to want 11 year old dd home before it gets dark?

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or am i being over protective and uncool?(her words,to which she was told she wont go out at all).
shes gone to her friends after school.she does this regulary if she has no homework.but now the clocks have gone back i want her home by quarter to five.theres not many street lights here.

aibu?

i realise theres more/bigger aguements to come as she gets older

if she is walking back by herself then yeah. thats what i say to my 11yr old.

It's going to be a very long and restrictive Winter for her isn't it?

Does she have a mobile and can she ring you as she leaves her friend's house?

If she goes to a secondary school with a schedule anything like mine then YABU because in December that will mean that she has to be home before the end of school, and therefore darkness is not a suitable way to decide the curfew.

My DS is nearly 14 and whilst maybe you aren't being unreasonable I certainly am. I still like him home before dark.

she finishes school at half two so she still has 2 hours to do what ever- 'hang'.
she does have a mobile.true

Yes. If she's at secondary school it may not finish until about 4 anyway, and there might be after-school activities (e.g. sports clubs, matches) she wants to attend. If you're uncomfortable with her making her own way home I think it's only fair to pick her up.

School at half two?? Good lord, things have changed.

My DS is 12 and he's at debate club now...won't be home until 5pm.

Mind you, the high road he walks along is still busy and buzzing with people.

Do you live out in the sticks OP?

yep kind of in sticks,its a 'market town' but not towny.

Not being unreasonable.

The way I look at it is there is roughley 10/11 weeks before it's light again at 5pm again and that's going to fly by. Of course I don't suppose an 11 year old would see it like that. Mine are only little but I know when they do reach that age I'd still like them in before it gets dark.

Can't help how you feel about these things.

The clocks go forward at the end of March, don't they?

2:30?

Mine's never home till 4:45 anyway. Luckily her best friend lives in the same quiet street as us and we can watch them come and go. If she's there later in the evening (sometimes after 9 on the weekend) even though its so close either I'll get her or friend's dad will escort her.

My daughter would love a curfew like that. Here we only get a bit of dusky sunlight for a few hours in the middle of the day. The rest of the time it's darkness like you wouldn't believe. Absolute total pitch black.

fantastic idea fidgety!

I'm a bit foxed by secondary school children finishing school by half two every day?

That's earlier than the primary school DD just started and DD2s preschool doesn't finish til 4...

What am I missing?

she starts at 8am.

Whereabouts is this? Is it a usual thing? I was (obviously naively) thinking that the DDs would be home later once they started secondary, not earlier!

They've gone continental. That's how it is here. Start at 8: finish around 2

Blimey.

So shorter hours than primary school then? This is coming as a bit of a shock!

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dont think all the secondary schools round here do it just that one.she was delighted starting secondary school and finishing earlier.

I think I will have to check out what the schools around here are doing.

I would want mine home.

11 is still young ...I don't think its a massive hardship.

In a few years ...the dark world can be all hers!

SQ - I don't think its the norm. DDs is 8:45 till 3:30 - AFAIK that's still about standard

Get her a torch if it's as dark as all that!