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To (almost) hate Facebook?

28 replies

April81 · 03/11/2011 12:52

when I started using Facebook, I did quiet enjoy tracking down long lost friends...but lately I feel it's turned into a 'self propaganda' machine for many who make it their life's mission to rub it on your face that ' I've jst made the BEST chocolate cake EVER!!!!!!!' of course with the mandatory pic of a gigantic cake or constant updates of 'OMG I'm having the BEST holiday EVER in FLORIDA!!!' or 'I've just had the BEST tapas in the whole of SPAIN' which is then followed by about 500 pics of people standing by random buildings which has some name board which spells out the name of the city.it's driven me to the point to cut some of those people from my life...AIBU??

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worraliberty · 03/11/2011 12:54

YANBU to feel that way

But YABU if you haven't closed your account and you still log in to read your friends/family typing that shit.

fuzzynavel · 03/11/2011 12:55

I only use it to snoop on my 13 year old son Grin

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 03/11/2011 12:55

YABU for letting fb get to you that much!

valiumredhead · 03/11/2011 12:59

If you feel like that delete your account - you sound like you would be happier if you did.

Thomcat · 03/11/2011 12:59

YYABU. If you don't like it - leave. What do you want people to do - go on to update their status to say how miserable they are? Why would you begrudge REAL life friends making great chocolate cakes and being chuffed or having great holidays and posting pics??? I say Cheer up or leave personally but I'm one of the those annoying happy types that like other people to be happy!

Kytti · 03/11/2011 12:59

Tell some lies about yourself and it'll be so much more fun!

"OMG - husband just bought us tickets for the opera in Rome next weekend - and he's arranged childcare!"

"Wow! Met Ricky Martin at my salsa class!"

;)

Tortington · 03/11/2011 13:04

i use facebook an extraordinairily huge amount of time at home, and i am wondering that myself actually, whereas before all these recent changes i was perfectly happy

DontGoCurly · 03/11/2011 13:08

I've deleted my account and it was such a relief!

I accepted friend requests from too many half aquaintences/ex colleagues/people who became frenemies etc over the years and then felt too awkward to use it as I didn't want half-strangers knowing by business so I got rid.

If I ever start another account I would be totally invisible and only have family and close friends on there.

I can't stand the verbal drivel on it. It makes me cringe the way people spill their every brain fart on it.

Thomcat · 03/11/2011 13:13

Bit like the Mumsnet really, esp the AIBU threads!

Clossaintjacques · 03/11/2011 13:17

Get rid of your account then. I know quite a few people who've done it recently and have suddenly got so much more time to do other things than get annoyed.

bigmouthstrikesagain · 03/11/2011 13:22

I used the settings to 'hide' all the updates from smuggy look at me updaters and now I enjoy FB again.

simples.

I have a large family scattered around the country (six siblings and assorted adult nieces and nephews), so it is a very useful resource for me - if you don't like someone then you don't have to friend them, if you don't want all friends to have the same access to your photos and updates then you individualise the settings to suit. One slightly awkward aspect for me is friend requests from parents of children in my childrens classes - though it can be useful to see what they are 'really' like, I do hum and haw over accepting requests and making them and I don't accept all comers.

ViviPru · 03/11/2011 13:31

Now I've 'hidden' posts from all of the primary irritators, very little actually goes on. Like others have said, I think it is a useful resource to keep up with people you would otherwise struggle to, and primarily share photos

I recently posted a hundred or so photos from our recent overseas trip, but not only did these come with a disclaimer/apology, they were posted unabridged at the request of the 8 friends we travelled with.

valiumredhead · 03/11/2011 13:38

I have 'hidden' loads of people - much better for it!

SpringHeeledJack · 03/11/2011 13:48

oh gawd I really don't like it

I only joined to spy on ds, and he doesn't even update his status

gah

I never look at it now, and am always getting emails from fb imploring me to go back on and look at all the updates I'm missing

Hmm
duckdodgers · 03/11/2011 13:50

Well FB is only as good as the people you are friends with it on at the end of the day.

SpringHeeledJack · 03/11/2011 13:56

I find that, since there are a lot of kids on mine and my friends' fb accounts, everything's a bit sort of anodyne as everyone's behaving themselves. these are people I have a huuuuge larff with in RL. On fb, alas no

give me the teen free zone that is Twitter, any day

Towndon · 03/11/2011 14:06

I don't see any need for FB, it's too much of a one-size-fits-all approach to keeping in touch with people. A short personalised email, or a phone call, is much nicer than reading generic updates :)

DougalDaydream · 03/11/2011 14:06

I deleted FB about a fortnight ago. Huge relief and I have hardly missed it at all. Try it....bet you don't miss it!

Towndon · 03/11/2011 14:06

... and I don't understand "it helps with keeping in touch with friends/family at a distance" because what's wrong with letters/email/phone?

bigmouthstrikesagain · 03/11/2011 14:20

Well in my experience it provides an opportunity to post photo's info once that many people (or few) can view at their convenience and comment on etc. I am also allowed to send photo's and emails and make phone calls as well I don't find it replaces them funnily enough.

ihatecbeebies · 03/11/2011 14:43

Yab a tad u to get so worked up, just hide posts from certain people if you don't want to delete your account. I am the opposite from you, I went through my friend list and deleted everyone that was too miserable, my facebook was becoming so depressing.

Trills · 03/11/2011 14:52

YANBU to dislike it, but YABU to come here and complain about it - if you don't like it then just don't use it, or hide the people who write annoying things.

headfairy · 03/11/2011 14:55

kytti I used to do that all the time after a conversation I had with a friend of mine about certain friends updates that were such blatant lies.

For months afterwards both of us updated our status with things like "just summited Everest for the fourth time... back to base camp for hot toddies all round!"

Oh how we laughed.

I guess you had to be there Blush

AwomancalledHorse · 03/11/2011 14:58

YANBU, I do like the feeling of power when I delete one of the fb smuggers!

I've just found out one of my friends has made a profile for her dog and updates it with things like 'Oooh, mummy thinks I'm a greedy guts for eating a whole leg of chicken'. FB has just got interesting again Grin

makemineamojito · 03/11/2011 16:18

Headfairy, that really made me laugh! Wish my friends' statuses were so interesting and amusing. Yesterday one of mine (well, not exactly friend, but an acquaintance who I haven't seen for 15 years) was putting out a call to see who on FB knew how to get stains out of her whites.

I have a love/hate relationship with FB. Great for stalking purposes and to see what my friends are up to, but I hate myself for checking the damned thing so much.