to feel sad and a bit embarrased that my MIL's response to our 3rd pg was 'oh God no'?

[cfc]

We have a 1 and 2.5 yr old and it's early days with this pgcy but Dh is excited and wanted to tell the ILs so he did tonight, we did the test only tonight.

We have a hectic but fun home life. I am a sahm and hubs earns a good wage which sees us right. We are starting an extension which will see us with the space...all in all we're fine and happy. We were kinda planning it, iyswim.

When hubs told her over Skype that we had news she just said 'oh God no' as if I'd just told her I'd got cancer.

The conversation went on in this vein until hubs said we had to go. I feel like a silly kid who's just been told off! Wtf?!

It's taken the shine of the day somewhat.

CONGRATS to you. well done!

YANBU, it was really not a nice thing to say. Boo on her negativity.

Congratulations though! A whole lot of internet strangers think it's great if that is any consolation whatsoever. :)

We told my parents and MIL about DC3 at the same time. There was a slight pause.
DM said "when?" then

MIL said "pass the potatoes"
DF said nowt.

ooh congratulations! would love 3DCs!

Ignore. You should have the family that suits you and DH, not his mother.

My friend has just had her second baby (18 month age gap). When her mother came to visit for the first time she gave her daughter a lecture on contraception to make sure it didn't happen again.

Friend was charmed...

Congratulations

It was probably the shock

When my DD and Sil had the eldest 2 close together I thought it was great, then after 5 years or so decided to have another, I knew there would be a 4th following soon but when they told me about No 5 I admit I hit the roof

I was worried about they would cope emotionally and financially, but they cope brilliantly and the children are now 10, 9, almost 4, 2 and 1 (1st birthday yesterday

Honestly if your MIL is anything like me she'll have had her rant then be over the moon! After all, just because your children grow up doesnt mean you stop worring about them

My DF keeps asking me to have another one, he wants a cricket team and is currently 2 short, apparently I am to make up the shortfall , MIL not so much keen on the whole idea - one of two, whose dm was one of 2, who's dm was one of two and my dh who is one of two.......... get the picture - 2 is what is done, a boy and a girl or two girls solely. , my dm on the other hand although adoring of her gc did as me not to leave the youngest with her too often as he is a menace and opens all her cupboards and makes her realise she needs to clean them which I suspect is the main reason that she doesn't want to have him for too long on his own too often

I can't believe all these reactions. You'd have to scrape me off the ceiling, I'd be so excited!

My MiL's response to us announcing our 2nd, was a blank stare and a change of subject! Later in the evening, she made some passing comment about how children cost lots of money and how they would now need to buy new photo frames to accommodate this new (4th) grandchild. That basically set the tone for the rest of my pregnancy. Needless to say, she doesn't have a great relationship with either of my children!

Congratulations!

Congratulations.

Ignore the silly unpleasant comments. Perhaps it was meant in a half hearted maybe meant to sound kind "im a bit worried how you will cope" way but even if so, there are ways to say things with tact! For what its worth if I was able to, I would have had children close together, what a lovely bond they will all have as they grow up playing and growing together. (As another poster said, aside from the scrapping )

All the very best.

When we announced our 3rd dc was on the way pil werent exactly over effusive with their congratulations. Mil offered to buy us a pram-and when we went to pick it up the lady in the shop asked us if this was our first baby. We of course replied no. She then said oh well will this be your last-before we could even open our mouths mil came out with the corker-"yes it better bloody had be" I would love to have dc 4 just to piss her off.

Fab! Mil is an idiot
ditch"hubs" though - a truly awful vom inducing expression !!it's mumsnet, dh will do!

Oh, mine did this too - exactly the same. So I shot her. Not really. I was blardy annoyed, though . Congratulations! Just ignore her.

Congratulations!!!
Don't worry, my MIL's response was "oh right" ( after a year of fertility treatment).
They'll come round hun, don't let it spoil your happiness.

Congratulations! YANBU to be a bit sad. Unfortunately, You will find that in RL' congratulations' is often reserved for 1st and 2nd pregnancies. When you announce your 3rd (+) pregnancy, you will be met with 'you must be mad', 'was it planned', 'dont you have a tv', 'someone will always be left out if you have 3'... etc. Congratualtions is often merely an afterthought! Suggest you start practising your fake smile now. Ignore them all and enjoy your pregnancy

when I told my dad I was expecting twins, he said "oh christ, I'll get your mum"

I'm so sorry she took the shine off such special news.
Find all these awful comments from family upsetting. I would offer congratulations to anyone lucky enough to be expecting a baby.
I thought grandparents had a bit of thing about how many grandchildren they have. Always remember my grandma bragging how many grandchildren she had.
I had quite a different comment from my mum, soon after having DD she told me not to leave it too long before having another (mum and dad both only children).

When we told MiL I was pregnant with DD1 she said I'd done it to trap DH. At the time, we'd been married 13 years, had bought a 3 bed semi I was 38 and he was 43 - yes, well trapped!! ...!

This thread is strangely comforting! My Dad's response to the news I was expecting dc2 was 'it's not compulsory you know' and 'I hope you're making the right decision'. This then followed by something about how we'd better be very, very careful after this one is out...

You see, op, how many of us have had this rubbish to put up with?! It's almost funny in a rather depressing way. Congratulations, focus on the people who are happy for you.

How rude. And congratulations!

My DH's sister came along 13 months after he did. Apparently, his grandmother told his mum that she'd understand if she had an abortion, given the tiny age gap. Some people have no grace, imagination or tact.

Spring :o Classic!

My mum and my fil were excited about our dc3. My dad was a little hesitant about the impact on lifestyle but then got excited and mil told me that she thought it would be very difficult and was generally negative. I thought she had a jolly nerve considering she had three dc herself!

Burningbridges - had your mil been holding out for a divorce for 13 years then?

It never ceases to amaze me how rude people can be when you announce a pregnancy.

Congratulations! My sister has 3 little DS with very similar age gaps to what yours will have and they are lovely together. It's obviously up to you and your DH how many children you want and when so how rude of them to say anything negative - don't let it dampen the news for you!

YANBU

she is a rude, there are ways of saying these things e.g. 'ooh you'll have your hands full'

manners cost nothing

Ignore her - she is just thinking she couldn't cope so why can you?! Belini I am shocked that your mother could say such a cruel horrible thing. Well done for not punching her in the face.