MIL Stealing our thunder - AIBU?

[NewbeeMummy]

So after many years of being together, DP popped the question yesterday.

I'm over the moon, and we had discussed it a few times over the last 12 months, but something has always come up or it's not felt quite right, or real life has got in the way, and we're both really happy about it.

We're both divorcees, and in one of our many chats we discussed the fact that it would mean a lot for me to use my grand mothers engagement ring when we ever got around to sorting out getting engaged. (this is relevant - sorry if I'm waffling)

So I phoned my family and told them, but also said we wouldn't be saying anything outside of the family until we have had the ring resized so I could wear it and we could do it properly, DP then phoned his mum and told her the news and the same message (I was in the room so I know he told her not to tell anyone) but 2 minutes after getting off the phone she has emailed all their side of the family and friends to tell them the good news(including his sister who we wanted to tell directly not have her hear it via the grapevine)

So I've had people emailing me and commenting on facebook, and colleagues now asking where's the ring, which is want we didn't want.

Now I know I'm probably being a bit unreasonable, but it would have been really nice if for just once she would have respected our wishes and not said anything as we asked her to.

I'm probably just grumpy because when DP told her, her comment was "well you could do worse". (I know she was joking but - argh! can she not just be nice for once...)

Great post Shouty.

My advice was to simply tell everyone that she wasn't supposed to tell everyone, but perhaps it would be more effective to save that for the conversation that Shouty is suggesting, about redeeming herself.

Unbelievable, to announce someone's engagement on their behalf!

That is so lovely! Funny too, but definately lovely :)

I was wondering if it'd work with my DP, but he'd just be suspicious as it's normally him doing the sweet things for me!

Congratulations on your engagement.

I can sympathise as my ILs put a birth announcement in their local paper while I was still in hospital with DS so we didn't get to tell anyone about his birth!

I have to say, despite our best efforts, we have never succeeded in getting them trained so just organise things the way we want them now

Well, now you know if/when you get pg not to tell her until last.

Congratulations!