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To have not known about 'baby diamonds'?

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SimulationStation · 01/11/2011 21:45

So apparently it's custom for a DP to buy DW diamonds for each child she has. I have not heard of this before? We have 2 children so should I be expecting (demanding??) sparkly shiny jewellery? I did mention it to my DP who didn't seem to know about it either! It's my fortieth birthday soon too. Maybe he could combine the two and I get a mahoosive sparkler? What do you think?
(who doesn't love diamonds?)

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JaneBirkin · 02/11/2011 07:13

Never heard of it and I got nothing.
not even flowers.
Zilcho.

My parents bought us a car to use which is far more useful, though...and years later I do have a ring with two, tiny weeny teeny almost invisible diamonds on it, which I sometimes wear but was so cheap that the other stones (non precious) rattle about and I'm scared of losing them when/if they fall out.

So in a way I like the idea, I got it myself to kind of remind me of my children.

ZonkedOut · 02/11/2011 07:18

I know some women tell their DHs people have a tradition of an eternity ring after having their first DC. My DH said I wouldn't get one because I got an eternity bracelet on honeymoon (we were in Dubai, so made sense to get it there). I didn't really follow that tradition anyway, though it might be nice to get one in the future, after 5 or 10 years.

I didn't get anything after having the DDs, it might have been nice, but I'm not a huge fan of jewellery. Having said that, some of the stories here are nice, and make me miss that I don't have a little something. Except that I probably wouldn't want to be reminded of the births anyway.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 02/11/2011 07:44

I don't know what I think of this really... I definitely don't agree with the concept that the woman has given the man a 'gift' by giving birth, what is that about? It's a child that both have decided to have.

I think it must be a marketing ploy, designed to make some women feel 'smug', that their partner loves them thaaat much and others feel as if their partner doesn't value them as highly because they didn't get a present.

On balance, I think that I find 'baby diamonds' mawkish. Some women seem to feel 'entitled'. Childbirth is hard but the baby is the gift really, for both parents.

wideawakenurse · 02/11/2011 07:53

I gave birth to DS 9 days before xmas and 6 days before my birthday.

I got a set of saucepans to celebrate all three joyous occasions from DH.

poorbuthappy · 02/11/2011 07:54

Lying, you've never met my kids!! Grin

diddl · 02/11/2011 08:25

I got tea, toast/biccies & a baby-twas enough for me!

Adversecamber · 02/11/2011 08:31

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LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 02/11/2011 09:01

poorbuthappy... Oh... Blush... have a diamond then, one for each. Grin

CheshireDing · 02/11/2011 09:16

I am still waiting for mine, our DD is only 4 weeks old today though so DH still has time to get me the eternity ring I reminded him of the other day.

I think it's a nice thing to pass on to your children later too. Might suggest earrings if we have another as hadn't thought of that :)

AKMD · 02/11/2011 09:47

It's not a tradition, it's a cynical marketing ploy thought up by De Beers and the rest of the exploitative, racist, foul diamond industry leaders to make you think that you need yet more expensive 'stuff'. The things I have learned about diamonds since DH and I got engaged have made me so angry that I refuse to wear my ring now.

MoChan · 02/11/2011 10:19

I didn't get ANYTHING. And in fact, I got gifts for others (my two step children so they wouldn't feel forgotten in all the baby fuss).

I have no time for diamonds, though, I have very cheap tastes. Grin

bessie26 · 02/11/2011 18:38

A few months after DD1 was born I asked DH where my baby ring was, he said he would get me one if i really wanted, but that he then wouldn't have any money & I might need to go back to work before my planned year off was up. He got me my favourite take-away instead!

We only had the kitchen done a few years ago so I may have to demand request a diamond studded hall, stairs & landing instead.

Tinsie · 02/11/2011 18:53

I'd heard of this, but had forgotten. TBH I couldn't care less for diamonds Blush

DoubleNegativePanda · 02/11/2011 19:29

I certainly didn't get diamonds, we could barely afford the parking fees at the hospital. I didn't get flowers or anything either, but he never left my side and slept in a chair next to my bed for three days before I was released, and advocated for me as I was out of my head on painkillers (hideous crash cs). He also went with dd when they put her under a bilirubin light in the nursery because I was convinced someone would nick her. In retrospect I am so pleased with him. I was too tired and in pain to actually appreciate his care until much later.

I want some diamonds now though, that would be nice!

PoppyDoolally · 02/11/2011 19:33

My DH brought me two presents in hospital day after three day labour. Ripen at home nectarines. And grapes.

So basically fruit I couldn't eat for a week. And fruit which seemed like a cruel joke given I had piles like A BUNCH OF GRAPES. Hmm

activate · 02/11/2011 19:51

birth of first child only I think

MoChan · 02/11/2011 19:55

Having just read back what I wrote, I am worried that it sounds like I'm saying "I was given gifts to give to my step children". What I meant was that I was the one doing the gift-buying, I bought presents for my step children.

And to be honest, I never really expected to get gifts for having a baby, from anyone. Though I did assume people would send gifts FOR the baby, which they did.

TaffyandTeenyTaffy · 02/11/2011 20:03

After 8 years of trying when DS was born I got, wait for it.......(drum roll)....
a hoover.... a bloody hoover.

A very nice, rather expensive, shiny red Meile hoover, but a bloody hoover nonetheless.

And, we are still married, and he still has all his limbs (the hoover is too bloody heavy to lift or it would have been over his head!!!!Grin)

He did however offer to buy me an eternity ring ..... a money no object, so possibly diamonds - but, sadly, 21months on I am still looking for "the one" (when I say that I do mean the ring - not the fella!!)

Towndon · 02/11/2011 20:05

Nice try from someone inventing this "custom", but I've never heard of this.

Funtimewincies · 02/11/2011 20:06

Dh got me a doughnut in the supermarket on the way home after having ds2.

Wasn't a ring one though Hmm. Bastard.

electricalbanana · 02/11/2011 20:10

i dont like diamonds...at all...

after DD1s birth i got a week in ITU

after DD2s birth i got a tupperware box of butties and two yorkies

i divorced him 7 years later

i think i am in the minority

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 02/11/2011 20:12

I'd rather Moissanite than a diamond, it's even more expensive and much, much more sparkly....

perplexedpirate · 02/11/2011 20:17

I had heard of this, and will be leaving this page open on the laptop.

DH, I will accept botox or a Kindle. :)

cairnterrier · 02/11/2011 20:18

Dh bought me a beautiful diamond and sapphire eternity ring but told me it was a maternity ring :) I loves DH I do

liveinazoo · 02/11/2011 20:21

my eldest sister got diamond n sapphire necklace after 1st born n that was 23yrs ago.more posh jewellry followed baby number 2 as hubby went work all day then came in cleaned up and cooked tea.could be an occupational thing though,he a bank manager.after i had my 1st darling daddy didnt buy me anything and ate chocoletes friend got me...no surprise we split up.ha h a