I fell out a bit with a friend a few years back. She was in the early stages of a relationship with x, yet was still seeing y. She became pregnant and genuinely did not know the father, which was a large factor in deciding not to keep the baby (potential fathers different races, no chance of covering up!).See no longer saw y (he lived far away) and carried on seeing x. See told x about deciding to abort and he was great, paid for hotel room near hospital to avoid long journey home, train fare and also offered to stand by her. I felt it was very dishonest to take his money and put him through the emothional mill when their was a high chance it wasn't his so we fell out. She has a job and money so it wasn't out of desperation. She also waited so long for time off work (half term) rather than take a few days sick she had to have a surgical abortion, when they'd offered the option of an earlier (7 weeks earlier) date with a simple (well as can be) option of taking a pill to abort. He found those 7 weeks very rough emotionally plus ethically it seemed (to me anyway) a bit off. She said it was to avoid anyone gossiping about the reason for her absence (school wouldn't have asked her but she was worried about potential gossip).
No she's marrying x, and still hasn't told him. I don't think I can go and smile at the event and I feel like making excuses to avoid it. He's an arse imo but I don't think he deserves the lies. He has mentioned when drunk how any future baby will be their second.