My partner told me over the phone on Monday that he has left me. Totally out the blue. Two weekends before he was raving about he excited he was to be going on the skiing holiday I had booked and paid for that previous month and how much he was looking forward to marrying me legally (had a commitment ceremony last year..long story!) so I really wasn't expecting it. I have begged for him to talk to me face to face but he refused and I have begged for a second chance and to try Relate but again he has refused.
He had not expressed he was unhappy at all. I have not been the easiest person to be around as I have quite bad PTSD from a very traumatic birth of our son, have had a General Medical Council hearing in regards to the birth held last month and also an ongoing medical negligence claim. Oh and he doesn't live with me during week as he is in army and I work two nights a week and a long day as well as look after our toddler so lots of stresses for me and very little sleep. I have not been the same bright bubbly person he first met.
So was I unreasonable to throw his clothes out (I did put them in bin bags and cover them in a tarpaulin so they wouldn't get wet) when I found a trip to the cinema and a hotel bill that I knew nothing about on his bank statement yesterday???? He seems to think I was, I think he is lucky I didn't burn it.
He also thinks he is entitled to half of any compensation I am going to get despite walking out while I am still sick. Plus he has not paid his half the mortgage this month and is saying he isn't going to.