This is all very hypothetical, and probably a bit silly, but I am slightly miffed, really. My husband and I were playing "what would we do if we won the lottery tomorrow" - as you do. But frankly, it turns out that what we would be doing is, as always, what HE wants to do.
We have always lived in his home town - I didn't previously, but moved there when we got married as he worked there and it was sensible. My parents live over 100 miles away. We have recently moved even further away from my parents (and, in fairness, his) because he was made redundant and then was offered a job several hundred miles away. So we moved.
Anyway - apparently if we DID win the lottery we would be moving back to his home. I said -- "Well, since we are being all hypothetical and talking about winning £10 million, we will get a house in (the country my parent's live in and my childhood home) too." To be told, "well, if you are going to be moving there, you will be on your own with the children. I'm not coming."
Whilst this isn't worth actually having a row about, as it was only daydreaming anyway, I am a bit pissed off about his attitude. How come our life has to be the one HE wants, and never the one I want? I would love to live in a smallholding in the countryside, preferably within a couple of hours drive of where my parents live as I completely adore the area. He wants to live in his home town. NO discussion or maybe or compromise - just it needs to be his way.
Even where we live now is where HE wants to be rather than where I want to be - again under the guise of "it is more convenient for work" - but he can't claim this with the "if we won..." game.
As I said, silly and probably dull, but it just makes me feel like a very second class member of this family....