i have namechanged here.
I have a group of friends I met about 5 years ago via anti-natal classes. We have kept in touch and had nights out and lunch etc. However, one of the girls in the group wasnt really my cup of tea, she was quite bitchy about people if they wernt there and was really stroppy and unreasonable if we couldnt make any of the nights out etc.
Things recently came to a head when she told one of the group that I had said something that I hadnt and I decided I didnt really want to be around her. There was no big argument, just a disagreement which resulted in me saying that I didnt really want to meet up with her again and that sometimes friendships just come to a natural end. To be honest, it felt like such a relief to know that I didnt have to see her again. I contacted the rest of the group the next day to let them know that I wouldnt be going on any more nights out if she was there but that they needn't feel that they should take sides. To be honest, they arent my lifelong friends, I have friends I have known 30 years from school that I still see every month for lunch/nights out. I havent got much in common with them, we just became friendly due to having our children at the same time. The result was that much of the group secretly felt the same as me but no one was confident enough to do anything about it. I've since seen 1 or 2 of the group for coffee and I know that 1 of the other girls is still in touch with the "ex-friend".
The problem I have is this, "ex-friend" now blatantly ignores me when she sees me, she wont even say hello, so does her sister and her cousin. My dh happens to know her sister and cousin and whenever we see them they say a cheery "hello wagonweel1's dh" and dh reciprocates but they blatantly ignore me. They used to say hello to me, Ive even been to their homes in the past. Goodness knows what "ex-friend" has been saying to them.
It doesnt really upset me that they ignore me in the street, I couldnt really care less, its no loss to me, but what upsets me is that dh still says hello to them even though they are being so rude to me. DH and me can be walking down the street together and this can happen.
Ive spoken to dh about it but he says that I cant expect him to ignore someone just because they ignore me, he says its nothing to do with him. But I think it makes me look foolish and if it was the other way round I would find it hard to say hello to someone who quite obviously ignored my dh for something that had nothing to do with them.