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AIBU?

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Original poster

To be pissed off that OH has spent 3 days doing nothing but playing a fecking game??

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MummyTo2MonkeysAnd1Bug · 31/10/2011 17:18

Battlefield 3 was released friday.

OH has been spending every waking hour - even eating meals playing on the PC, with a pair of headphones on so he is completely oblivious to what is going on around him.

3 DD's have been ignored, shouted at by him if they speak to him, and iv been left to do basically everything, all the cooking, cleaning, childcare, he even had me making snacks for him lastnight whilst he played this game, inbetween watching the one TV programme i enjoy, and trying to pacify our youngest DD who has a chest infection - my stupidity in thinking he may get a grip and get off there if i did!

He is now complaining of a headache, and i basically said if he didnt spend so much time playing in the pc he may feel better. His response was to tell me to 'shut up'. When i replied that it was unfair he was spending all this time playing a game and generally being selfish i was told to fuck off!!

AIBU? Or does the pc need a trip out of the window?

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justaboutstillhere · 31/10/2011 17:19

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Swankyswishing · 31/10/2011 17:19

YANBU. He is a selfish arse hole

grovel · 31/10/2011 17:20

Leave the bastard. He might not even notice. I hate those f***g games.

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MummyTo2MonkeysAnd1Bug · 31/10/2011 17:20

justaboutstillhere
Not actually sure... mug/idiot i guess i thought the novelty would wear off soon!!

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squeakyfreakytoy · 31/10/2011 17:22

I would be telling him he either grows up, or fucks off, to be quite honest.

Three days is two and a half days too many.

Swankyswishing · 31/10/2011 17:23

Is he normally this selfish? Does he normally do his share of caring for his kids and household duties?

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MummyTo2MonkeysAnd1Bug · 31/10/2011 17:23

grovel I dare say you may be right... i dont think he would bloody notice!

He's always been a gaming enthusiast but he has taken it to a whole new level! Im bloody knackered. Sad thing is the realisation that i dont actually miss his company...only his help..

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mitziw · 31/10/2011 17:24

i certainly wouldn't have made him snacks!

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MummyTo2MonkeysAnd1Bug · 31/10/2011 17:25

Swankyswishing

He is into computers/gaming big time but he's always been a great help with the kids, occasional housework up until this!

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SuePurblybiltFromBitsofCorpses · 31/10/2011 17:27

Seriously? He does that and speaks to you in that way? How on earth are you putting up with being treated like that?
I'm amazed you're not much, much angrier.

zipzap · 31/10/2011 17:28

Tell him it is his turn to do three days of absolutely everything in the house and that it is your turn to be waited on hand and foot.

If he complains, ask him why it is ok that he is able to have 3 days off while you are not...

Sad at realisation you've had - guess you are feeling that too.

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MummyTo2MonkeysAnd1Bug · 31/10/2011 17:29

SuePurblybiltFromBitsofCorpses

He's a fantastic dad. That is the only reason i can give.

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IneedAbetterNickname · 31/10/2011 17:29

My SIL hid in the wardrobe once, to prove to her DH that he wouldn't notice if she was there or not!

bushymcbush · 31/10/2011 17:30

Unbelievable. What a fucking twat.

My dh loves his playstation, and when he has a new game he does spend a lot of time on it and it does piss me off - but it's his OWN time, after the dc in bed. He also cooks every night and does all sorts of other little household jobs which always come first.

Family comes first. Always. If your oh doesn't think so you really need to consider his position within your family.

bushymcbush · 31/10/2011 17:31

Some 'fantastic dad' who SHOUTS at his dd's if they dare talk to him while he's playing a game.

MonstrouslyNarkyPuffin · 31/10/2011 17:34

Does he work?

SuePurblybiltFromBitsofCorpses · 31/10/2011 17:35

Fantastic Dad? Who thinks it's OK to shout at or ignore his children and tell their mother to 'shut up' and 'fuck off'?

It sounds like he's either a total knob or has some problems regarding gaming and being unable to control his reactions - some kind of addiction perhaps?

mumatron · 31/10/2011 17:36

My dp was out at midnight to buy this game. saddo

To be fair he is a sahd to 3dc and he does all the house work and cooks most nights.

He did spend more time than usual on there friday but I was off work. He's bathing dd and will put her to bed before getting back on there.

You need to have a serious talk with him. He's taking the piss out of you.

eaglewings · 31/10/2011 17:37

It's time to book a weekend away and leave him in sole charge . . . . but take his computer games with you :)

Maryz · 31/10/2011 17:38

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Kayano · 31/10/2011 17:39

My BIL bought the game but his pc was so bad he needed a new graphics card and power unit... And thus spent over £250 to play a game....

DH is only like this with wow and will book a week off to play. I don't mind as long as he sorts washes and cleans after himself

KatAndKit · 31/10/2011 17:39

YANBU it is fine to play computer games for fun and relaxation but ignoring your family for three days is ridiculous. An afternoon on it here and there is one thing, but doing nothing else for three days and then being really rude to you when you complain about that is not on.

I bet you couldn't decide to just absolve yourself of all responsibilities for three days and leave it all to him could you? So why would it be ok for him to do that. Does he have gaming addiction ishoos? If so you need to have serious words.

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BertieBotts · 31/10/2011 17:41

Yes sorry, how is he a fantastic dad if he shouts at his DDs for trying to talk to him? Angry

DP is a gamer and plays with headphones at times. Often he has headphones on when DS is in the room. DS isn't even his child, and DP would only ever ignore him if he was tantruming, even then (or at other times e.g. DS meant to be eating dinner or in bed) he would never shout at him for trying to speak to him.

Neither would he play the game to the extent he refused to do his fair share.

BTW, "helping" with the kids and doing the occasional bit of housework is nowhere near his fair share.

Sorry to be so harsh :(

CurrySpice · 31/10/2011 17:44

I wouldn't want to know anyone who told me to fuck off :(

That's no acceptable from anyone, let alone the person who is supposed to love you above all others :(

And a agree with Bertie about "helping"! Grrrrr!

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