TO THINK THAT THIS LITTLE BOY MAY NEED HELP!

[cuteboots]

Ok here goes there is one little boy in my sons class who you hear about all the time for all the wrong reasons. Last night my son came home really upset telling me that this little boy had bitten him on the arm whilst in the classroom? he still had the mark on his arm when I checked so it obviously wasnt a small bite! at the start of the year he came to my sons party and proceed to cause chaos and stabbed a little girl in the arm with a colouring pencil! Even through Infant school he was the one little boy kicking and punching other children. I know that children are not angels but would you be happy with this? On a daily basis its this little boy that seems to be disrupting the class and lashing out at oither children? Am I just being a bit too protective of my son ?

He's probably been playing COD or something of that ilk.

He might need help, but nobody's going to be interested if he's not being directly abused or seriously neglected. Social Services don't have the resources these days. Parents have to take responsibility and some don't mind if their kids are exposed to serious violence or pornographic images.

Didnt spot the biting in COD myself hidden ...

Cute have you spoken to the teacher at all?

very worrying......

YANBU - there are parents who just aren't good at bringing up thier own DC to manage their emotions well. He sounds like a very angry little boy and that anger comes from somehwere.

beyong the limits-yep Ive had the chat with the teacher. They are keeping him off the playground today and his mum has been informed

COD doesnt have biting or pencil stabbing in it maybe if the boy brought in a sniper rifle and took out all of the kids from the rooftops then you may have a point about the game being to blame

OP if I were you Id perhaps mention it to the teachers, maybe they have noticed something is amiss or had other people raise concerns.

Cod?? Wtf?

domedon-Thats probably not good aye in a seven year old?

god its depressing, as judging by the news yesterday either nothing will be done or they out him on anti psychotics

I really get your concern, and I also get there is little that can be done, from your side

DC who are exposed to violent or sexual images often become angry and act out. They do not have the emotional capapbility to deal with the things they see. hidden may well have a point but am guessing you were being deliberatley obtuse there beyond

Ilovetiffany- Probably thats near the truth

Very sad in a 7 year old. Have you spoken to the school though - that is the only way to go.

porcamiseria- I cried as its bloody tough enough being a single working mum without this as well

domedon-All I can do is hilight it every time he does it how wrong is that?

Not disagreeing with that at all DoMe , but the instant blaming of COD above seems a little, well, ridiculous to me. And others apparently.

Either the little boy is suffering from a serious lack of decent parenting or he has some behavioural and/or medical condition.

If it is the former then I would exclude him from party invites until such time as he has learnt how to behave himself in an acceptable manner. School should seek to control his bad behavious including his parents in the attempt. If it is the latter situation then it is good that the boy is being included socially but his parents should be mindful of accompanying him to social events (parties etc) and keeping a close eye to be sure no violent situations arise. Equally the little boy should be properly supported and assisted in school so that he feels happy and secure and so that other children are not attacked.

In conclusion, whatever the cause of the behavious, YANBU to be very unhappy about your child being bitten during school hours. You should go into the school to lodge a complaint and discuss what steps they will take to ensure the safety of your son.

A bit beyond but computer games with graphic violent and sexual images are so widespread now it is probably not far off the mark. It is a bit of a knee jerk reaction to say -ooh COD did it all. For me it is all about the parenting in a 7yo. A parent should help their DC manange thier anger and deal appropraitely with violent outbursts.

Yes, out of control kid? Blame COD, Kid nicking stuff? It must be COD, your dog has bitten you? He must have been watching you play COD.

Kids know whats right and wrong at that age, blaming games etc is a cop out

That is not all you can do - I think you can insist on knowing how this is being dealt with.

If hidden had written what you wrote DoMe ("DC who are exposed to violent or sexual images often become angry and act out" etc), I wouldnt have said anything. If s/he had said "he could have access to violent games at home", I wouldnt have said anything. Saying "Hes probably been playing COD" was a massive leap from nothing and not really fair on the poor makers of COD

Ok, what is COD? Why would it make you bite someone? We have 4dcs ranging 13-6 and I've never come across it?

The poor boy does sound disturbed, though. I once went to see the head about a liitle girl age 6 who was using adult sexual language and making advances to other children in the playground, and bullying generally. I though someone should be checking up on what was happening at home.

Absolutely. After all, those of us who grew up before the invention of home computers well remember how schools used to be havens of calm with no bullying, bad behaviour or physical violence whatsoever.

Eeee, when I were a lad t'were all fields round 'ere...

Poor wikkle COD makers - only thier millions to keep them warm at night

Call Of Duty - much maligned shoot em up computer game. Makes grown men stay up all night, eat chocolate, drink beer and act like snappy teens - me, bitter?

yanbu to think this child needs better help and support at school. possibly it's undiagnosed SN, possibly something else going on. Am a bit about the COD assumption!

Call of duty game