to want to kill my 17 year old son?

[cricketballs]

have name changed as this can out me!

after a £20 note went missing this week from a collective pot, the only person who could have taken it is my 17 year son who goes to college. He denied it and myself and dh decided as we couldn't prove anything to leave it alone, but leave the general pot of money where he can't find it.

I will admit that I have been snooping as I saw him bring in a shopping bag full of 'crap' that I know he didn't have the money for whilst he was on his driving lesson (that we pay for) and despite him being a very active sportsman tobacco and cigarettes. Called dh and he suggested taking them and not saying anything....I carried on looking around and found an empty half bottle of vodka, more cigarettes, lighter, half box of condoms (at least he is using them!)

I know that I was in the wrong for snooping, but I really can not believe what I have found and I do not know what to do - tackle him, leave it? At the moment I am of the mind to stop funding him completely as we pay for all his college stuff, give him money if he needs it - although we have both told him that he needs to find a part time job as we can not continue to fund at this level

i already said i know you dont actually want to kill him. it's just a stupid drama queeny thing to say. as i said, i've a low tolerance for that kind of shite.

good job you don't live near me then - its used in this area by everyone on a daily basis

You dont need to pay for his driving lessons, DN girlfriend goes to college everyday, two jobs at the weekend and paid for her own driving lessons.

In fact, you dont need to pay for anything apart from college expenses for travel. I paid for my own meals and bus fare at that age.

Condoms can be got free from family planning, including flavoured ones to encourage safe oral sex.

In our family is a millionaire whose 4 children are adults, all live at home and claim they dont know what they want to do for a living, but why would they when mum and dad fund 3 holidays a year and a car each?? extreme example but you can see where I'm going? if he needs things he is capable of finding work to fund them. There are jobs about, christmas work in supermarkets, shop work etc. They dont pay enough to fund a family with kids but for a teenager they would be worth doing.

it's hard when your babies become teenagers and start becoming grown up. will never forget the shock when I found a vibe under DDs pillow while changing her bed!! have no problems with vibes per se, but this was my baby!
Hate the fact that my DDs and older niece and nephew are old enough to be drinking, having sex etc, but such is life.

If someone is old enough to use a vibrator, they are old enough to change their own sheets.

choccy
very true!

flick - see my other posts; it is a phrase....