To want a boob job?

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I have a DS5 (bf 2.4 years) and DD2 (bf 20mts). Husband has had snip so not expecting to have any more.

So I won't need the milk facility again!

The reason I want one is because I am left with two almost empty sacks that only half fill the bra's I had before I started motherhood. The shape and lack of fullness is my problem, not the reduced size which I have accepted.

I am on target to get back to my pre baby weight which will give me a BMI of 22 and I then want to finish by rewarding myself with the boobs I used to have.

I was a 32E and I guess I am now around a C, but a very droopy one with so much room inside my skin.

My hubby is very supportive of my current shape and says i am beautiful, however does not appear to have a problem with me having enhancement if it makes me happy.

I would have to take a loan out to pay for it, instead of doing up the bathroom in the same way, which is tired, but perfectly acceptable.

Anyone know of the pro's/con's - I have convinced myself I am being selfish, a - the money and b - the risk (all in the pursuit of a better self image).

Oh. A difficult one this.

I'd say YANBU apart from the fact you would need a loan.

In your circumstances, OP, I'd go for reconstruction rather than any kind of augmentation. Implants really don't look or feel real to me. I've had breast reduction surgery previously.

I just want to feel confident. I am very much usually accepting of the flaws that having babies creates. Such as stretch marks and a flabby belly, but I just lack so much confidence now about my breasts. I am trying to work out why I can't just accept the way I am now.

I am unsure of the options available because I would need to have a consultation and I am a long way of doing that yet. Still in the process of trying to convince myself that I should accept and love what I do have.

I could save up for 2 or three years to negate the need for a loan, but I would rather pay a little bit of interest if I decide to go ahead as I don't want to prolong the period that I feel bad.

YANBU to feel this way, and I am sure lots of women reading this will identify. But the truth is, but you will never have the breasts you once had. Implants never, ever look natural, I'm afraid. And they feel awful. Honestly. Do you know anyone with implants? if so, ask to have a squeeze - horrific!

Obviously, only you can decide how bad things are and how drastic a step you want to take, but have you considered investigating high-quality bras with some light padding? I can highly recommend Rigby and Peller.

Good luck

excuse random 'but'!

If you are fairly young I might suggest waiting a few years.

On a recent girly night out for a group of early 40 something year olds we got to discussing our boobs and most of us had found that they increased in size as we hit late 30's early 40's, perhaps its a kind of middle age spread.

For some this was good news and for some disasterous ! One friend in particular would really like a breast reduction before she hits late 40's and is saving up for it.

Maybe you could save up for it and not then be taking on debt at a time when it is really inadvisable to be doing so.

Go for a consultation with a good surgeon who won't push you, and get a better idea of the best thing for you/price etc.

I think Lying has it along the right lines.

YABU ime just for the fact you would have to take out a loan. Of course bodies change shape after having babies, that's just life.

To put yourself through an unnecessary op is pure vanity and a risk that shouldn't be taken lightly with a young family.

I would spend a morning googling things that can go wrong after a seemingly straight forward op and you might change your mind. What you could be left with might be far far worse than the boobs you have now. I would suggest a really well fitting push up bra and waiting a few years as omg said in her post.

YANBU.
I want boob job too. I had lovely pair of knockers and now they just long, flat pancakes covered in strech marks...hate them! I am a bit scared to get them done ...

don't be so mental

yanbu

i used to have a lovely pair before my 2 kids 30DD and really high and pert

now they are still the same size but much "flatter" iyswim and even in a bra i have hardly any cleavage, all the volume at the top of them has been lost :(

but i wouldn't have a boob job as a)can't afford it and b) wouldn't dare!!!

also if you have implants they need replacing every 10 years, (apols if you already knew that!)

I might just save up. Then that gives me time to accept my new shape, or if I can't, then I won't be causing debt to fund my vanity. I am well aware that it is utterly selfish and ridiculous to go to extreme lengths to look good, but if I can't stop myself stressing about it it has the potential to have a significant negative impact on my life.

I have got to admit I really am not keen on implants. I am hoping that there will be an option for an uplift and fill out that will look natural. Not sure if they even do what I want.

The last thing I want is to look fake.

I have enough existing breast tissue and skin for it to look natural I think. It just needs moving about and pumping up a bit to look good again.

Urgh. Eeee. Well yanbu for feeling complicated about your new boobs. It's difficult to get your head round them. Especially if you could now get them round your head. My post baby boobs and belly - which are also post huge weight loss boobs and belly - are very different. On the other hand ... fuck it. I'm the same gorgeous lovable genius Goddess I always was :-D

Take some time to think and to get used to yourself. This decision can wait. New bathroom sounds fun... what would it look like? Plan it!

I filled mine back up! Not one person has ever asked if they are fake, including family. I wear the same size bra as before. I just have fullness. Go for it.

It can and does go wrong sometimes too. My friend is left with 2 gaping angry scars, 5 years on from her op. She got an infection and had to have one implant removed for 6 months, they replaced it when the infection was clear. The stress and scarring have knocked her confidence, additionally her breast are uneven and differnet shapes as they cut away a lot of infected scar tissue. I appreciate the vast majority of ops have wonderful outcomes but do you want the op enough to risk it going wrong. You could end up worse off.

I do think I am quite attractive with what I have most of the time, but when I am lying in bed, and on my side and there is two squished, flat blobs with wrinkly skin on me I want to get them off. It makes me almost cry to see them. Standing up I suppose I can cope. When I think of what I had, I know I will never look that good again, and I do accept that, my fella is not as attractive as he was either so fair is fair, but I can change my shape with diet and exercise, I cannot change my boobs. That is something I either accept and live with or try to change and risk the side effects.

I am quite a sensible person, so I will prob accept things in time. But part of me does not want to accept things, part of my non sensible inner child wants to look amazing for my fella and go back to the 'lights on' girl I was.

I think 32c is a fair size, I'd consider a lift and not enlargement.

Amazing for your fella? It has to be for you and only for you.

delfatedbaloonbellyn and DoMeDon - do you know the companies that did these two ops?
DoMeDon - that is what puts me off. To be honest, it has nothing to do with the money. I could probably save up in 6 months if I really wanted to, and would just have to go on a slightly less expensive holiday next year to make up for it.

It's a difficult thing to find recommendations for, or vice versa.

PosiesOfPoison - my fella tells me all the time I look amazing. He is really lovely about it. I just want to look good for him because I want to, not because he wants me to, and that's because I want to look good for myself surely.

Think it was The Harley Medical Group. From reading your last post it really just sounds like you are having trouble accepting your new body. Ageing, sagging, wrinkly skin are all part and parcel of being a woman. I hope you can learn to appreciate your boobs - they are wonderful things

(readint that last bit back sounds a bit odd! hope you know what I mean!!)

I think I don't really know you can get a boob lift, instead of implants? It won't return your size, but by lifting the breasts you can get a nice shape at least.

I think implants are not a good idea, too many things can go wrong.

I do sympathise, I have similar angst about my post-baby tummy. Most of the time it's fine, lalala, the price of motherhood, let's not be vain, etc.... but sometimes I just burst into tears because I hate it so much.