To want a boob job?

[thatchedhouse]

I have a DS5 (bf 2.4 years) and DD2 (bf 20mts). Husband has had snip so not expecting to have any more.

So I won't need the milk facility again!

The reason I want one is because I am left with two almost empty sacks that only half fill the bra's I had before I started motherhood. The shape and lack of fullness is my problem, not the reduced size which I have accepted.

I am on target to get back to my pre baby weight which will give me a BMI of 22 and I then want to finish by rewarding myself with the boobs I used to have.

I was a 32E and I guess I am now around a C, but a very droopy one with so much room inside my skin.

My hubby is very supportive of my current shape and says i am beautiful, however does not appear to have a problem with me having enhancement if it makes me happy.

I would have to take a loan out to pay for it, instead of doing up the bathroom in the same way, which is tired, but perfectly acceptable.

Anyone know of the pro's/con's - I have convinced myself I am being selfish, a - the money and b - the risk (all in the pursuit of a better self image).

dreamingbohemian, that's what happens.

I accept the stretch marks, I accept slightly more flab, I accept a flabby belly, I (almost) accept messed up vagina, saggy ass with saggy skin, but I just cannot accept the flops that are more wobbly than jelly and almost as flat as pancakes.

It is nothing to do with the size at all. So prob will not need implants. I am not sure whether a lift will do it, there may still be too much space in my skin that will need filling somehow.

YANBU I had a boob job 6 years ago for the same reasons.

You could consider an uplift instead, I also had one and if it wasn't for the fact that I wanted mine to be bigger so I was more in proportion then the uplift would have been perfect.

Slightly more expensive than a basic augmentation but if size isn't an issue I'd say go for an uplift so you don't have to worry about replacing implants, possible leaking etc.

Good luck!

It must be really hard It can't hurt to go for a consultation -- then at least you know what your options are. In fact, it can't hurt to go for a couple, at different places.

Sorry x posted with a couple! That'll teach me for taking ages to reply.

I've had an uplift and you could never tell. Honestly, my scars are invisible unless you look extremely closely and I point them out.

Also any surgeon worth their salt will tell you that shoving an implant in a saggy boob will just give you bigger saggy boobs.

It is really hard hating your body. Mine didn't change much with pg- I was fat and covered in stretch marks before anyway!

I am lucky, I had a lovely body before, ace boobs. I did not realise at the time, quite how lucky I was. Now I know! But even now, I only hate a very small section of my whole self. And it is fixable.

I just don't know if it is worth the risk to look better. That is something i need to keep working on.

If someone came into my front room right now and offered it then and there, I would snap their hand off. Doubt comes and goes. As does certainty!!

If you are unhappy & it'll make you feel, absolutely go for it.

Ask your dr to refer you to a surgeon & go for a consultation to see what you can achieve - I would recommend not going too big, apart from looking fake you'll find dresses difficult to fit you.

You'll need at least 10 days to feel normal again & make sure you buy a supportive sports bra for afterwards, apparently M&S do a good one.

ThatchedHouse,

I know how you feel and I planned to have a boob job after my second child. However, after having my DD I started to think about the example I'd be setting for her and that's what really put me off.

When I look at my gorgeous girl, the thought that she would ever consider putting herself at risk and through pain, just to look more attractive, makes me feel sick. Imagining that she would ever feel 'not good enough' because of the way she looks is horrific in itself.

I started thinking about what it might be like when my DD is a teenager. If she is perhaps overweight, or not 'model perfect' and it affects her confidence as a teenager, what advice would I give and how would I try to increase her confidence? When I thought about that, the idea that I'd be strutting about with fake boobs really conflicted with the example I'd want to set.

I'm not sure how articulate I've been there - i'm struggling to express the exact feelings I had! I just know that when I started to think that way I knew I could never have cosmetic surgery.

My own mother is very image concious (always on a diet, always at hairdressers, has botox etc.) and was always encouraging me to 'make an effort' in quite a critical way as I grew up. I don't want to pass this on.

I'm not judging the way you feel as I understand, just wanted you to think about all the implications.

You could use the 'would have been a boob job' money to have a great family holiday, or for sessions with a personal trainer and some serious clothes shopping :-)

Whatever you decide, good luck.

"I think I don't really know you can get a boob lift, instead of implants? It won't return your size, but by lifting the breasts you can get a nice shape at least.

I think implants are not a good idea, too many things can go wrong."

Boob lifts can go wrong too, you know! The term "boob lift" is a bit like "tummy tuck" - simple almost childlike language to describe major reconstructive surgery. I had a breast reduction, which is basically a boob lift with more tissue removed. It's pretty complex surgery, takes longer than implant surgery and has a longer recovery time.

OP, YANBU of course, to feel the way you do. I wouldn't counsel you for or against surgery, I would just strongly urge you to read up as much as you can before you make a decision. If you do decide to go for surgery, it is crucial that you find a surgeon with lots of experience and a low rate of post-operative complications. You can't be sure they won't happen, but you're obviously safer with someone who knows what they're doing.

I have decided that I would have to save up if I want it doing.

That will give me enough time to come to terms with my new body and I may not then bother given the risks.

thanks to all.

Fantastic post from the badger

OP that sounds like a great plan. In time you may come to accept your changed shape and if not, you still have the option of dealing this if you really want to.

BigKahuna Implants never, ever look natural, I'm afraid. And they feel awful. Honestly. Do you know anyone with implants? if so, ask to have a squeeze - horrific! You are wrong, and insulting to anyone who has had a reconstruction.

Oh don't be so silly!@helen

I don't see how that is 'insulting'. And what do you mean by 'reconstruction'? I am not talking about breast reduction (and obviously not referring to women who have implants after a masectomy!). But I have seen many, many implants (I used to work in the beauty industry in a long ago, youthful past) and have never seen a pair that didn't look 'done'. Maybe not in clothes, but naked or in swimwear - yes. And if all someone wants to do is look good in clothes, surely major surgery is a bit extreme?

I think all this is about the way women have been valued for looks only.

We are all obviously good feminist women these days, but the idea still lurks. I think that's why many of us still wear makeup and high heels and whatnot. It's been sort of bred into us to look good, as that is part of what makes us valuable apparently. And we do it to ourselves with all the glossies and the fashion industry etc. (Which is hate and think is shallow. Except that it is self expression too and art and style, and I love all those things. ???)

I think also that we are all on the continuum somewhere - some women do not pander to that crap at all, some women have lots of surgery and so on, and probably most of us are in the middle.

One thing I do think is that we all have the right to choose now, for ourselves, but it's scary that any choices we are making PRO looking good could be put down to that gender conditioning.

Having stuck my oar in regarding your boobs, I will now be applying lip gloss and going to a meeting! ;)