My mum visits every Tuesday. She used to visit in the morning but now comes in the afternoon because dd is in nursery in the mornings.
She always comes here and we are never invited there. We have been to her house (my childhood home) on a few occasions since I moved out but it has been made clear that it is a huge imposition on her part and she has either given us crisps or nothing to eat if our visits have coincided with a meal time despite having over a weeks notice - anyway I digress.
We got a letter from the school the other day telling us the date of dd's first Christmas play at school.
Obviously me and dh would both love to attend.
Time off work won't be a prob for dh as he can switch from a day to an evening shift if he gives notice. But we do have a 21 month old ds who absolutely hates sitting on knees/being strapped into a pushchair and will scream blue murder through the entire performance. Other than his dislike of being restricted he is a very placid boy and happily entertains himself playing with his cars etc. He very very rarely cries and is no trouble whatsoever.
Considering this I asked my mum today if she would mind coming in the morning that Tuesday and watching ds for an hour. Despite the fact she has never offered to babysit before I thought she might as a one off. She said she would think about it but it would most likely be a no.....because it would involve getting up earlier.
It then occurred to me that every couple of months she comes to me at the crack of dawn so I can cut and colour her hair before dh leaves for work. I told her I will have a think about whether I will be available to do it for her next time. She said I was being mean. I think I'm just treating her as she treats me. AIBU?