To have shouted at someone elses child?

[mosschops30]

Because i felt really guilty, ended up crying (tired and emotional after a tough 24 hours of stress and virtually no sleep). She was fine about it btw and said she doesnt mind about things like that and she didnt take offence.

She had told him twice to stop kicking the ball at the parents, he ignored her and she moved off for something else. I was watching the match and then bam was hit right in the face and i turned round to them and shouted 'who did that' and they all grassed up this boy and i asked him why he did it, he looked at his mum and i said 'dont look at your mum, shes already told you twice, what you did was naughty', he went off back to play.

I told the mum and she was fine, but then i got all upset and apologised and said it wasnt my place . i still feel so awful though.

YANBU. Don't feel bad - you've done nothing wrong

His mother did not mind. So do not kick yourself so much about it. The boy will probably think twice before doing that sort of thing again.

it absolutely was your place

you have reinforced that it is wrong and done the parent a favour

no excuses needed - avoiding saying anything would have been inappropriate and unhelpful and actually an abandonment of your responsibility as an adult in this world

You got hit in the face. Of course you had the right to say something. It's a shame that more people don't and that more parents don't back them up when their precious offspring impact on others.

I actually think you would have been horribly unreasonable not to have said anything

why on earth wouldnt you say something.. you were hit in the face..

I would have been bloody furious.

You did the right thing

It might make him think twice in future

Good on you for telling him off, and good on her for backing you up

You definitely did the right thing - and the other mum sounds lovely too. Exactly the right, sensible attitude IMO.

It was definitely your place to say something. If my DS was being a little shit and refused to listen to me, I would fully expect someone else to tell him off if he was being a PITA to them.

YANBU buit why didn't the parent say something as well? You had been hit in the face with the ball.

Perhaps she thought you might sue!

No need for you to feel guilty, you were well within your rights to say something and it sounds like you did so in a controlled way which supported his parents. His parents don't have a problem with what you did so neither should you.

That kid was lucky it was you, and not me! I would have been furious, at he parent as well as the child.

Of course it was your place. At least the DC seemed to have sensible parents who realised that.

I wouldnt say it was controlled, i did shout at him in a not altogether controlled manner!
In all fairness to the mum, she didnt see it, i was standinf away from pitchside with ds2 and she was watching her other child so she was unaware of what was going on, which is why i told her that i had had words with him.

Feel slightly better now, is this a record for a unanimous AIBU thread

Just to repeat what has already been said, YANBU! I would have been livid.

YANBU, I think that you did really well in not swearing at him.

Disclaimer; I do not usually swear at children, but after the shock of being hit in the face I think I might have done!

YANBU - he did something he had been to told not to do and you got hurt. IMO he's lucky he was allowed to carry on playing.

It was your face so you had every right.

My issue would be to question why he was allowed to carry on playing.

YANBU at all. She had warned him, and it's not as though you swore at him or called him names. In fact I bet she's very grateful that you did it (although embarassed that you needed to).

Thank you all, he wasnt playing at the time, thry were messing about on the sideline.
She said 'he'll probably listen to you, always works better coming fom someone who isnt mum'. I know what she means. She is lovely and is not a mum who doesnt keep an eye on her children or lets them misbehave. Probably why i felt so bad

If my child was told twice by me to stop kicking a ball at other people, they did it again and it hit one of then, I would be mortified and it would be more than reasonable for the person to address my child directly and give them a telling off. I am all for keeping out of other's business most of the time, but if it hit you, it is your business and reacting in a snap way is entirely justified. Sometimes it does have more effect if they realise another adult is cross at them and that's not a bad thing, your friend sounds lovely.

YANBU I love it if someone else tells off my kids (if they have been naughty - not just randomly!), as the mum said, it shows it's not just mean old mum trying to spoil their fun and (sadly) they are much more likely to listen to someone else than me!

You were hit in the face, it was completely fair for you to protest directly to the person who did it, child or otherwise! Children need to learn that they need to behave as part of a community, and that if they kick balls in the face of people people will be very cross!

AS long as you didn't swear or threaten violence or use insults I think it's FINE!

No none of those!