To still be polite to my in laws?

[Midori1999]

I posted a while ago about my in laws coming to stay and see their new (and first) granddaughter, who is 4 1/2 months old. My DH is away and will be for their whole visit. My Mum offered to stay while they are here to help out, especially as I have three other children aswell.

Anyway, they have been here for 4 days so far. The first day they were here the conversation went like this:

FIL (to MIL) 'I fancy a cup of tea'
MIL (to my Mum): 'make FIL a cup of tea will you love?'

My lovely Mum just did it!

Since then the PIL haven't made a single cup of tea or coffee, even for themselves. Either me or my Mum have made FIL's breakfast every morning. Then cleared up after him as he doesn't do it. Neither of them has so much as taken a cup or plate out to the kitchen when they have finished it, let alone washed it up. Earlier on, MIL asked my Mum to go and get her a glass of water FFS!

I went back to bed for an hour or so with the baby earlier as she was getting over stimulated and over tired and I am getting mastitis again, for the 5th time. My Mum told them it was fine if they wanted to help themselves to things (I had already told them to do this and make themselves at home) and that I absolutely wouldn't mind, but they still keep asking us to get things for them. It's driving me mad!

MIL also keeps helping herself to my netbook without asking, despite the fact I have not said she can use it. Yesterday she closed some pages I had googled with info I hadn't had a chance to read yet. Not the end of the world, but annoying.

I wouldn't be rude to them at all, and I do actually really like them generally, but I am finding them such hard work whilst they are here and pretty rude too, tbh. I suppose I just needed to rant.

If I didn't know better, I'd think they'd read this thread tbh. We got back from shopping this afternoon and they brought the shopping in and MIL unpacked it the best she could and than made me a coffee. (my Mum was collecting the boys from school, so not here, but still!) maybe my DH has text them or something, he definitely hasn't spoken to them.

I've told my Mum not to run around after them. Offering to put some toast in if she's doing herself some or the same for drinks is fine, but waiting on them is not. I've told her she isn't to mention breakfast at all tomorrow. She said that then FIL won't have any breakfast and I told her that's his problem. He knows he can get it himself if he wants and where everything is.

if your mil has been using your netbook she may well have read it.

hi mil.

Let's hope they HAVE read it!

Hi inlaws! What on earth were you THINKING, expecting a new Mum and HER Mum to wait on you hand and foot?? You should be ashamed of yourselves, you lazy gits! If you'd been MY inlaws you'd have been out on your ear long ago, so pull your fingers out, start looking after THEM for a change and buy some flowers/chocolates into the bargain!

GRRR to you both!

You're both pushover and they are lazy twats.
I'm sorry, but who on earth continues to wait on people hand and foot like this, when 1) they are quite capable of doing it themselves 2) they are as much a guest in the house as your mum is and 3) you've just had a baby.

Next time they ask for a cuppa point to the kitchen and say make me one while you're at it. Then ask them what they plan to prepared for supper that night as you've no food in and don't plan to shop.

Failing that, be more direct and explain this is not a hotel and that they must sort themselves out.

That said, treating people the way they allow themselves to be treated and all that...

Just read more... backwards children, having an assistant. I'd have fucking nutted him by now and kicked him out. What a twunt. Your poor mum