To have been confused by 22 turning up to DD's party...

[soandsosmummy]

when I only had 16 acceptances and one of those contacted me earlier in the day to say their dd was ill and couldn't come. That means 7 people who never responded turned up. Obviously they were welcome but just unexpected!

Luckily I'd made 25 party bags and catered for plenty as I always like to have extras for siblings if they turn up at pick up time for example so we had enough but AIBU to have wanted to know in advance?

I did. I know it's not a good reason though.

I have heard some people put the time and day but not the venue. They only give that info out when someone has RSVped!

One person did make a good point earlier up the thread about people who don't RSVP, Shangers. As BridgetJonesPants said, invitations can get forgotten in children's trays at school, and may not make it home until after the party is history.

The only party invitation that we didn't bother to RSVP was one where we got the invitation sent home with our 4yo from reception on a Wednesday for a party two days later on Friday, from 6pm-8pm. DS2's bedtime was 6:00pm at that time, and he would never have lasted through the party. We couldn't locate the parents of the other child the next day during the school run, and even though it said "RSVP" on the invitation, there was no method of contact (no home phone number, no email, no mobile number to text), so we just gave up. But I chalk that up to poor timing on their part, should have given us more notice and some form of contact info.

Triggles that's not a case of not bothering but not being able to which is somewhat different. I'd certainly not be impressed at the idea of a party for 4 year olds which starts at 6pm I can only imagine how tired and cranky they'd be

I am often left wondering why ds has been invited to some parties. He is getting a little older, friendship groups have formed and some children do not click.

I have just found an invitation in dd's book bag, for a party which was held yesterday. I have text an apology. However, dd said invites were handed out on the day before the party. Why so late?

Its very rude that people don't RSVP.

My dd's 5th birthday party she invited all the girls in the class and only 2 came . I knew a few days in advance after asking parents at the school gates and I turned it round for her. She thinks her party was fab and the girls and parents of the girls who didn't come were jeolous of her party . Could never have afforded to have done the revised party with more than 3 though so they wouldn't have got it if they had turned up.

To whoever said March was such an awkward time of year for a birthday party, how so? August (school holidays) and late December, maybe, but March? Don't think so.

beingarebel Oooh what did you do?

Floggingmolly That made me laugh. March? That ridiculous. There is always someone who will say that every month on the year is awkward.

THC - 9yo girls? DVD, popcorn and sleepover seems to be the norm here