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DS got into trouble for "making a smell"

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Christiola · 14/11/2011 18:12

The long and short of it: DS farted at school and was shouted at.

The details - DS has special tutoring in maths. He and his math teacher do NOT get on, he can be disruptive, makes annoying noises all the time (which he also does at home and even when he's on his own so it's currently under question whether he realises he's doing it or not!) and won't work if he's not "in the mood".

I don't condone this behaviour of course and am working with the school to improve it.

On the other side of the fence though, he suffered from IBS and genuinly can't help having wind (does anyone actually fart on purpose?!)

He missed his dinner time because of it. Should I bring it up at parent evening? or because of his general behaviour am I going to have to let it go?

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PigletJohn · 14/11/2011 23:00

how would you stop the old ones getting out when you opened the lid to put the new ones in?

MissVerinder · 14/11/2011 23:07

Is methane heavier than air?

MoreBeta · 15/11/2011 09:15

lashingsofbingeinghere · 15/11/2011 09:52

MoreBeta - methane is lighter than air. But i still believe your fart in a jar story

QuintessentialShadow · 15/11/2011 09:56

Morebeta, how did you collect new farts without letting the old farts out?

HipHopOpotomus · 15/11/2011 09:59

My school days were long long ago and even I can remember boys in the class farting for effect, especially when the teachers back was turned. Queue whole class giggling. Then teacher would turn back to board and it would happen again. Boys can even do those fake farts in their armpit to generate same, and wind up teachers.

So you, people do/can fart deliberately to wind teachers up and get a laugh from clasmates.

PeneloPeePitstop · 15/11/2011 10:19

trying to fart on purpose
straining
really straining
fails

lesley33 · 15/11/2011 10:37

It depends on the circumstance. I have seen boys life their leg and force a fart out. So yes boys do fart on purpose.

worraliberty · 15/11/2011 10:42

I've got 3 boys and yes they do fart on purpose

My 9yr old can fart on demand

But it's probably more to do with his attitude I would guess. If he was grinning instead of excusing himself for example.

lesley33 · 15/11/2011 10:49

Also if teacher saw him forcing a fart out earlier, warned him and then shortly afterwards smelt another fart from him - I can imagine the teacher reacting like this. In other words, there are lots of scenarios where the teachers reaction would have been appropriate. So without talking to her, nobody can say whether this teacher was reasonable or not.

PigletJohn · 15/11/2011 11:27

PeneloPeePitstop , shall I send you a tub of my delicious buttery onion sauce?

WhoseGotMyEyebrows · 15/11/2011 11:49

He wasn't actually told off for making a farting noise, he was told off for making a smell, the teacher said he was "a disgusting boy" which she said in front of the rest of the class which I'm not impressed with either.

I would complain to the head. No child should be called disgusting and definately not infront of the other children! And it sounds as though he has a medical condition (did you say IBS) and so should not be punished for the results of that. Definately complain.

sfxmum · 15/11/2011 11:58

at dd's school, farts are called pops and no one cares if they do it, just no comment, don't see a problem with it, the children occasionally giggle over it and comment on smell but no big deal is made

marriedinwhite · 15/11/2011 12:02

You really mustn't let this go . The teacher told your boy off for making a smell and called him digusting. I'd have a little word - you really mustn't let this go, not this time - do hold on however cross and red in the face the teacher makes you.

stuffthenonsense · 15/11/2011 14:50

farting can definately be purposeful....my ex was an on-demand farter...some people never grow up i guess
anyway, that is not to say your son did it on purpose.

missing a playtime is nothing compared to a boy in my class..i think we were 9, it was 1981, we were having a political lesson re. the outbreak of war in the falklands, he farted, and oh did it SMELL, and he and others giggled, he was always doing it, the teacher, usually so calm and lovely, dragged him out of his chair, smacked his legs and sent him to the head.

HalfTermHero · 15/11/2011 15:06

I think it is fair enough. Fart and suffer the consequences. As for the annoying noises, I would take him to the dr. By ten he is old enough to control himself vocally. Sounds like it might warrant investigating.

WhoseGotMyEyebrows · 15/11/2011 16:34

HalfTermHero I agree. Has he been tested for turrets? Is there a test for turrets?

complexnumber · 15/11/2011 16:47

(does anyone actually fart on purpose?!)

And you are the mother of a 10 yo ds!!

Fantastic! I laughed so much I emptied the room.

overmydeadbody · 15/11/2011 16:54

Depends on the circumstances.

I suspect the farting might have been the straw that broke the camels' back for the teacher. I have had children wind me up and wind me up and wind me up on a low level, constantly, until I break and have had enough and then they miss their play time. I wouldn't call a child disgusting though, for the fart smelling, the smell cannot be helped.

Boys do fart deliberately, can I just add, from my experiences working with year 5 and 6 boys.

Talk to the teacher OP, find out exactly what happened, what led up to this? At 10 your DS shouldn't be refusing to work just because he is not in the mood, especially when he is getting extra help. It is a shame him and the teacher don't get on, but not all people do do they? Hard situation. Can you help him at home with maths so he doesn't have to go to this teacher for extra help?

complexnumber · 15/11/2011 17:37

I don't see any problem with telling a boy his BEHAVIOUR is disgusting. That's a culturally accepted norm.

In the same way that you would not tell a boy HE was crass, but that maybe his behaviour was crass.

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Christiola · 15/11/2011 17:48

Thanks for the advice on this.

If there is one thing I've learnt - it's that I have an unhealthy interest in collecting farts in a jar.

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