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To have not known about 'baby diamonds'?

156 replies

SimulationStation · 01/11/2011 21:45

So apparently it's custom for a DP to buy DW diamonds for each child she has. I have not heard of this before? We have 2 children so should I be expecting (demanding??) sparkly shiny jewellery? I did mention it to my DP who didn't seem to know about it either! It's my fortieth birthday soon too. Maybe he could combine the two and I get a mahoosive sparkler? What do you think?
(who doesn't love diamonds?)

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Dirtydishesmakemesad · 01/11/2011 22:13

Wow i went into smilie overload there...

doublechocchipper · 01/11/2011 22:13

I've never heard of this idea, and it seems horrible. Vulgar. I don't know why, but the image of a man paying a prostitute or his mistress comes into mind!

I don't want material rewards or trinkets for having our children. It seems like the sort of thing big business/the diamond industry would market.

Crass / inappropriate.

Fine to show appreciation and love to your wife - but a diamond as a reward for having a child - no no no.

Hardgoing · 01/11/2011 22:13

MrsRetchingBloodandGuts, I also got a pink balloon. Just what you need when you are trying to carry your precious baby out to the car for the first time.

25kilopumpkin · 01/11/2011 22:14

Agreed lovingthecoast it was only for ds1 2&3 no dice, and I bought my own wedding and engagement rings so just so there

Bellavita · 01/11/2011 22:15

No you didn't mention it, I was saying you needed them - it would be nice to have both

MrsRetchingBloodAndGuts · 01/11/2011 22:15

Thanks simulation, I need to change my name back now Halloween is over!

I think you deserve an iPad if you have dc, dp gave me one while I was pg as it was more comfy for me to MN lying down with it than sitting with my big laptop. He's very thoughtful really

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SimulationStation · 01/11/2011 22:16

CS I didn't say I expected diamonds. I just heard about this custom from friends of mine and I was just seeking opinion and experience of others. Do you fancy some wine? passes glass

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ReindeerBollocks · 01/11/2011 22:18

My mum bought me diamonds after the second child (DD was a difficult pregnancy) and it was a really nice, and unexpected gift.

DH bought me maternity pads (ran out) and lanisoh cream.

At the time I was much more impressed with DH's gifts Grin but I always look upon the jewellry and it takes me back to the day DC2 was born.

SleepyFergus · 01/11/2011 22:19

FFS Coldsancere, of course having a baby is the absolute. This is a light hearted banter about gifts, and I reckon most woman couldn't give a toss about them, the health and safe delivery of the baby will be paramount.

But If some DH or DP want to give a pressie then great, we'll not say no!

rhondajean · 01/11/2011 22:19

I think its a lovely tradition that men show their appreciation for what their partners physically go through by buying them a lovely present. I got a Raymond Weil watch with DD1 and a new front door which I had been banging on about diamond eternity ring with DD2. Its also two of about half a dozen times since we have been together that DH has bought me flowers - hes very romantic but doesnt like being predictable, however on both occasions my mother marched him to the local florist and told him he didnt dare go back to the hospital without a mahoosive bunch of blooms - and he does know when its not wise to argue bless him!

TeaOneSugar · 01/11/2011 22:20

I got a new mattress - DH didn't fancy sleeping on ours after my waters broke all over it - does that count?

:)

MrsRetchingBloodAndGuts · 01/11/2011 22:20

Yes hardgoing, I had to trap it in the boot but it kept trying to escape Hmm then the helium lasted for about 3 weeks so it just sat there in the corner of the room and of course I couldn't get rid until the helium had gone so altogether a bit of a pain really...

Lovely thought though, must remember that.

AnonWasAWoman · 01/11/2011 22:20

I don't care for it becoming a 'custom' ... do we really need more 'customs' to surround present-buying?

But maybe I'm just sour because diamonds do nothing for me.

Are you getting him something? A nice watch or something he can keep would be lovely.

doublechocchipper · 01/11/2011 22:21

I think its a lovely tradition that men show their appreciation for what their partners physically go through by buying them a lovely present.

See that's fine. I just don't like the association between such a valuable/prescribed gift like a diamond ring tbh. Presents, always nice. But the marketing stink of trying to tout something as "tradition" has always had my back up, I won't make any bones about it Grin

marriedinwhite · 01/11/2011 22:22

Diamonds? I didn't even get a bunch of flowers because it was Christmas day and the shops were shut! There was a brand new rugby ball and cricket ball at home for the three day old baby though when we got home - and they were put straight in the cot Grin

25kilopumpkin · 01/11/2011 22:22

I also want, but so don't need, an iPad or more dc's.

wigglesrock · 01/11/2011 22:23

ReindeerBollocks my mum has given me a piece of her jewellery after I've had each of my children, my dad has spent an awful long time making up for the fact that he didn't buy her something after she had me Grin.

Its nice, none of its very dear but its special and my dad has better taste in jewellery than my husband Shock

Bewilderedmum · 01/11/2011 22:24

Well - after ds2 - ex-dh gave me - a voltarol suppository up me arse.

To clarify ex-dh is a GP, and after birth in the delivery suite, the midwife came round with a voltarol suppository. As a nurse, I assured her I could give it to myself. Only - when I reached down there, after a long labour, ventouse and episiotomy, there were no familiar landmarks - it all felt like roadkill.

"Dh?" I said wonderingly ... - "someone has replaced my bits with minced beef, and I can't actually locate my own arsehole anymore..." he snapped on some gloves and did the job...

Not diamonds as such - but hey!

Am not a fan of jewellry - but I wouldn't have minded some new snow boots...

Lisatheonewhoeatsdrytoast · 01/11/2011 22:25

I didn't get fucking diamonds Angry

Nr death experience here too, so really a bracelet full would have been acceptable Grin

Tho i would accept an Ipad, I'm not fussy that way me Wink

I do have an eternity ring, i got it before we were married tho Hmm

25kilopumpkin · 01/11/2011 22:25

And I can't even sneeze without weeing half the time I really deserve my lovely diamond, which i can't wear at mo because I caught it in stupid pushchair and bent the -snigger- shank

BarkisIsWillin · 01/11/2011 22:31

Would a (ethically sourced) diamond studded iPad cover all eventualities?

25kilopumpkin · 01/11/2011 22:33

Wine I can handle a lot of diamonds personally without complaint. I went to an exhibition about them a few years ago at the V&A and they closed it 3 days later because of a "plot" to nick them Blush

bringmesunshine2009 · 01/11/2011 22:35

DH promised me a new designer handbag for DS1, an ipad after DS2 and big diamond earrings for anniversary.

As I, 2 years on, hoist my placcy bag onto the handles of the buggy, I realise there is no ipad to be seen and my ears seem remarkably light today.

Pffff. Consumerist, americanisation crap so jealous of other ppls wealthy and generous husbands who recognise the marvels their wives perform and back up that realisation with cold hard gifts, no need for compliments if showered with diamonds, bitter as don't get either harumph

MrsRhettButler · 01/11/2011 22:49

Absolutely pmsl @ bringmesunshine's placcy bag!

MrsRhettButler · 01/11/2011 22:52

Now that's just tacky barkis, like something Jordan would have had given her by Peter! Grin

Although simulation may be the tacky type... Who am I to say? Wink