone this behaviour of course and am working with the school to improve it.

On the other side of the fence though, he suffered from IBS and genuinly can't help having wind (does anyone actually fart on purpose?!)

He missed his dinner time because of it. Should I bring it up at parent evening? or because of his general behaviour am I going to have to let it go?

They kept him in at dinner time for FARTING??!!! SERIOUSLY ??!! How old is your DS?

Does anyone actually fart on purpose? I should bloody well hope not - that would be beyond disgusting and surely punishable by instant death?

are you sure?
I mean if he makes annoying noises all the time, how was the tutor to know this wasn't one of them?

"does anyone actually fart on purpose"

I believe naughty schoolboys sometimes do, then giggle intensely.

Depends if he did it for effect, as kids quite often do... (and grown men.. )

Most people can hold it in until they get to the toilet, even schoolchildren though.

Depends how oldhe is I think.

I take it he didn't miss his lunch but missed out on play time? Who told you about it? If it was your ds then he might not be telling you the whole story.

He's 10. He didn't miss his meal, just the playtime.

He wasn't actually told off for making a farting noise, he was told off for making a smell, the teacher said he was "a disgusting boy" which she said in front of the rest of the class which I'm not impressed with either. But then as I said, he can be a wind up merchant.

It;s so awkward because I honestly feel this teacher does not like DS. In an ideal world he could move to a different class but she is the only special needs math teacher for year 6 in the school and he really needs the extra help.

How old is your son? The annoying noises sound rather like tics, which are not uncommon in early childhood. If they are tics, your son certainly can't help them. (Mind you, I have never heard of a farting tic!).

If the teacher and your son don't get on and the teacher doesn't show respect and patience with your son, it's no surprise that your son acts up with him. Did the teacher keep your son off lunch so that he actually missed eating or did he just miss playtime? If he missed his lunch, that's crazy. Personally, I think it's silly to make him miss playtime for farting too. Surely, that should be ignored, not made a big deal of.

Shame your son can't get a different teacher for maths.

Schoolboys do fart on purpose, or at least exaggerate it for effect. I've told boys off for farting loudly and drawing attention to it.

sorry I didn't realise sn was involved, in that case I would be angry as the teacher should make allowances.

If it was for being cheeky ie he lifted his leg/made everyone be quiet to listen or boasted about the smell then fair enough but if it was JUST for farting then that's absolutely disgusting behaviour on the part of the teacher! Even if he did do it 'on purpose' (though how the teacher would know this I've no idea) then if it was there it would have to come out sooner or later. DH has IBS and you can get so gassy with it it can be painful so you can't always hold it in.
I would ask the teacher what actually happened and if he has been punished, possibly humiliated and made to miss a meal for something he genuinely cannot help I would definitely take it further.

I imagine there was more to this than ds just farted - it was probably the last straw.

x-posted. In that case you are definitely not being unreasonable. It's not as if your son made it extra smelly on purpose. Speak to the head.

It probably depends on what led up to it and what happened afterwards, whether he made a big deal out of it and disrupted the class or not. And yes I think boys people can fart on purpose unfortunately and burp

I have been desperately trying to fart on purpose while reading and..no can do! Seriously people can fart on demand?
He missed play time because he made a smell?! That is ridiculous!
Yes I would bring it up at parents evening.

Sorry but we had a jar at school like a big fish bowl with a cork on top in which to collect farts. We lit the whole jar at the end of term and it caused a huge explosion and a disgusting smell that made the classroom unusable after morning break.

Schoolboys do this kind of thing on purpose and I suspect your DS simply did make a noise (even if inadvertently) once too often and was punished.

I also think there must be more to this than just the smell. Maybe he exaggarated it by lifting his leg or otherwise drawing attention to it?

It's appalling that the teacher called him a 'disgusting boy'. And that she shows that she doesn't like your son. If I were you, I'd consider some other way to help your DS with maths. What about Mathswhizz, the online tutoring programme? DS did this and enjoyed it.

I don't think the fact that it may have been the final straw is any excuse. The teacher should have been on top of the behaviour up until then so she didn't overeact to a natural bodily function. I would imagine that if you work with kids with sn especially you should have patience for things like tics and general interruptions.

Sorry but we had a jar at school like a big fish bowl with a cork on top in which to collect farts. We lit the whole jar at the end of term and it caused a huge explosion and a disgusting smell that made the classroom unusable after morning break

A huge explosion? Chinny reckon

How on earth did you collect your farts in a jar?

And yes she was definately wrong to call him disgusting.

You though Morebeta are disgusting

Imagine a realy large goldfish bowl with a wide neck about 6 inch diameter with a big flat cork in it. Then imagine a class of 25 boys using the jar when ever the need arose to deposit gas in it and then slamming the large cork back in the hole.

Then imagine the said class of 25 boys doing that for a whole half term and inviting the whole of Yr 8 to crowd into the one classroom to watch the inaugural lighting of 'The Jar' during morning break.

The explosion was indeed enormous in our eyes as it was a loud enough bang to cause teachers to rush out of the staff room to investigate.

Totally impossible to use the classroom afterwards. Result!