To take offence at DHs post on my brothers FB wall?

[Pascha]

this probably outs me.

Dh saw DBs wall post showing pics of his fiancee's engagement ring which is very pretty (of course). Thy have a fairly antagonistic relationship with sarcasm as the main mode of communication on both sides.

He just posted: "is that from Wilkinsons range then?" (ie cheap and nasty).

You took offence at that? Really?
Jesus, the world is going to hell in a handcart.

It's bloke humour, they say the opposite of what you mean,

So 'alright you fat bastard' = 'looking good, how are you?"

Therefore

'is that from wilkos?' ='that must have set you back a fair bit'

It made me laugh

I avoid facebookfor many reasons, including the capacity for misunderstandings. Was it a joke or a dig? You can't convey subtle humour well in text and stuff like this can lead to major rows. I guess if DB is ok about it, it's ok. If not, good luck sorting it out.

To quote Stephen Fry - You're offended. So fucking what!

A colleague I am friends with got engaged to his other half a month or so ago, and posted an album of pics of the weekend away that it took place on. All light hearted, un-posed, unpretentious pics of them out in bars, restaurants etc, inc one of her hand with the ring on, them getting a bit boozed on champagne etc. Lots of friends commented, not one made a 'joke' like that, it would have looked out of place tbh.

A lot depends on the context. If it was just a pic of a ring in a box then a little crass (still no call to be rude if they don't have that relationship) but if it was as I described, a pic of in in situ at the happy event type thing then I don't see if as show offy. (Spell check kept trying to make that into orgy, totally different thread) I would just see it as excitement.

Either way I'd be a little protective of my sister in those circs.

It's the end of the world as we know it.

I once got engaged and the man I got engaged to told his best friend that he thought the ring was a worthless sentiment of imperialism. I thought that was a bit of a double standard so I told him I was going of to live on a llama farm on Oban.

I think I was right.
I really wouldn't worry. They are both grown men.

I for one can't wait for the slew of AIBU threads Pascha's brother's wedding is going to generate...

Viv if the cuff links don't match you can stand back and watch the world explode.

arf

it's a joke, don't take it seriously.

the only response to a comment like 'is that from wilkinson's range then' is 'no, wilko's was too expensive. poundland'

yes, to women it is mean and nasty, but in the 'world of bloke', i'd say this is normal conversation

Leave the bastard

This Wilkinsons www.martinwilkinson.net/offers.html certainly isn't cheap.
Still not sure which Wilkinsons the OP is on about. If he'd joked about Argos or Elizabeth Duke I'd understand, mind you I think expensive jewellery is a waste of money so wouldn't be impressed with a bloke I was about to share finances with squandering loads of it on a probably dodgily mined stone. It's all a bit "kept woman".

I think its more Wilkos than Martin Wilkinson !!

For the record, VP loves a bit o' Wilkos.

Wilkinsons will one day rule the world. It is probably a sound investment.

YABU. It was just a joke. Probably the sort of thing my DH would put.

I would not be happy at all, still annoyed at future MIL's comment, that was "just a joke" when i showed her my ring, "oh its sooooo small, i thought you would have wanted a massive rock"

1/2 carat diamond is quite enough, and she obviously thinks im a gold digger, stealing her little boy.

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Many men test each other's vulnerability through harsh or sarcastic jokes. It's just something that they do, much more than women. From one woman to another, that comment would read as really bitchy, but from one man to another it's harsh but still within the parameters of banter - especially if they usually have a dynamic that's full of this kind of comment.

I'd chalk your different reaction up to that, shrug your shoulders and let it go.

Hully

Have you spoken to your DH about it and let him know how you feel, and you don't think it's right? FWIW, it doesn't sound like a very nice thing to say about someone's engagement ring, even if it is a joke.

I laughed.

Hully I shall wear my badge until you decree I can be Finch once more.

Oh go on then, you have worn the badge for long enough

my goodness is this still going? Has OP written anything witty on FB yet? Or did her brother go round and fill his BIL in? Who do you like in the jungle and isn't it fab about Amelia