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To have thrown the turkey at MIL?

78 replies

BunWrapper · 30/10/2011 20:19

Had mil around for lunch today and at the same time I was preparing tonight's dinner. She kept looking at the turkey and said she wouldn't mind taking some home for her tea. No problem, I went to prepare some for her. She then said "actually..." and then stood there staring at it for a few minutes. At the same time I'm trying to cook dinner, prepare lunch and watch my 2 year old ds. She follows with "I do have some sausages in so maybe I won't bother." I said ok and went to put the turkey down, she then said "oh actually, it does look nice - hmm I can't decide!" so I said "well do you want some or not?" she said "yeah go on then!" so I go to prepare it again only for her to say "oh you know what, don't bother, I'll have the sausages". At this point there is a big crash i the living room, DS starts crying and mil said "no I WILL have some, do you want me to do it whilst you see to DS?" so I said "yes" and tossed the turkey to her and ran after DS. Moments later the back door opened and closed and MIL had left!! DH called her later to find out why she just walked out and she said it was because I'd thrown the turkey at her and it upset her. I told DH that she was faffing around, being awkward and deserved to be turkeyed. However I've since apologised for saying that (although secretely did mean it). So AIBU for losing patience?? this came 15 minutes after the "shall I or shant I have egg with my salad?" conversation so she was already on thin ice.

OP posts:
BlondeBatgirl · 30/10/2011 20:36

Grin Grin Grin

picnicbasketcase · 30/10/2011 20:36

She sounds rather odd, tbh. Anyone who can't make a simple decision without it taking ten minutes, does indeed deserve a damn good turkeying.

Selks · 30/10/2011 20:37

Classic Mumsnet thread! Brilliant. Grin

Oh and, were you unreasonable? Nope.

FIFIBEBE · 30/10/2011 20:37

I will adopt the phrase from now on. Just fantasising about who I would like to turkey. My mother is currently organising Christmas lunch and making it hugely complicated "meat from the butcher, veg from M&S but not potatoes which need to come from Morrisons, Christmas pudding homemade by her (rank) but who will make the trifle? Blah blah blaH - SHE MAY BE TURKEYED.

mumnotmachine · 30/10/2011 20:38

Sounds like it was a shame it wasnt still frozen............

onepieceofcremeegg · 30/10/2011 20:39

Sounds like she had spent most of the afternoon dithering and trying to provoke you. I'd have been tempted to shove a drumstick somewhere tbh.

Yes as someone else said, you must STRESS you threw it to her, not at her.

tinkghoul · 30/10/2011 20:42

I'd have gone back and chucked the stuffing at her as well [hgrin]

Haberdashery · 30/10/2011 20:43

Fantastic. YANBU, not least because you have given me a really good laugh. Was it a whole turkey? I must say I'd quite like to throw a frozen one at my MIL sometimes.

HecateGoddessOfTheNight · 30/10/2011 20:45

I'd have done the same. I can't stand bloody ditherers.

MAKE A BLASTED DECISION! Angry

ChippingInAutumnLover · 30/10/2011 20:46

We need answers to judge properly Grin

drowninginlaundry · 30/10/2011 20:46

christ on a bike that is funny! I can so vividly imagine the scene!! Grin
I read it to DH and he is rolling his eyes

ChippingInAutumnLover · 30/10/2011 20:47

I don't actually - she's just bloody lucky she didn't end up doing a Mr Bean with the turkey!!

Secrecy · 30/10/2011 20:49

Brilliant! YANBU. There was no reason for her to get in such a flap Grin

GalaxyWeaver · 30/10/2011 20:50

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aquashiv · 30/10/2011 20:50

Brilliant
Alhtough I am too slightly disappointed this wasn't a story about a frozen turkey being launched at a deserving MIL after years of pent up anger.
YABU I would have given it to the dog.

FrankNCock · 30/10/2011 20:54

The first time I read it through, I imagined the OP had chucked the turkey backwards like a rugby ball whilst running to attend to her DS. And then OP came back to see the door open and the turkey on the floor where MIL had failed to catch it. Dunno why, but that really tickled me!

Hungrydragon · 30/10/2011 20:58

I think the clue is in "tossed to" which is not the same as "thrown at"....however at least she tossed off Grin

I cannot believe you apologised and she didn't.

Haribojoe · 30/10/2011 20:58

YANBU

I would love to "turkey" my MIL, preferably with a frozen turkey Grin

BleedyGhoulzombiez · 30/10/2011 21:12

What a fantastic thread! Your MIL is a wazzock, btw!

Troisgarcons, what's wrong with eating turkey, fgs?

mynewpassion · 30/10/2011 21:14

Funny as it was though...wondered why didn't you just set it on the table/counter?

I would've been annoyed with the dithering. However, I would've made a unilateral decision and just packed her some and said that she can take it home and if she decide later to not eat it, she can throw it away. Problem solve.

Avantia · 30/10/2011 21:16

Would love to throw a turkey at my MIL - but then she is a 'vegetarian ' Hmm - when it bloody suits her that is Angry.

I would make sure it was suffed aswell - the turkey that is - not MIL ...but on the other hand ...Grin

SnapesMistressofFear · 30/10/2011 21:21

I think DP would love to do this to his DM, sadly I am as bad as she is in decision making so he can't win. Grin

Proudnscary · 30/10/2011 21:23

Who actually eats turkey except for on Jesus's birthday?

Anyhoo, I absolutely love 'turkeyed' and for that reason alone YANBU.

Whatmeworry · 30/10/2011 21:23

Tell her you can't decide whether you threw the Turkey at her or to her :)

weblette · 30/10/2011 21:25

Yanbu but just be glad it was turkey and not some other fowl... Imagine if you'd goosed your MIL...