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To be pissed off that OH has spent 3 days doing nothing but playing a fecking game??

56 replies

MummyTo2MonkeysAnd1Bug · 31/10/2011 17:18

Battlefield 3 was released friday.

OH has been spending every waking hour - even eating meals playing on the PC, with a pair of headphones on so he is completely oblivious to what is going on around him.

3 DD's have been ignored, shouted at by him if they speak to him, and iv been left to do basically everything, all the cooking, cleaning, childcare, he even had me making snacks for him lastnight whilst he played this game, inbetween watching the one TV programme i enjoy, and trying to pacify our youngest DD who has a chest infection - my stupidity in thinking he may get a grip and get off there if i did!

He is now complaining of a headache, and i basically said if he didnt spend so much time playing in the pc he may feel better. His response was to tell me to 'shut up'. When i replied that it was unfair he was spending all this time playing a game and generally being selfish i was told to fuck off!!

AIBU? Or does the pc need a trip out of the window?

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cjbartlett · 31/10/2011 17:44

god I feel so sorry for your kids especially the one with the chest infection

I can't believe you made him snacks

ScaredBear · 31/10/2011 17:47

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stepawayfromtheecclescakes · 31/10/2011 17:52

sounds like me on MN Blush seriously though op this is way over the top, time for a chat I think.

manicbmc · 31/10/2011 17:52

He sounds a catch Hmm

I like my gaming. Dp likes his gaming. But life comes first.

IwoulddoPachacuti · 31/10/2011 17:54

What an arse! Can't believe men who think they can get away with this. Fair enough when the kids are in bed but for 3 whole days??

SnapesMistressofFear · 31/10/2011 18:00

That is disgraceful, treating you and the children with such disrespect!

How does he find the time? Does he work?

Brynn · 31/10/2011 18:04

No, not on at all. DH and I could both be described as gaming enthusiasts, but since our DC arrived, neither of us play them until both kiddies are in bed.

Your OH sounds like he might be having some addicition/self-discipline problems if he thinks it is alright to shout at or ignore his family while playing.

Fleurdebleurgh · 31/10/2011 18:09

I spent 4 days playing WoW solid last christmas. Bad muvva.

manicbmc · 31/10/2011 18:11

I do like a spot of WoW Grin but my kids are nearly 17. I'd never have got away with more than a few hours when they were asleep when they were little.

Gingefringe · 31/10/2011 18:11

What is it about some of these games that turn grown men into complete morons?

My 13 yo DS has some games and I've noticed that he definitely becomes more aggressive after he's been on them for a while.

It's not acceptable for a father of three DC to completely ignore everything about your family life for three whole days while he plays with his new toy, then becomes aggressive towards you all when you speak to him. You need to have a serious chat with him.

lassylass · 31/10/2011 18:12

Cut him some slack - hes probably waited for the game to come out all year. Playing it with such intensity will kill it for him soon enough anyway.

Just tot it all up in the you-owe-me book and get some payback when he snaps out of it.

An intravenous drip will prevent further headaches.

Rhubarbgarden · 31/10/2011 18:12

I feel your pain Angry.

The last time it got really bad, I hid his Civilisation disc while he was at work. After a week of turning the house upside down and not finding it, he just went out and bought another one. However, he had learnt his lesson a bit and toned it down after that.

I still think it's a gross waste of time but comfort myself with the thought that there are more dangerous addictions.

balia · 31/10/2011 18:15

Playing a game?

Is he 9?

WhereYouLeftIt · 31/10/2011 18:33

I would take a breadknife to the disc.

Seriously, you should not put up with that. And he'd at the very least have fucking starved during those three days if it had happened here. You do know you facilitated his behaviour, don't you?

Squitten · 31/10/2011 18:43

If my DH had spoken to me like that, his PC would have been smashed into teeny weeny pieces.

The fact that you allowed him to do that for 3 days is beyond me. And you made him snacks...!

picnicbasketcase · 31/10/2011 18:45

I think you need to start ignoring him completely. The snacks have to stop, do nothing for him whatsoever until he stops being such an utter fuckwit.

ThoseArentSpiritFingers · 31/10/2011 18:49

In 11 days i will be doing the same, because skyrim comes out. cant wait.

Luckily OH is as obssessed with the elder scrolls games as I am (he introduced me to it in fact so probably more so) so we are both excited, and have no children, so no responsibility in that sense.

I am going to lose a LOT of hours to that game, and cant wait! SQUEEEEEEEEE!

Ephiny · 31/10/2011 18:54

I don't have a problem with adults playing computer games, not something I'd want to do, but don't judge other people's way of relaxing! But - he's a husband and father and that means he has responsibilities, i.e. his share of the household chores, looking after his sick child...

What would happen if you just decided you were going to take no part in family life for 3 days OP? I assume you would not have that luxury!

Also it's absolutely not on for him to tell you to shut up or fuck off Angry. Not acceptable at all. Does he often speak to you that way?

Moomim · 31/10/2011 19:11

DO NOT provide snacks!
wait 'til sleeps then remove fuse from PC plug.

DH likes to be an elf occasionally for hours at a time even when it's sunny a while, but he'd not talk to me like that and if DD was poorly he'd not ignore her. Your mister needs to buck up his ideas, but seriously - do not provide snacks!!

LittleMissFlustered · 31/10/2011 19:49

It is surprisingly easy to snap a CD...

SkinnyWhiteBoy · 31/10/2011 21:11

YANBU
As a man who enjoys his computer games - my DW and DD come before anything. My gaming is generally restricted to when they're asleep.
He needs to grow up.

leelo · 31/10/2011 21:17

my dh loves to play on the ps3. but only does it when kids are in bed or on day off and kids at school/nursery. i think its a good thing. he doesn't go out with mates or drink and he's upstairs if i need him. i think your oh is just excited about his new game and has went overboard. so once he's being reasonable talk to him about the effect his gaming is having or the pc will get parental controls to stop the parent.

leelo · 31/10/2011 21:19

my dh loves to play on the ps3. but only does it when kids are in bed or on day off and kids at school/nursery. i think its a good thing. he doesn't go out with mates or drink and he's upstairs if i need him. i think your oh is just excited about his new game and has went overboard. so once he's being reasonable talk to him about the effect his gaming is having or the pc will get parental controls to stop the parent.

leelo · 31/10/2011 21:19

sorry about double post

bibbitybobbitybloodyaxe · 31/10/2011 21:20

He is addicted and needs treatment.

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